Tickling

[james_23tk]

I have been thinking long and hard about my fetish recently and wondering why I have it? It isnt exactly the most classy of fetishes but is something I am stuck with can I help always wanting to tickle a women?.........No but I always struggle to get it into a relationship and it is probably why I struggle to keep one (a relationship that is). Does anyone else seem to have this kind of trouble? or is it just me being stupid?

 

[nylonsnfeet]

Well....

#1: How did u come into tickling? T.V., experience in childhood? My love 4 tickling came from a brief tickle scene on T.V., at the age of 5 or 6. #2: Accept it as a part of who u r. Does having this desire truly make u a "less-than" or "low-class" person? I am 54 & take it from me, as I spent the majority of my life trying 2 hide from it. Thinking there was something wrong with me , that I was not normal. My 2nd wife, (now ex) didn't help any by calling it perverted, & that I had "control" issues, & 2 her it was a form of abuse. Nothing could b farther from the truth. I'm very easygoing, down-2-earth, give u my last 20 bucks if u needed it. Having my tickle "fetish" doesn't change who I am. If anything, makes me better.!!The greatest thing I have discovered is that through the TMF, there r THOUSANDS more like us. My final words: Don't make it hard on yourself. ENJOY IT!!!

 

[Capnmad]

I have been thinking long and hard about my fetish recently and wondering why I have it? It isnt exactly the most classy of fetishes but is something I am stuck with can I help always wanting to tickle a women?.........No but I always struggle to get it into a relationship and it is probably why I struggle to keep one (a relationship that is). Does anyone else seem to have this kind of trouble? or is it just me being stupid?

First, I disagree with it not being a "classy" fetish... It can be very classy -- as classy as the people involved.

Second, why struggle to get it in? When I date, tickling's something I do for fun... It's one part of my physical dialogue with a woman that I introduce as the time is right. There's never the "I have a fetish" speech until well after that's abundantly clear and it's clear they're cool with it. If someone I'm dating isn't into it, it isn't a relationship-killer, but it's one more little thing on that vague mental compatibility checklist I make a note of...

Just introduce it without announcement as part of your ordinary physical play/routine. Get used to it as a part of your personality and physical repertoire -- not as something weird, taboo or hidden. If you treat it weirdly, they'll treat you weirdly. Treat it as a part of you, and if they take you for you, you're golden. If they don't take you for you, find someone else.

Good luck!

 

[Bugman]

No but I always struggle to get it into a relationship and it is probably why I struggle to keep one (a relationship that is).

If tickling is your primary criteria for a relationship and you don't meet a woman who is already into it then its gonna be tough.Is tickling a sexual thing for you?Or can you just have some female tickling friends?I'm not saying either is wrong,but some more insight might be helpful in answering your question.

 

[dig dug dog]

First of all, James, best TMF thread title ever!

But seriously, I do think that our interest can sometimes be a tricky issue in relationships. Two things for you to consider/respond to: (1) How much of a priority is tickling for you when you are seeing a woman? From your post it sounds like it is pretty darn important to you (as it is to me as well). If so, you may need to "screen" relationships to some extent on this basis just as you might for religion, educational background, general interests, etc. (2) Where does tickling fit into your overall repertoire of sexual life? If it is one important element among others, including intercourse, it will probably be easier to integrate into your love life than if it is the exclusive focus (not that this would be bad or wrong).

In any event, your concern is NOT stupid and I would like to hear more from you in reply.

dig dug

 

[maniactickler]

For me, it basically makes it impossible to get into a relationship. its like trying to find a needle in a haystack looking for a woman whos horribly ticklish, loves being tickled, is very attractive and fit, and has a great personality. im looking at maybe 1% of the women out there who might fit this criteria.

 

[dig dug dog]

Hey maniac,

Would you be willing to improve your odds a good deal by embracing a woman who is (a) 6-8 on the ticklish scale instead of a 9 or 10; (b) who is open and willing (if not loving) to be tickled within the context of other pleasures; (c) who is definitely attractive, but maybe not supermodel beautiful?

Best,

dig dug

 

[james_23tk]

Its not that its on my mind all the time its just that when your in a relationship its something you want to try and not all women find it a turn on or even fun. I think my fetish started when I was around 11 I was play fighting with a female friend and I ended up tying her to my bed she was poking fun saying I wasn't fighting fair so I started to tickle her feet. It just escalated from there.

Thanks for the input all.

 

[dig dug dog]

Yes, I think it's probably true that most women don't find it to be a specific turn on for them. On the other hand, as some have said in this thread, when you find a woman who really trusts and cares for you, even if tickling is not her thing, she may be able to make it part of your lovemaking, especially if you are generous about giving her what she enjoys.

ddd

 

[minerva]

First, I disagree with it not being a "classy" fetish... It can be very classy -- as classy as the people involved.

VERY well said

 

[tickletime4u]

I too agree that it can be as classy as you make it. If your not happy it's calssy, try dressing classier for it, or create classier scenarios. How much class there is to it is what you want to make it.

 

[maniactickler]

Hey maniac,

Would you be willing to improve your odds a good deal by embracing a woman who is (a) 6-8 on the ticklish scale instead of a 9 or 10; (b) who is open and willing (if not loving) to be tickled within the context of other pleasures; (c) who is definitely attractive, but maybe not supermodel beautiful?

Best,

dig dug

No, i need a 9 or 10.

 

[duck17_17]

Yes, I think it's probably true that most women don't find it to be a specific turn on for them. On the other hand, as some have said in this thread, when you find a woman who really trusts and cares for you, even if tickling is not her thing, she may be able to make it part of your lovemaking, especially if you are generous about giving her what she enjoys.

ddd

You said it! If she gets what she wants then you can prob get what you want. Just dont over-do it at first. Just go little by little until its a part of your relationship and or sex life and try a little more each time she is comfortable with it.