Tickling and Sex

[juliogo]

Hello everyone! This is my second post 🙂 I've introduced myself in the first one 🙂
I have a question for you all. This is something that I really want to know. How much is tickling important regarding your sex life. I mean, can you be turned on and date someone without any tickling at all? Or do you use it as a foreplay? What I really want to know is: how is for each one of you the relashionship between sex and tickling in your life? Can you be satisfied with tickling but no sex with your partner?
I hope you dont find my question ofensive.
Please respond!!! 🙂 Thanks!

 

[LD_Tickler]

Hello, and welcome. I feel like I should tell you that this is one of this question is one of the most basic and frequent themes on this forum, so if you really want tonnes of answers, you can go back through old threads for more discussions.

Now to answer...

For me tickling represents a way to dominate and objectify, which, for my deviant tastes, is what I need to have satisfying sex. There are other ways to create that tone in bed, so I don't necessarily need tickling, but it's my preferred method.

I can be turned on by and date somebody without any tickling at all for a while, as long as there was some other way to engage in the dynamic of control and objectification. I really would miss tickling though; ultimately, it could become a problem.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I'm sure I *could* be with someone without tickling being part of the relationship, but I don't plan on ever finding out for sure 🙂

 

[Love2DayTrade]

I'm going to be the first to say that I need tickling. To be honest I really don't know as I've ALWAYS been able to incorporate tickling into a relationship. The couple of girls that I've been intimate with who weren't very ticklish would tickle me and that was enough to turn me on. I'm really not sure if I would enjoy intimate moments if a girl wasn't ticklish or hated to be tickled and didn't like tickling me.

 

[Mz Chaos]

For me it depends on the situation.

Unlike the majority here... tickling for me isn't a fetish... it's an intrest. I love it... I enjoy the sensations it causes... but to me tickling is tickling and sex is sex.

Now... if I know it is being used as foreplay and the tickler keeps his touch light, yes... I can get into the mindset that this is going to lead into sex and my body will react accordingly. Otherwise... it doesn't do a thing for me but just feel damned good.

I had a session once that lasted for hours... and I do mean HOURS... and I can't speak for the 'Ler, but although I was having the time of my life and enjoyed every damned second of it, and the even though the 'Ler was good looking, I wasn't turned on a bit.

Even though it isn't a turn on... it is something in my life that I enjoy so much that it needs to be included, something that I don't want to do without, and something that would be genuinely missed should it ever disappear.

 

[rhiannon]

Tickling is a big turn-on to me and I only want it with a partner that I would also want to have sex with.

I do not NEED it to have sex though, I can very well live without it, it's something special to me, like icing on the cake! 🙂

And I can also be tickled without having sex. Yes, it will turn me on, but it's pleasurable even without sex, just in itself.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

For me tickling can either be casual or erotic, it is not either here or there, it can be both. Casual and friendly and lighthearted fun tickling can be for me with friends and with aquaintances I just met after a trust level and comfort level is established and with my hubby tickling is not casual but is indeed very erotic and can be very sexual for me. Tickling is a major turn on for me. However I don't have to have sex when tickled. When I tickle friends or friends tickle me-keep it casual and lighthearted-not sexual, still tickling is exciting and a turn on but not erotic and not sexual. However in the right mood and right context w hubby-very erotic and very sexual and a total turn on. That is what tickling and sex is to me.

For me I don't got to have tickling incorporated with sex however it does greatly enhance and does greatly help with keeping things exciting and fun and always fresh and new and wonderful and amazing. It totally adds a element of thrill and excitement to it! So while it is not necessary and I can just have sex for sex, tickling added to sex as foreplay and added w element of sex totally rocks and a must!! That is my view on it.

 

[TheEvilTeddyBear]

I've never had a relationship with someone who was open enough to try the tickling play, so I can tell you that I can certainly get turned on and have sex without it. It's entirely possible, but missing something...

 

[Ghris]

I don't need tickling to get off.

However, it's definitely something I enjoy doing.

I've had a couple of relationships with people who have enjoyed tickleplay, whether sexual or casual/flirty.

 

[TicklesFemales]

I for one love tickling a ticklish lady period whether or not sex is involved during or after the tickling makes no difference to me, just purely tickling a ticklish lady who is very ticklish is satisfying to me. But hey I am a guy and if the lady I am tickling wants sex during or after the tickling I am up for it.....LOL Its just not what I am looking for when I meet a lady to tickle.

TicklesFemales

 

[Viden]

Well, as for me, I don't necessarily NEED it all the time like that. However I have realized through experience that I do need to be with someone who's into it as well (preferable), or can at least accept it for every so often.

I've only been in 3 relationships, and I seem to find those that hate tickling and won't try it or anything After my last relationship however, I decided that, the girl in the relationship needs to at least accept and understand my fetish for tickling. My last girl friend and I broke up eventually after 2 years, because she said she understood, but truly did not understand, as I discovered that it bothered her, and she was never honest with me, as we grew apart cause I knew and she would be honest about it

I think it is different for everyone in all reality. Another factor for that would also be, how accepting your other half would be, weather or not it's a fetish, just an interest, or a like. As for me it's a fetish, and is part of my life in that manner, as I've never actually had that in a relationship, I'm unaware of how that would change it as of yet. Maybe one day I'll find out, as for now I'm not worrying about it

To each their own...

 

[secretticklee]

i think id want both lol sex is good for foreplay tho but i dont think id b happy without the sex aspect, nor without the ticklin so i guess i want both

 

[Sanhael]

Once, with an ex-girlfriend, I enjoyed a session of D/s where she was extremely submissive. It was the only time I've ever climaxed without thinking about, or involving, tickling, at some level (however little... and it's usually more like "a lot.")

I actually came out of said session feeling confused, and a little scared, wondering what was so wrong with me that I needed an unbelievable extent of submission (like, a literal God-complex level of it, including deity-figure and insignificant-speck role-play on my part and hers, respectively) to be turned, on without tickling playing a part.

Every other time I've ever... ahem... "gotten off," whether by myself or with somebody else, tickling was directly and significantly involved.

Oddly enough, I have had a few thoroughly un-erotic, non-sexual tickling sessions, even with a 'lee to whom I wasn't attracted, that were nonetheless very enjoyable. So, for me, it's essentially necessary for me to get off (unless you want to build me a pyramid, or something, apparently), but not necessarily sexual in and of itself.

Figure that one out, and I'll ask you what medications I need 😉

 

[Rupert]

Great questions

Although i dont NEED it

I tend to incorporate tickling in to every sexual situation i can
mainly cuz its fun to turn vanillas into lees 😀

 

[NonConTickler]

I am much more interested in tickling a woman's feet than having sex with her. Of course after tickling I do need a release. What I think would be the ideal for me, would be to tickle a girl's feet, masturbate on her feet, then roll over and go to sleep.

 

[Lea28]

It matters...

Ticklesex is wonderful; I need and love it! I feel sexy, vulnerable and even high when tickled during oral and intercourse. And tickling back is a great feeling too!

Lea

 

[b0xr]

Tickling almost always precedes sex and also almost always concludes sex. I rarely tickle my wife during sexual intercourse or simultaneous with penetration because she doesn't like it. Not until after she's had her orgasm, do I start my snakelike motions to pin her arms above her head. Then wrap my legs around hers to prevent movement and make her very vulnerable to being tickled. Once she is totallt in control then I usually start very slow and then increse the tickling as I go. I love the look she gives me...the "I want mercy look". She knows that she's going to be tickled and mercy is somewhere down the street. Happy Endings are the best !