Tickling: Sexual vs. Non-Sexual

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I know that something like this has been brought up before on this thread but I'll ask about it from a different angle, well I think so anyway. As for me tickling can be sexual and non-sexual but for some people it's strictly sexual. While chatting with some people in the TMF chatroom and for those who are on my Buddy List who also have AIM or AOL, I would ask them if they tickled their siblings. Some of them said they didn't because tickling for them was sexual and it would turn them on.

This leads me to my question. For example if you into tickling and were married and had children, could you control whether tickling turns you on depending on who you were tickling? Life if you were tickling your spouse it would probably turn you on and could lead to sex. However, if you were tickling your child, could you control whether or not it turned you on? I would think that tickling a child wouldn't be a turn on because it shouldn't be because it's a child and should therefore be playful and innocent. Hey, I am just asking.

 

[marcusb]

Goes either way for me. With adult females depends on what we're doing so it could be sexual or non-sexual.

With family (cousins and such) or friends kids it's just fun and in no way arousing.

 

[Michael514]

O.K, I'll try and give you an answer. so follow me along. When I was 5 years old I was constantly tickled on my feet bu both parents and varios family members. That is where I got my tickling fetish especially for women's feet. Not to get to personal, my wife isn't in to feet or tickling. Sometimes I would tie her up and tickle her feet and get turned on and have great sex or she would use tickling on me. She would tie me up and tickle my feet to turn me on and then climb on me. While we were having intercourse she would tickle my armpits so I would buck and jump. The sex was fantastic.
Now to be honest with you as far as children, and I have two beautiful sons,10 & 13 years old, I don't tickle them or get a urge to. I don't know why it is, but it's how I feel. I also have female neices, about the same age as my boys, and my in-laws are always giving them little tickles on their feet. They beg for more when they stop,and this is not arousing at all. However when it comes their mother, my sister-in-law, I have ticked her feet and I can see she loves it and is aroused by it just as I am, but that it as far as that goes between us. So yes for me tickling is a sexual turn on. Whether I tickle my wife's feet or she tickles mine. 😎

 

[tcklishredhed04]

I think any normal human being would probably be able to restrain themselves, but a Catholic Priest? Probably not. BURN!!!!!!!!

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I have no problem keeping things seperate. For me, tickling is primarily non-sexual to begin with. I enjoy it mainly as a means of sharing affection with friends. But, there are times when it can be a turn-on. Those times are reserved for Drew. If anyone else is tickling me and I begin to get turned on, I have them shift from the spot that's getting me going or simply end the session. I simply don't desire to persue that angle of things with anyone else.

Ann

PS - I wasn't going to say anything. But, I think the priest comment sucks...especially since it doesn't answer the question. There's a much higher ratio of parents, siblings, teachers, etc. who abuse kids than there is priests. Don't condemn the 95% who are truly good men because of a few assholes. (And, FYI, this is coming from one who was abused by a priest.)

 

[Vae]

Goes either way for me. With adult females depends on what we're doing so it could be sexual or non-sexual.

With family (cousins and such) or friends kids it's just fun and in no way arousing.

Perfectly worded.

Tickling is a turn on for me, sure. If someone I like tickles me, or if my fiance does, for instance, it's an instant turn on. I'm aroused and wanting more. When it comes to friends and family, tickling feels very different. With friends, it's fun playfulness and the sensation, for some reason, seems to deaden a little bit. My friends can't beat my endurance so if there's going to be a tickle fight, I'm gonna win! (or so I like to tell myself) With family, it's not that enjoyable. I hate, hate, hate it when my mother tickles me; it feels awful. But there is NO arousal involved. It goes along the same lines as kissing: you don't get a boner from kissing your mother, but you would from the girl with the really nice ass.

 

[DungeonMaster]

As you might imagine, tickling is definitely a sexual thing for me. Tickling a pretty girl is an immense turn-on for me and if you want proof check out my latest video just released last night on www.DungeonMaidens.com
(shameless plug....sorry but I couldn't resist).

 

[Illtcklu]

I know that something like this has been brought up before on this thread but I'll ask about it from a different angle, well I think so anyway. As for me tickling can be sexual and non-sexual but for some people it's strictly sexual. While chatting with some people in the TMF chatroom and for those who are on my Buddy List who also have AIM or AOL, I would ask them if they tickled their siblings. Some of them said they didn't because tickling for them was sexual and it would turn them on.

This leads me to my question. For example if you into tickling and were married and had children, could you control whether tickling turns you on depending on who you were tickling? Life if you were tickling your spouse it would probably turn you on and could lead to sex. However, if you were tickling your child, could you control whether or not it turned you on? I would think that tickling a child wouldn't be a turn on because it shouldn't be because it's a child and should therefore be playful and innocent. Hey, I am just asking.

It always depends on the HOW! A child would be a "how" in your example! Tickling is always" play" no matter what! Just like tying someone up, as children it was innocent like playing cops & robbers but as you get older you see more posiblities! With a wife(g/f) tickling would be more "fore play"as opposed to " play"! So I think a definate difference is in the approach from the beginning! 'Lers' are not always turned on by tickling even though we sound like it on the forum!! 'Tickling' as an action itself is not the turn on for us it has alot to do with teasing. So look at it like this:

I can tease a child, and an adult, two completely separate ways still enjoying both forms. One is completely childlike with pure innocense the other is more sexual but still really quite innocent itself!!!

