Sunriseticklee
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This is just my own personal observations and thoughts about couple play and how tickling is presented online in kink spaces versus how fun and engaging it can be in real life.
I've notice that outside of cuckolding, couple play just isn't highlighted and celebrated as much in some of these spaces, so much so that when I have spoken to some members about it, it seems they think that couple play is essentially a sex thing where a man watches from the corner while a S.O. is tickled and screwed.
Couple play isn't often requested where both S.O.s are a part of the conversation, negotiation, and vetting processes. Oftentimes, I get contacted by just a man. And when I state that I really want to hear from the girlfriend or the wife, the man grows cold or distant. Sometimes the man is offended. And almost always, the conversations end when I say I want to talk to AND get to know everyone involved. This is so common that I read a thread that asked if there are real couples where the wife is the one in the lead. Could the wife be into tickling and has gotten the husband into it? A woman taking the lead was so uncommon that he questioned the validity of it as if it could neven happen.
However, when I have engaged with couples either as a single switch or within a couple myself, it has always been very enjoyable. There are so many ways to approach it that do not include cuckolding or even sexual play at all.
All things are fair in love and tickling with careful communication and negotiations. of course. So if the tickling involves the sexiest, raunchiest play... to each his or her or their own! Go for it. No tea! No shade! (Well, I mean... mostly no tea.) HOWEVER, if you are avoiding playing with couples for that reason, not all couple play steers in that direction.
I approach couples tickling like a tag-team! When I am invited into a couple's space, hopefully they have done the pre-work to ensure that they know that this is fantasy and fun, and I won't do anything they both don't want to do. Both voices are important and valid. We don't have arguing. I prefer not to play when there is jealousy or where anyone feels left out. For me, it should be empowering and fun for everyone! I'm not here to provide therapy. I'm not here to wreck homes.😁
I AM there to make everyone laugh, though. So.... I want to tag-team with one member of the couple to get the other member. Let's go! They deserve it.... Show me your favorite ways to tickle them. Let's explore them together. What were your favorite tickling moments with them in the past? What do you like? What works for you the best? Favorite tools? Have you tried this? Just all the things. Oh you want revenge? You can certainly get them next!
I remember at an event, a couple walked out of a friend's room and they were utterly destroyed. Soaked with sweat from head to toe, glassy-eyed, tangled hair, exhausted... BUT THEY WERE BEAMING! Just smiling and grateful!
I asked him what he did to them, and he said EVERY combination.... And at that moment, I was like, "I want to do that!" They both tag-teamed on one... Switched and they tag-teamed the other. He tied them both together and got them both at the same time. He untied them a little and pitted them against each other.... Made one tickle the other to get the tickling to stop. He tortured them within an inch of their lives and it showed! And they thanked him profusely. I could only imagine the organized chaos! I could only imagine the intensity of the scene and the mind games he played.
RESPECT! I wanna be like him when I grow up. LMAO. If there are any takers... I would love to be your Evil Queen Ler! I mean... It sounds AMAZING!
Back to the convo.... 😅 Of course, although I am a ler-leaning switch... the couple has the option to get revenge on me and tickle me back. I am the willing lee... And, well.... It's equally fun and I'm again tickled to a level that everyone is comfortable with. Communication should be constant for all of us, even throughout each portion of the session.
I've also played as a couple with a couple. I will admit, that us women switched up a whole lot. The men played the lers and the lees, but did not tickle each other. I didn't expect it. (I never asked for it even though m/m is my JAM! LMAO) But sometimes I was on the bottom of a pile of 3 ticklers, and sometimes I was on the top alone or with a teammate. The camaraderie was nice! I would have to say that this dynamic was my favorite. We went on double dates sometimes that ended in tickle fun at a house or hotel. Sometimes we cooked at home and came over to each other's spots and played. Sometimes there was no play at all... just fellowship.
These are examples of tickling play with couples that aren't often highlighted in spaces like these. We don't hear from the woman often at all. But everyone needs to be connected, communicating, and comfortable. It is so much better when I hear that everyone is excited about the upcoming experience. It's so much more fun when each role, assigned or fluid, is centered around everyone feeling equally desirable. I want this to be something that is engaging and not something that just happens to the other person.
We know that many couples kinda keep their play private. I understand it. And maybe that is why they don't share more of their stories and successes. It would just be nice to hear about couples play with tickling that doesn't always showcase a man in the corner watching his lady get dominated.
Variety is the spice of life. So is tickling!
What are your thoughts? Your experiences? Would you play with a couple? Are you a couple who wants to play?
