Tickling Philosophy... Why?

[mch5]

Did you ever think about "Why do I have this fetish? Why do I love to tickle/get tickled so much?" ?
I don't mean it in a bad (or good) way, but just to "try" explaining it to one's self.

for example,
I love to tickle because its like "forcing her into happiness AND submission".
ofcourse the laughter is false and not real happiness. as much as I know, its a real torture (I can't stand being tickled) and it can even do real harm. also, its not a real submission.

and yet, just watching a woman armpit being tickled, makes me hot as a lava! 🙂
this "forced submissive happiness", which is played out only in my mind (I could never do it), is a powerful thing!
and... in my day by day life, I'm in a very "weak" position (long story). this might explain the why.

so, do think I am an Evil Psycho Tickler, now? 🙂
(if not, wait for my next post)

 

[TickleMyFancy]

I love to tickle because I love power.
I felt powerless as a kid in a lot of areas, and tickling my friends made me feel powerful and I would get surged with adrenalin.
As I got older it became sexual for me, and I added bondage and teasing to intensify the power I like to feel in the bedroom.

And also, tickling is just all around fun. I even know a few vanillas who like tickling/being tickled 🙂

 

[mch5]

but...

first,
you are really cute 🙂 (if that photo is yours)

now,
but if its all just about power, wouldn't BDSM/Pain games be more "logical"?
(yeah, the word "logical" is not the right one)
may I ask why did you feel powerless as a kid?

 

[P[a]pi]

I have this (and many other) fetishes cus I was born this way. Aka I have a mental defect that makes sex not my primary physical activity with females. I'm an extreme case though. Plenty of lers and lees like sex more or just as much. Or even if they like sex less, they still really like it.

 

[BellybTickler]

I've come to the conclusion not to question things that bring me happiness in my life.

 

[TickleMyFancy]

first,

but if its all just about power, wouldn't BDSM/Pain games be more "logical"?
(yeah, the word "logical" is not the right one)

I don't like pain. Pain freaks me out. I think that's why I like tickling. I'm forcing them to show me happiness, even if it's not really how they're feeling.

 

[kj.pixie]

As a lee and general submissive, for me it's about the loss of control/power. There's a rush of adrenalin caught up in being helpless and vulnerable. Also it's just plain fun! 🙂

 

[Freethought]

I do think the philosophy/psychology behind kink is interesting to explore. If I understand Fancy correctly, my interest falls along the same lines. It is about playing with Power and Control. While a hardcore BDSM kinkster might explore the concepts of control, power, and submission through pain...many of us can explore the same power dynamics with tickling.

I think this is also why "playful tickling" or people who aren't that ticklish doesn't hold the same appeal for me. To really explore giving and taking control, I like bondage of some sort or another and a partner who wants to be tickled/tickle to the point of giving up/taking control.

 

[mch5]

well,
as I said before, for me, it's a some sort of extreme power but it's not about the control, not by itself.

as the Evil Psycho Tickler, my fantasy is...
---<outside of reality>---
living in a world where everybody is immortal,
just for me to be able to tickle women, over and over again and beyond their limits...
to the point that they can do nothing but laugh silently.
and then, the sex begins!
----<back to reality>----

anyone called the police yet? 🙂

 

[Raytheon]

Funny how this fetish - the happiest, most fun, of them all - has been eroded over the decades by the BDSM scene until the boundaries between the two are now blended. You cant find a BDSM scene anymore that will allow tickling because its "pathetic and stupid" and you cant find a tickling play space that isn't overrun with people who want to back hand you across the face and hurt you. Everyone is trying to out 'Extreme' everyone else and its killing the fun aspect of the fetish. The Philosophy has changed.

