Tickling for life, not just for Christmas

[Gentle_Ben]

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[robmic]

You have start with a good relationship, that's half the battle. Then you can gently introduce them to it. It's no guarantee, but sometimes it can work out. Nothing is for sure in life.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

I've been thinking about buying a denim jacket & getting 'Tickling for Life' across the back of it.

Yep.

 

[3xPIN]

I am always thinking like that. I think it is just the way I am.

 

[stockytickler]

I met my bf on a tickling site. It's such a huge turn-on for both of us and yeah, I'd like nothing better than to just wake up next to him and tickling each other all day until we both pass out giggilng and happy, all day, every day, for the rest of our lives. And as soon as he's able to move up here we aim to try doing just that 🙂

 

[Mane'o]

Experience (and I'm 60 so I've been around the block a few times) has shown me that any one dimensional relationship, whether that one dimension is tickling or knitting or cooking or anything else, usually ends up poorly if it lasts at all. On the other hand, full multifaceted relationships of which tickling might be just one aspect, have a much higher rate of happiness and longevity. I am in a wonderful, committed relationship that includes tickling but note relationship comes before tickling.

 

[stockytickler]

OK, but that gets to the problem that has come up in /other/ threads, which is ... ok, now I've got the relationship and it has been perfectly for exactly 30 days, so ... how do I initiate The Conversation? -- which has tended to be the brick wall. You've invested the time, you've gained each other's trust and intimacy -- and all this time you've wanted to tickle her, but you didn't want her to think you're just a big weird perv -- which let's face facts, fellow fets, we essentially /are/ comes down to this topic -- and her reaction is "Oh, honey, I love you like a strawberry ice cream sex sundae and I love it when men hold me down and tickle the bejeezus outta me, but I should warn you that it makes me lose all control of my bowels, sorry. Hope that's not a deal breaker ... oh hey, a wine list!" It's almost safer to risk the one-dimenstional relatioship. right thre! 😀

 

[Mane'o]

But you don't "have" the relationship if it falls apart when tickling is brought up. And if you are seeking something long term then 30 days or 6 weeks or a couple months is nothing. And if tickling is your deal breaker and the person isn't going there at all, move on for the sake of both of you. However if tickling is the número UNO for you in any relationship then life is likely going to be very unhappy for you on the relationship front and you might want to tame your tickle jones just a tad.

 

[b0xr]

I've been with the same woman for almost 35 years (married 28 yrs.) and tickling was not a part of our relationship for probably the first half of the relationship. She had no interest in tickling at all and I was the one with the fetish. Now, at the beginning of our relationship there was no internet so I thought my fetish was something I had alone. I didn't tickle her for many years. One night I suggested to her that I tie her up to put a little spice in our sex lives. She agreed. At first it was virtually all teasing. I would include some toys such as a vibrator, a string of beads, and a feather. She really enjoyed being teased. At one point I tickled her ribs and she went nuts. She asked me not to tickle her and I asked her what she planned on doing about it. After some pretty brief and harmless tickling and some really long teasing, she was hooked on being tied...That was my IN. I incorporated tickling into our play a little at a time. She came to the realization that she really enjoyed having her feet tickled which pleased me immensly.
Little by little she started to enjoy being tickled and now almost 30 years later she enjoys the whole thing almost as much as I do. We were having sex last night and during, she asked me when the next time I planned on tying her up. We had some tickle talk during and we both had a great 0. After she looked at me and said "If this is how we came just talking about tickling, imagine how we'll be next time you tie me up". So the next chance we get we're going to have a Great session and I can't wait.

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

I think robmic summed it up nicely. It will also be harder for the 'ler if the 'lee is either ticklephobic, overly judgemental or not ticklish. It would seem shallow to bail on a relationship just for lack of tickling, but each of us would have to weigh that in light of the positive aspects also present.