Let's talk about it!
Sunny!
Happy Easter... BTW
I've notice that outside of cuckolding, couple play just isn't highlighted and celebrated as much in some of these spaces, so much so that when I have spoken to some members about it, it seems they think that couple play is essentially a sex thing where a man watches from the corner while a S.O. is tickled and screwed.
Couple play isn't often requested where both S.O.s are a part of the conversation, negotiation, and vetting processes. Oftentimes, I get contacted by just a man. And when I state that I really want to hear from the girlfriend or the wife, the man grows cold or distant. Sometimes the man is offended. And almost always, the conversations end when I say I want to talk to AND get to know everyone involved. This is so common that I read a thread that asked if there are real couples where the wife is the one in the lead. Could the wife be into tickling and has gotten the husband into it? A woman taking the lead was so uncommon that he questioned the validity of it as if it could neven happen.
However, when I have engaged with couples either as a single switch or within a couple myself, it has always been very enjoyable. There are so many ways to approach it that do not include cuckolding or even sexual play at all.
All things are fair in love and tickling with careful communication and negotiations. of course. So if the tickling involves the sexiest, raunchiest play... to each his or her or their own! Go for it. No tea! No shade! (Well, I mean... mostly no tea.) HOWEVER, if you are avoiding playing with couples for that reason, not all couple play steers in that direction.
I approach couples tickling like a tag-team! When I am invited into a couple's space, hopefully they have done the pre-work to ensure that they know that this is fantasy and fun, and I won't do anything they both don't want to do. Both voices are important and valid. We don't have arguing. I prefer not to play when there is jealousy or where anyone feels left out. For me, it should be empowering and fun for everyone! I'm not here to provide therapy. I'm not here to wreck homes.😁
I AM there to make everyone laugh, though. So.... I want to tag-team with one member of the couple to get the other member. Let's go! They deserve it.... Show me your favorite ways to tickle them. Let's explore them together. What were your favorite tickling moments with them in the past? What do you like? What works for you the best? Favorite tools? Have you tried this? Just all the things. Oh you want revenge? You can certainly get them next!
I remember at an event, a couple walked out of a friend's room and they were utterly destroyed. Soaked with sweat from head to toe, glassy-eyed, tangled hair, exhausted... BUT THEY WERE BEAMING! Just smiling and grateful!
I asked him what he did to them, and he said EVERY combination.... And at that moment, I was like, "I want to do that!" They both tag-teamed on one... Switched and they tag-teamed the other. He tied them both together and got them both at the same time. He untied them a little and pitted them against each other.... Made one tickle the other to get the tickling to stop. He tortured them within an inch of their lives and it showed! And they thanked him profusely. I could only imagine the organized chaos! I could only imagine the intensity of the scene and the mind games he played.
RESPECT! I wanna be like him when I grow up. LMAO. If there are any takers... I would love to be your Evil Queen Ler! I mean... It sounds AMAZING!
Back to the convo.... 😅 Of course, although I am a ler-leaning switch... the couple has the option to get revenge on me and tickle me back. I am the willing lee... And, well.... It's equally fun and I'm again tickled to a level that everyone is comfortable with. Communication should be constant for all of us, even throughout each portion of the session.
I've also played as a couple with a couple. I will admit, that us women switched up a whole lot. The men played the lers and the lees, but did not tickle each other. I didn't expect it. (I never asked for it even though m/m is my JAM! LMAO) But sometimes I was on the bottom of a pile of 3 ticklers, and sometimes I was on the top alone or with a teammate. The camaraderie was nice! I would have to say that this dynamic was my favorite. We went on double dates sometimes that ended in tickle fun at a house or hotel. Sometimes we cooked at home and came over to each other's spots and played. Sometimes there was no play at all... just fellowship.
These are examples of tickling play with couples that aren't often highlighted in spaces like these. We don't hear from the woman often at all. But everyone needs to be connected, communicating, and comfortable. It is so much better when I hear that everyone is excited about the upcoming experience. It's so much more fun when each role, assigned or fluid, is centered around everyone feeling equally desirable. I want this to be something that is engaging and not something that just happens to the other person.
We know that many couples kinda keep their play private. I understand it. And maybe that is why they don't share more of their stories and successes. It would just be nice to hear about couples play with tickling that doesn't always showcase a man in the corner watching his lady get dominated.
Variety is the spice of life. So is tickling!
What are your thoughts? Your experiences? Would you play with a couple? Are you a couple who wants to play?
Let's talk about it!
Sunny!
Happy Easter... BTW
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