 

[Hiryu]

Tickling is mainly sexual for me but, sometimes it can be used to pick at people. Sometimes when I feel like picking, I'll poke a family member in the belly or ribs but, not often because I don't like the way it feels when they try to get me back. With friends it's different though. If a friend tickles me as a joke it just feels normal.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I really like the responses so far. I think some people I've talked to they have trouble separating how they feel depending on who they're tickling. In other words, some people who I've chatted with in the chatroom and who have AOL (who are on my buddy list) get turned on by tickling or being tickled and with them it doesn't matter who is tickling them or who they're tickling.

 

[Illtcklu]

I really like the responses so far. I think some people I've talked to they have trouble separating how they feel depending on who they're tickling. In other words, some people who I've chatted with in the chatroom and who have AOL (who are on my buddy list) get turned on by tickling or being tickled and with them it doesn't matter who is tickling them or who they're tickling.

Really good questions Jen! Gave me something to think about! I was wondering if 'lees' always find tickling a turn on even if it's a child whos doing the tickling? Most 'lees' I've talked to say tickling is not always a turn on! Is there anyone who would say that it always is a turn on to be tickled?

 

[aerotech]

Tickling and being tickled are a turn on to me without a doubt...
However, I am a father to a beuatiful 5 year old girl, who
I love more than anything in the world.
Honestly to me, (and I hope I don't offend anyone or anyone take this wrong)
but... the thought of an adult actually getting turned on from tickling or being tickled by a child is absolutey chilling and extremely distrubing!!
Of course I tickle my daughter!! And she laughs and says "Daddy stop"..
But does this is by no strech of the imagination the same as with my wife..
I do however believe that foot and tickle fetishes are often developed during childhood from actual real situations as in my case with a Cousin and Aunt.
Just my two cents....

 

[Avenger314]

For me, there's a 'switch' that controls the wiring in my brain that I can alter between 'turn-on' and 'playful fun' at will. Even if a tickling session (with a friend I don't see sexually, with younger people) isn't going to turn me on, it is at the minimum a good deal of fun for me (much more fun than it would be for normal people).

I did mention a switch. I have no idea what the 'default' setting is, but I have an unpleasant suspicion it'd be turn-on. Now, it's not that huge an issue. If I keep my hand on the junction switch and keep it pressed towards 'fun,' I won't get turned on. It's handy if I get roped into a ticklefight with kids (I worked with kids a lot in my past, and off-and-on these days). I daren't take my hand off that switch, though--it's not something i want to experiment with, even once.

That said, if I ever wind up having kids, it's highly likely that I may go my whole life without tickling them. First, I would know my own mind better than my wife would know my mind--I may know I'm safe, but there may be that kernel of doubt in her head if she saw me tickling our kids. (on a side note, it's creepy talking about having a wife and kids, seeing as how I'm only 24 and just barely restarted casually dating). But I digress. Another thing is that in my own mind, I'm 99.5% sure that if I tickled my children, it'd just be playful fun and they'd enjoy it to.

Those odds make me sick to my stomach.

It's a .5% chance, true, but it's a risk that's still there, with life-shattering consequences. It's not a risk worth taking just for some harmless playfulness.

Anyway, that's my own mind.

 

[CaptainQuantum]

I would have no reason to tickle anyone I was not sexually attracted to. That's how sexual it is for me. Its like that scene in Pulp Fiction where Samuel L Jackson and John Travolta are talking about whether a footrub is sexual. Jackson says its not, and then Travolta says "when was the last time you've given a man a footrub?" Classic scene from a classic movie.

No sexual attraction = no tickling. Tickling = arousal. For me, anyway.

 

[Illtcklu]

Tickling and being tickled are a turn on to me without a doubt...
However, I am a father to a beuatiful 5 year old girl, who
I love more than anything in the world.
Honestly to me, (and I hope I don't offend anyone or anyone take this wrong)
but... the thought of an adult actually getting turned on from tickling or being tickled by a child is absolutey chilling and extremely distrubing!!
Of course I tickle my daughter!! And she laughs and says "Daddy stop"..
But does this is by no strech of the imagination the same as with my wife..
I do however believe that foot and tickle fetishes are often developed during childhood from actual real situations as in my case with a Cousin and Aunt.
Just my two cents....

Alarming! Yes it is alarming thats the point I'm trying to make!! Think about this areotech; Are you turned on by hugging? If so does that mean you can't hug a child without being turned on? I think it's all on HOW it's being done! 'LERS' ARE NOT CHILD MOLESTERS! They are normal people with a tickling fetish. Do people with foot fetishes get turned on looking at a childs feet? I think not even though feet are the fetish it does still depend on HOW!

 

[tickler29]

Goes either way for me. With adult females depends on what we're doing so it could be sexual or non-sexual.

With family (cousins and such) or friends kids it's just fun and in no way arousing.

Exactly, it depends on the situation.

 

[Metrion]

I guess it's both. Like, the thought of it gets me going, but I view it as something that's very fun to do without sex involved for a lot of the time, not to say that sex isn't fun, of course.