Tips for breaking the ice...

[barefeetarebest]

Well an age old question gets an answer... have not tried it out yet but if i were in a better situation i sure would give these a shot...

You're meeting someone and hitting it off pretty well:
After being your funny self and demonstrating your sense of humor, you say: "You have a👎 (great, incredibly sexy) laugh! Do you know what they say about people who have a great laugh? It's said that they are very, very ticklish! (And make a motion to tickle), or continue that it is because they've had so much practice at laughing because when people find out they are ticklish, they've had to perfect their laugh to make it sound better!!

Or, if you are dating someone new and have only been intimate a couple times, ask if your partner will help you act out your "Don Turtelli" fantasy, explain what it is, and go to town if he/she is obliging.

Good luck and have some safe, sane fun!!

 

[Phineas]

After being your funny self and demonstrating your sense of humor, you say: "You have a👎 (great, incredibly sexy) laugh! Do you know what they say about people who have a great laugh? It's said that they are very, very ticklish! (And make a motion to tickle), or continue that it is because they've had so much practice at laughing because when people find out they are ticklish, they've had to perfect their laugh to make it sound better!!

Better idea; skip the creepy monologue about great laughs and just tickle them.

Or, if you are dating someone new and have only been intimate a couple times, ask if your partner will help you act out your "Don Turtelli" fantasy, explain what it is, and go to town if he/she is obliging.

Sure, because wanting to act out a sexual fantasy based on a children's cartoon is a sure-fire winner in every woman's book.

Ladies? He'p me out, here.

 

[ticklehound]

That's not a bad icebreaker, the first one anyway (the don turtelli thing is kinda creepy).

Any way to bring up the question "Are you ticklish?" is a great opener to talk about tickling. Reaching out and playfully tickling her is the quickest way, but that backfires when you get all handsy too early in the courtship. I mean, in general, don't bring it up if you're meeting someone for the very first time!

What I've done that's worked well is get myself tickled. This works with girls I've already known for a while. I'll incessantly tease her I like til she tickles me. *boom

OR if I'm sitting or standing next to her, I'll place my arm around her to hug her . . . and when she places her hands on me, I'll flinch (whether it tickles or not . . . it usually does tho).

 

[Phineas]

Reaching out and playfully tickling her is the quickest way, but that backfires when you get all handsy too early in the courtship. I mean, in general, don't bring it up if you're meeting someone for the very first time!

To clarify, I think that the point at which you can talk about tickling without being weird is the same point at which you can be "handsy". Neither one should be done right away, but given how common tickling is as an icebreaker in and of itself, you should have a pretty good idea when it would be welcome. Either way, you should just do it, not launch into a crazy monologue about people developing their laughter. If you must say anything, "you've got a cute laugh, are you ticklish?" should suffice.

Tickling is tickling. It's like any other vaguely intimate activity that involves touching someone. You don't need any special magic words, icebreakers, monologues, standup comedy routines, or the like to talk about it and/or do it - and this community's focus on the need to invent such is one of the things that makes us come across as creepy, IMHO.

 

[ticklehound]

I think we're mostly saying the same thing Phineas - as far as meeting someone new, it doesn't need to be too elaborate. I'm in agreement with the OP about the icebreaker, up until the "continue" part. I agree that saying something like "'you've got a cute laugh, are you ticklish?' should suffice." And then see where the conversation takes you. If she finds just talking about it weird, fuck her and move on...

I was just making the point that bringing up tickling into conversation can be done at a point before actually reaching over and tickling her . . . some people are not as comfortable with intimate contact, and you just gotta be careful not to do it too early in the courtship. Find the right time and then playfully tickle her and see how she reacts.

Quite frankly, I believe that ticklish laughter is your real laugh. So I find a woman genuinely laughing, to be immensely SEXY.

 

[Mane'o]

the age old questions for tickle fans - when to introduce it in the relationship. Generally doing right off the bat, first thing, will be too much, too soon. Also, going all out at the first mention of tickling - either going into detail of your love of bondage and tickling or actually tickle attacking the person usually also has bad results. The OP suggests a more moderate approach with a developing relationship. There is no best way. It is highly individual and based on the two people involved. And in that respect no different than opening up and sharing about any more private aspect of yourself in any relationship. How do you do it? Well, do you want a quick tickle that may satisfy your immediate selfish desires or do you want to develop a positive, possibly longer-lasting relationship with this person that connects on many levels, tickling being only one of them. I've had many relationships that included tickling, including my current marriage with lots of tickling. The longer lasting, more satisfying ones included tickling only as one aspect and introduced tickling further down the relationship building. Tickling was introduced early only with relationships that started online so they had a tickle focus from the get-go but none of them lasted.
A lot of what i see posted on tmf is not so much about tickling but about relationships.

 

[luvn2laf]

Hmmmm... so I guess when I went to a Halloween singles function wearing a Tickle-Me Elmo shirt that said "Tickle Me! Tickle Me! Tickle Me!" wasn't such a good idea? Hey - that's how I met my now husband! He tried!!! 🙂

 

[ticklehound]

Hmmmm... so I guess when I went to a Halloween singles function wearing a Tickle-Me Elmo shirt that said "Tickle Me! Tickle Me! Tickle Me!" wasn't such a good idea? 🙂

- No! I think that's a very good idea. Any way to "innocently" bring it up in general conversation is okay in my book. A couple years back, I was looking for an Elmo costume for Halloween just for that reason!

 

[proud2tickle]

to soon to fast to quick to slow to shy to late tickle me elmo. everyone has an opinion and they are all different, and everyone has a different style. somethings u would think are a sure fire way to get a girl fail and somethings u think would be an epic fail seem to work.... i have played the game for along time and i have done a lot of tickling and such in my day (not to brag). what i have found to work for one friend doesnt work for another. what works for me will not work for u most of the time. every thing i have seen and learned as brought me to one thing in life, Genuine attitude. people and especially girls can pick up when a guy is sincere and genuine. some girls are looking for flings and some girls are looking for all the way rommance. at the end of the day be self and say what it is important to you and what you feel is comfortable for ur element. that is how u will get the right girl. i prmose

 

[LilyChen]

Actually some use sex toy especially vibrators as tickling material and mostly it is use to get some pleasure and want an enjoyment and exciting night.

 

[GQguy]

Tickling is the best sexual tension gap bridger ever. It introduces touch in a fun and silly way, even though subconciously both parties know where this is going. It allows the conscious mind to relax, and have fun....no "do I look fat" "Am I using too much tongue" "Should we be hooking up" ect ect.

As for using tickling before there's any attraction? Just creepy. That's the guy girls are laughing at in the bathroom stalls.

GQ

 

[ticklehound]

Tickling is the best sexual tension gap bridger ever. It introduces touch in a fun and silly way, even though subconciously both parties know where this is going. It allows the conscious mind to relax, and have fun....

_ Very well put!!!

 

[playfuldude]

When I was single I used to go out to bars, and places wearing a hat that read "iTickle". It was a gift from a girl who knew of my fascination with tickling. It was a killer way to get women to ask the questions instead of me having to find the right time to introduce it, and if she decided she was interested in me, she already knew that the tickling comes with the real estate. Reverse psychology you might say. Of course you have to be at peace with the fact that others (friends included) are going to raise eyebrows. Thats life though, everyone will raise eyebrows at some point or another and thats their business.
Guess I say all that to simply say, let tickling become a part of who you are, and incorporate it into your persona. Then make no apologies for being who you are. Let the scoffers scoff, and the lovers love.
All the best man.