Tickling and torture

[SantaFeSwitch]

I take your points about framing the fetish, but for me it's rather different. A lot of people in my life are aware that I'm into BDSM, but almost no one knows about tickling. I'm much more cagey about it, and would be horrified if it were to become common knowledge. It's my own narcissism attacking me.

Why is that?? That's fascinating to me for a number of reasons. It seems to me tickling is relatively tame and harmless compared to hard core BDSM so why the bashfulness with tickling but not BDSM? It seems similar to the often repeated observation that people on the forum, esp. 'lees, are exceptionally shy about revealing their identities. And also the fact that the tickling fetish isn't taken seriously by most of the BDSM community--the last time I checked ALT.com they have a search category for every imaginable fetish under the sun...except for tickling. wtf?

Are these all related? what is it about tickling that's so embarrassing when other fetishes aren't?? I really don't understand this.

 

[arcma]

It is amazing how many of the BDSM types "run for the hills" when the word "tickling" is mentioned.
In my divorced and available days, I tried more than a few times hooking up via the BDSM scene but ticklers were all outcasts.
Funny how some of these people will put up with [extreme] torture but not tickling.

We need more relentless men-ticklers out there.

 

[rhiannon]

Maybe because BDSM is pretty well known today, while tickling isn't. Or maybe it is because a lot of people think tickling is silly. Maybe some people are afraid of being considered "uncool" or a nerd...Highschool Trauma! 😀

 

[Amanda Cortez]

Lol, I think that there are more ppl than you believe who like tickling. And there are also a lot who know it as a fetish. Otherwise there wouldn't be so many producers. And it also seems to be well known in the BDSM scene. In many videos they use it too as a kinda torture.

 

[rhiannon]

I don't think there are that many people who are into it. People contact me via messenger quite often, and usually all they are interested in is sex, so they ask pretty quickly what I like. Not once has one already heard about tickling! Not even if they are active in the BDSM scene! Most of the time they don't even understand what I mean, the conversation goes like this:

"So what are you into?"
"Tickling!"
"What do you mean, tickling? With the tongue?"

EVERY TIME THE SAME SHIT! It's like people don't know what the hell tickling is! 🙂

 

[Amanda Cortez]

Awwww ...that sucks. Lol, I block everybody who contacts me on a messenger. With the tickling I don't share your oppinion. I mean a lot of ppl don't think of sex when they do it, but you see it pretty often that somebody gets tickled. So I think they like it.
And as a kinda torture it's not as well known, but as I said, there are a lot of vids where the victim gets tickled a bit. Juz look at hogtied.com or other companies

 

[rhiannon]

I met my husband via Messenger, so I tend not to block people. 🙂

Of course everybody KNOWS tickling, but as you said, not as a fetish.

People who are in the video business will of course know it as they inform themselves about the market to see what can be sold.

 

[naughtylucy]

Why is that?? That's fascinating to me for a number of reasons. It seems to me tickling is relatively tame and harmless compared to hard core BDSM so why the bashfulness with tickling but not BDSM? It seems similar to the often repeated observation that people on the forum, esp. 'lees, are exceptionally shy about revealing their identities. And also the fact that the tickling fetish isn't taken seriously by most of the BDSM community--the last time I checked ALT.com they have a search category for every imaginable fetish under the sun...except for tickling. wtf?

Are these all related? what is it about tickling that's so embarrassing when other fetishes aren't?? I really don't understand this.

It's not so much to do with being embarrassed, as feeling vulnerable. Tickling is much more personal for me.

In the BDSM scene I've encountered folk who've never heard of it, or who have and regard it as a bit soft, or who have and regard it as intolerably painful.

I met my husband via Messenger, so I tend not to block people. 🙂

Of course everybody KNOWS tickling, but as you said, not as a fetish.

People who are in the video business will of course know it as they inform themselves about the market to see what can be sold.

You met your husband via Messenger? That sounds like a Meg Ryan film!

 

[Amanda Cortez]

I think in all S&M games you feel vulnerable and that's what makes so much fun.

 

[rhiannon]

You met your husband via Messenger? That sounds like a Meg Ryan film!

Trust me, it wasn't nearly as romantic. 🙂

 

[Amanda Cortez]

Aww ...*huggies* ..But at least now it's good