Tickling and SEX?

[mmafankennylee]

Hello Forum,

I'm into tickling (mainly feet). However, this has caused some problems for my sex life with my girlfriend. We've been dating for about 11 months, and she knows I like feet, and tickling, and even this forum. However, I can't seem to get into the mood for sex unless feet or tickling are involved. Recently, my girlfriend got mad at me for kissing her feet more than her.

SO.... My question to you all is:

CAN you get in the mood for sex without getting your fetish involved?

If you have a girlfriend/spouse, do you still watch tickle videos?

I know that my tickle fetish is a big part of me, but if its going to keep me from having a healthy sex life, then I'd rather shut myself away from anything tickle/feet related.

What do you think?

 

[Raptor]

I think this is a question a lot us can relate to, especially me since I'm a foot guy also. Many of my gf's and my ex wife were either not that ticklish or hated to be tickled so I compromised by giving killer foot massages and sneaking a tickle here and there, which would sometimes lead to sex, and this satisfied me for a while but not totally, since I've always loved to have tickle sex and still do. It can be a struggle and for some, like anything else, you're born with this and it seems to be ingrained in you, so shuttering yourself totally from it might be hard but if you really care for the person, than you can find a compromise or common ground so you're both happy and feel satisfied. As far as vids, I've never watched them with anyone but myself, even gf's I've met on here. They'd rather just do it than watch it.

One funny thing you said is that "Recently, my girlfriend got mad at me for kissing her feet more than her." as if she's jealous of her feet. Good luck.

Now back to our regularly scheduled tickling...

 

[Maestro1874]

Yes, I can get excited without tickling. It's better with, but I don't have to have it to get off.

 

[Phineas]

I know that my tickle fetish is a big part of me, but if its going to keep me from having a healthy sex life, then I'd rather shut myself away from anything tickle/feet related.

What do you think?

There are two kinds of fetishes. There's the kind where you can function normally, and it just adds a bit of spice to your life. Then, there's the kind that's all-consuming, and causes you difficulty. Sounds to me like you have the latter kind.

You're going to get a mixed bag of answers as to whether people can have a healthy sex life without indulging their fetish, because it's going to depend on whether the people answering have the first kind or the second kind. Even if they do have the first kind, their preference will be to incorporate it into their sex lives as much as they can, not ignore it completely. Even if the majority of the people who respond answer "I have the first kind", that doesn't mean that people don't have the second kind, or that there's something wrong with you if you do.

For you, the solution is not to cut off your nose to spite your face and completely amputate this part of yourself. It is, instead, to seek counseling as to how you can strike a better balance between meeting your partner's needs as well as meeting your own... and perhaps re-balance your own needs a bit so that you can ease into first-kind territory.

Good luck!

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[Jerzeys23]

yea well the thing is all you have to do is think about tickling her feet, you will get aroused that way just while your kissingher or whatever think about it.