Tickling and Trust Issues

[ParanoidChant]

Alright, so tickling has been theorized as being a form of building trust, especially in the early stages of life. It can help children learn to trust parents, siblings, friends etc.

The opposite happens when sexual contact is experienced early in life: it can make creating interpersonal relationships difficult, let alone the host of other problems it can cause.

Now, sexuality tends to blossom in puberty, but the precursors and foundations of it develop early on in life. Paraphilia, though its origins still murky, can definitely start to develop early as well, as witnessed by the many testimonials on this website alone.

So my question to you is: would someone who develops a tickling fetish early on in life be more likely to suffer from trust issues later on in life?

 

[rhiannon]

I don't see how one thing has to do with the other! I would say the other way around....if I let someone tickle me, I need to have very deep and thorough trust with the person!

 

[Cavum]

So my question to you is: would someone who develops a tickling fetish early on in life be more likely to suffer from trust issues later on in life?

My tickle fetish have been in my memories for as long as I can remember. The first thing I really remeber was from I was around 7 years old. I watched a cartoon where a girl was tied and tickled. I remember my whole body tingled, but I had no idea it was a sexual feeling since I was so young. I also had dreams about tickling during the night. So it have been there all the time. But I can't say I have suffered from trust issues later in life because of it. I have had trust issues, but that happend because I trusted people to much in my younger days.

 

[Carsomyr]

Nah, I don't think it's related. Granted, I have had the fetish for my entire life and kinda do have some trust issues... Those come from being burnt later on in life though, so I can't see how tickling could possibly have played a part in it.

 

[DimpleToes]

I say the two go hand in hand.. your so vulnerable when your bound and tickled.. so of course you have to trust who your playing with.

 

[Jason Reborn]

My story of how tickling became a fetish is very similar to Master Cavum. I too had seen a cartoon where someone was tied and tickled and I felt the same kind of tingling feeling all over my body and have had dreams of being tied up and tickled soon after seeing the first tie up and tickle cartoon...the difference is that I was 6 years old when it happened. And I don't have trust issues because of my tickling fetish at such an early age, I had trust issues after a certain event in my life that would be deemed too graphic and would go against the "no posting anything tickle-related with minors in it" rule and I don't feel like getting in trouble. Just know that a friend of the family picked me up from school but didn't take me directly home....

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Alright, so tickling has been theorized as being a form of building trust, especially in the early stages of life. It can help children learn to trust parents, siblings, friends etc.

I've never heard of this theory before-- I'm not sure I understand where the correlation is between tickling and building trust while young?

 

[LD_Tickler]

I've never heard of this theory before-- I'm not sure I understand where the correlation is between tickling and building trust while young?

It had the opposite effect for me. When I was tickled as a kid I took it as a huge, cruel violation of trust. To this day I still hate being tickled, and it's no doubt that association between tickling and violation that makes me like to do it to others.

 

[solescratcher99]

Trust issues develop from previous life experiences. Specifically, someone taking advantage of something that person feels vulnerable and insecure about. It doesn't have anything to do with a certain kind of sexual activity (excluding rape and child molestation).

Trust issues are also more likely to be positively correlated with things like paranoid personality disorder, borderline personality disorder and negativistic personality disorder. These are largely schema based and sometimes trauma based disorders, and very rarely you'll read a psychology book or hear a psychologist say "if this person has XYZ sex, we need to look into that since it will help alleviate their issues with trust". I mean, even if they did say something like that, they'd probably be laughed at by their colleagues since no evidence has really supported anything with "Freudian undertones".

If someone develops trust issues as a result of their sexual activity, a psychologist/counselor/psychotherapist would usually look at their perception of that sex act (and probably sex in general) instead of concluding the sex act itself is the cause of trust issues (excluding rape and CM).

Also, you can cure the trust issues without taking away the person's sex life (paraphilia based or otherwise). That in itself should prove trust issues have little to do with any form of sexually.