Ticklish Girlfriend

[Newcastle Uni]

Hello everyone.

First let me apologise. I behaved like an arrogant Jerk the last time I came here. I realise that I shouldn't criticise people for their lifestyle choices, even if they have a user name that I find disgagreable.

But I want some advice. I have recently met a beautiful girl. Shes 20 and about 5 ft 5 inches with long silky black hair, a slim face that is just adorable and she could be described neither as fat nor thin - rather she is well-proportioned. Well, when I first met her on a date I found that she would laugh if her hands were tickled - but that this quickly wears off. On other dates I have found that scratching her leg through jeans (to rub off some stain) makes her laugh and she has extremely ticklish size five feet. A couple of days ago she was playfully kicking a friend who then grabbed her feet, removed her trainers and started tickling her feet. Her laugh was immediate and there is none who is more ticklish than her.
Well, she might very well be suspecting that I like to tickle her, as I tickle her on every date and have found more or less imaginative ways to tickle her feet on every date. But from the start she also tries to tickle me and I suspect that she might like being tickled (to a point, obviously it is pleasurable for the first few seconds but quickly becomes uncomfortable for one so ticklish).
Basically I would like to know how you suggest I raise the issue of tickling with her. I have known her for about 6 weeks or so now. The problem is that I have really grown to like her a lot and would be upset if I scared her away. Perhaps it is best not ever to raise the issue with her and just let he 'work out' for herself that I like to tickle. Surely it could never be a good idea to raise this fetish with her???? I can only see one advantage - that is that she will submit to my tickling more often to please me, but this possibility is not as likely (by a long way) as her just running away.

Oh well, any help would be appreciated.

 

[Newcastle Uni]

Oh yes, I knew there was something else.

I was out a couple of days ago with this girl and we were with a mutal friend who has often tickled her. He even removed her shoes and started to tickle her feet. He seems to tickle her as much as me. Does this just mean that he finds tickling 'fun' or could there be more to it??

 

[Tcklsh_Kandy]

Oh yes, I knew there was something else.

I was out a couple of days ago with this girl and we were with a mutal friend who has often tickled her. He even removed her shoes and started to tickle her feet. He seems to tickle her as much as me. Does this just mean that he finds tickling 'fun' or could there be more to it??

Well how does she react when HE tickles her besides the laughter? If she is allowing a mutual friend to tickle her maybe you SHOULD try telling her about your fetish ,talk about it . If she is reluctant try offering to take it slow , maybe use safe words to start.

 

[MrPartickler]

I was in a similar situation recently and have only my experience(s) to draw from. So I'll say first that you're in good shape, IMHO. This woman seems to like you, she's ticklish, and she obviously enjoys the level of tickling you've been giving her so far. So you should take pride in that and be comfortable with it.

What I learned (and did) was to keep things simple, take them slow, and (most improtantly) make sure she's always having fun. You can let her know pretty easily by just occasionally telling her <i>when you tickle her</i> that you think she has a sexy smile, and that you are addicted to her laugh, etc. Tease her a little...or a lot. 😛 Keep having fun and keep things light. Sometimes throw out other comments about how you enjoy tickling her and that you find her ticklishness "hot" and a turn on, etc. She may ask you "why?" or "really?" When this happened to me I would take it as my cue to say "of course" and tickle her some more. I'd tell her how she clearly loves it and practically <i>begs</i> me to tickle her everytime i see her" 😉 ...makes for some pretty fun games and conversation.

The bottom line is, eventually you'll have told her without even knowing it. (You'll know this is the case when you say something like: "I like tickling you" and she replies something like "Well, duh!" lol.) You can be open and honest with her without fear of scaring her off and still have a great time. She'll know that it's not some generic "fetish" that solely drives you, but rather it's sharing all this with <i>her</i> that you enjoy most of all. With some patience in this approach, you can also discover just how far she's willing to go with it. She may say eventually that she likes some types of tickling but dislikes others. Or she could just come out and say she loves it all. You never know...

Oh yeah, I wouldn't concern myself with the other friend too much yet. Your time would be much better spent on getting closer to her yourself, and it's pretty tough to keep things fun when you get stuck in "jealousy mode."

 

[luvn2laf]

I agree with MrPartickler 100%!

 

[Newcastle Uni]

Thanks guys. I think I have rather come to the same conclusion. Almost everyone tickles in a sexual and a non-sexual way. Therefore I would be foolish to turn myself into a pervert for doing something that she probably regards as normal anyway. Tickling is normal, my fetish for tickling is abnormal. The trick must therefore be to disguise my abnormal interest of tickling as as something more conventional. That should be very easy to do.

Wait, i'm rambling.....but in summary....i agree with you.....

 

[MrPartickler]

Tickling is normal, my fetish for tickling is abnormal. The trick must therefore be to disguise my abnormal interest of tickling as as something more conventional. That should be very easy to do.

You make this approach seem so sordid and underhanded. lol

Actually it's quite conventional. Lots of guys like womens' breasts, but if they obsess about it and fixate on them to the point where they objectify their partner(s) over them...well, odds are they won't have a partner for long. To use your words: they'll scare them off. It works the same here. She's with you because she likes you and you (hopefully) like her for her--not just the fact that she's ticklish. So it should be easy to keep putting her first, and you shouldn't have any problems.

Also note that you will be/are being honest with her with and yourself. But you'll also be being patient and understanding enough to give her time to get to where you are...and having plenty of fun all the while. (There was probably a time you can remember when you were much less comfortable with <i>yourself</i> about tickling as a sexual thing. That took some time to overcome too.)

As an aside...I don't look at this as "abnormal" anymore. It's just something I like...a lot. lol You may also find that there are some things she's into that you're not into as well. Then it will be up to you whether you want to define them with words like 'abnormal' (which bears a somewhat negative connotation) or just as some quirk that makes her more unique or special.

 

[Newcastle Uni]

You're absolutely right. I think I agree with your perspective very strongly.

I don't just like this girl because she is ticklish, in fact I had no idea that she was ticklish when I first met her and despite having the most glorious opportunities to tickle her innocently very frequently, I only take advantage of the most auspicious of these.

However, I cannot deny that finding out that she is extremely ticklish elevated my liking of her enormously.

And just as an aside, I rather like the ambivalent feelings of seeing someone else tickle her. I am jealous and want it to stop (if it is a guy), yet I am almost extremely excited and want it to continue.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Therefore I would be foolish to turn myself into a pervert for doing something that she probably regards as normal anyway. Tickling is normal, my fetish for tickling is abnormal. The trick must therefore be to disguise my abnormal interest of tickling as as something more conventional. That should be very easy to do.

I think you just bring it up jokingly and if she says NO WAY then you know, but if she says "sounds like fun." Ask her if she serious then you can just go from there.