 

[Mane'o]

Tickling by its nature gets into control and loss of control, intimate touching and lends itself to explorations of bondage and covers the spectrum from innocent play and teasing to total torture. Those of us who frequent this site are somewhere along that spectrum of those who embrace some aspect of tickling as ler or lee or both in a more substantial way than the rest of the world. I think there is a lot of tickling that goes on by people who would never dream of visiting a web site like this.
Tickling can be a wonderful, deeply erotic exchange between lovers or a wild, fun way to have innocent play or can be a deeply serious sadistic form of abuse.
From time to time rampant rants erupt on this site between the consensual and nonconsensual tickle factions.
There is sometimes a tendency for some who spend a lot of time on tmf and other tickle related sites to get a skewed view of the world or to let their tickle desires color all things. Not every woman who dangles her shoe on her toes is teasing and taunting the foot tickling fans among us. Not every person in bondage is a potential ticklee. The "coming out" of being into tickling is often more of an issue in the mind of the person with the tickling fetish than anyone else. Some of us spend way too much time looking for the merest whiff of a tickle or possible tickle or anything remotely associated with tickling in the popular media or elsewhere in our daily lives. This can verge, or absolutely become, an obsession no less than any other thing or act that people can become obsessed with and that can become pathological and dangerous.
But for the majority of us, tickling adds a special spice to life and hopefully we find friends and partners with whom we can share this delightful human activity. With any luck we can engage in it openly - at least with partners - and in a positive, non-coercive way that simply fulfills our lives but doesn't rule our lives.
I've been into it all my life and have had multiple satisfying, full relationships that included tickling. I'm currently married to a woman with whom I can say with a smile that we are both tickled pink sharing.

 

[Coda]

I think fascination with all of eroticism derives from the idea that, even though you have your own consciousness and will, it's possible for other people to make you do certain things (and therefore, possible for you to make other people do things). This is like what mch5 and TickleMyFancy mentioned, but even more basic. Because it's so general, I've found myself intrigued with a variety of erotic sub-genres -- so many seem to stem from it.

The only "cure" I've found is learning about the body, the brain, and biology in general; the more you learn, the more you realize it's natural to be controllable, and that are consciousness and will aren't as binary or fixed as they seem. But that isn't necessarily a fact supported by intuition, and ignorance of it -- even temporary ignorance -- can be a wonderful maze in which to be trapped.

 

[mch5]

I'm not convinced yet.
of course, in my fantasy the ticklee is tightly restrained, which is a kind of control but if that is the case.. why don't I think BDSM is hot? or if being unmoral, rape? Why can't I stand the idea of hurting someone? after all, that is total control!
so, I don't think it's about control in my case.
am I so different?

what about the reaction itself? the laughter, the false happiness that is forced upon the ticklee. alot (if not most) of ther ticklers like their 'lees tied lightly so they can move much and squirm away. I think this is a part of the philosophy.
its some kind of an interaction, mostly.

 

[Dakine]

Maybe its the idea of you driving someone out of their mind without giving them pain. Though you could argue that tickling can be painful to some. If any marks are left behind, they aren't as destructive. Its something so simple that causes so much reaction. Tickling is a nature of its own. Some people are just born the way they are. No offense to anyone, but I'm glad I'm not asking myself something like, "Why do I enjoy having someone use my mouth as a toilet!"

 

[SadCuzNotTcklsh]

I always wonder why somebody like me has this interest but has been cursed to be less ticklish than a brick....

 

[mch5]

I like your reply, Dakine. there might be something to it 🙂

 

[TickleVisitor]

I can't say I thought about it too much. There's just something about seeing a ticklish girl restrained and helpless that I find very intriguing. Seeing the finger(nail)s moving on the skin, gang tickling, reactions, etc. is something I just find very facinating. Maybe it is the idea of [tickle]torturing someone without the pain like Dakine said.

 

[SX10]

It's definitely the power play! Being in power and dominating but also making sure your partner experiences it in full. You're in charge of their body and you get to treat it as you wish. The tickling aspect also comes down to just knowing that your causing such great and sexual reactions with just a touch - that's an amazing feeling. The way they move under you is great and a good laugh is just the sexiest thing to hear. It's joyful as well so I guess it always feels happier. Plus I know the sensation myself and it's appealing 😛