tickling as discipline

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

I found an article here from a parent who thinks tickling is a good way to discipline your child..
http://www.parentdish.com/tag/tickling/
The spanking debate has been duked out repeatedly and will probably continue to be waged so long as people keep having kids. There was the California lawmaker who tried to ban it, but it seems that folks around here see it overwhelmingly as discipline rather than abuse. Me, I'm against it, but that's mostly because I'm very anti-violence.

Cathy Sorbo, a Seattle, Washington stand-up comedienne and mother, is on the non-spanking side as well and has written a column for the Seattle Post-Intelligencer on the matter after a woman was arrested for abandoning her newborn baby near a church in the middle of the night. More than just opposing spanking, Sorbo offers an alternative: tickling.

"You can carefully and skillfully overpower your child and inflict torture in a dominant fashion," she explains, "but instead of crying and fear, you will elicit shrieks of laughter." She notes, also, that there are disciplinary advantages too -- "you'll find your child to be more receptive to your concerns after you have both had a good giggle."

I don't know how effective a method of discipline tickling would turn out to be, but it sure seems a lot healthier and happier than spanking. As Sorbo says, "Laughter is healing. Spanking is not."


So,what do you guys think?

 

[chilled_bones]

At first, I was thinking that making our fetish discipline would result in a lot more people disliking it, but then I thought about how many adults enjoy being spanked.

I think that, as long as its a light-hearted punishment for a light hearted crime then that's fine. If your kids are cowering in fear from being ticked, then that's not so good, for us or them.

 

[ticklysoles]

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[U.N.Owen]

This woman sounds like a sadistic nut. She turns to tickling cause it doesn't leave marks... but she still wants it to be domination and torture. She's warping play into pain and calling it good because tickling can be play. Sick.

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

This woman sounds like a sadistic nut. She turns to tickling cause it doesn't leave marks... but she still wants it to be domination and torture. She's warping play into pain and calling it good because tickling can be play. Sick.

What he said.

 

[MaxDragon]

Very bad. Not good. I ran into a few women who were tickle tortured so badly as children (mostly by older brothers) that there was no friggin way they were going to agree to let me tickle them. We can't allow tickle discipline to turn people against our fetish.

 

[Frost King]

Yeah i'm against using tickling as a punishment its should be used for fun not for punshment thats what i think.

 

[melanie2]

I am so against parents tickling their children..just seems weird to me..

 

[taragohn]

I think this is weird to us because we also have other should I say feelings with tickling
I wonder what none tickling fetishist say about the subject

I don't really know what to think of this really. I think physical abuse against children is just plain wrong. Although sometimes children might be really behaving bad violence is not the answer.

But to say this woman is a sadistic nut goes to far in my opinion. Hurting a child has a much more powerfull impact on children even when it is only for a few seconds.

 

[Sir Bombers]

Totally agree with everyone here... I don't necessarily like spanking for punishment and would not encourage it to anyone...

But tickling is definitely a bad idea... Something that is meant to be a playful and social bonding experience turning into a means of disciplinary punishment would completely tarnish the activity for everyone... and like everyone is saying, might be bad for all of us on TT and for any other future members as well.

and here's the thing that might be flawed with using tickling as discipline anyway.

Not everyone, child or adult is ticklish... so when the child does screw up and isn't ticklish, now what?

You're left with a bad seed who you can't spank or tickle! 😀

 

[P[a]pi]

Against it for kids.

 

[juanmiller]

Fantasies of tickle punishments are all well and good, but in reality tickling should only be consenting, in my opinion. Forcing anyone, especially a child, who doesn't want to be tickled is creepy at best, abusive at worst.

 

[Stage Whisper]

I personally don't see the problem with a spanking if it's used very, VERY sparingly. I was only spanked once or twice in my childhood, and each time I did something I really shouldn't have and knew better. I learned quickly.

On to this topic, I think it's pretty sick... and not due to my own love of the act. It's because this woman is remarking on "torture". Since when is ANY torture EVER okay to use on a child? It's just another potential way to abuse a kid, not teach them what they need to learn. So no, I don't think this is any better as a discipline, especially if the woman quoted is the one doling it out.

 

[Relent<]

if you have a spanking fetish, i think its weird for you to spank your children. Likewise for a tickling fetish.
I mean, the act itself isnt inherently sexual, but I just dont see myself doing it if I ever had kids. Then again, I've always believed in the "bump your own damn head" theory, where you set a simple array of core boundaries and let the kid screw up until he can figure out what's right and what's wrong. It's one thing if he ask you, but another if you impose.
Then again, I was raised rather "laisez faire." but so long as you have core etiquette and "thou shalt not kill/mame/injure" you should turn out ok.

 

[Celerich]

Personally, no problem against spanking, but that's a little off topic. Tickling on kids was never intended as a punishment of any kind. At all. It can be USED as one, as i'm sure some people here can attest to, but for a child, it should be a fun, playful thing to do, not a means of punishment. I have fond memories of tickling as a child. Hell, I played "Tickle tag" with two of my family friends. Generally, one to three spanking in the life of a kid is all it takes. From that point on, they won't usually be disobedient, at least in my experience.

Anywho, point is, fetish or not fetish, tickling is not a Goddamn torture punishment for kids. That is my 2 cents.
-Joe

 

[drew70]

I was in elementary school in the 1960's. I've personally experienced tickling as punishment by both baby sitters and believe it or not, school teachers. I personally can't view tickling as violence. To me, it is the antithesis of violence.

Having said that, I do agree that excessive tickling at some point crosses the line into the realm of cruel and unusual punishment which...if you think about it...applies to virtually any means of punishment for the sake of discipline.