to be tickled is psichological matter?

[Psychopatha]

yesterday at my psychologist I talked about my fancies... foot worship, bd-sm, tickling.
I told her that I can't suffer to be tickled, that I can't stand it
the female psychologist replied that this is a fact of mind... to be tickled means to let the things go, to be happy to loose the control... in her opinion I'm too rigid, I want the things under control... that's why I don't want to be tickled...

what do you think about her words?
you have experience. is it possible?

 

[Journia]

Actually, she is right, in some cases, thought I don't personally know you, but she does have a point.

For example, many people tend to desire a total control of various situations, and sometimes that just doesn't happen, Tickling is a situation that they have absolutely no control over, if said person is excruciatingly ticklish. Thus it goes against what they stand for, and makes a little complex like cognitive dissonance, except, NO GUILT.

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

I think so, too. For instance, in my case, I have a weird love/hate of tickling. On the receiving end, I totally spazz out, so I hate to be tickled in public, as i tend to be one of those people stays reserved and not prone to outbursts and such. I love to be tickled in private, while bound, where I have no control over the situation. It's definitely a giving over of control kinda thing. Much trust involved.

 

[FeatherDaemon1]

I would agree to a certain degree. For some people it is the physical act of being tickled which they do not like. They do not like the feeling itself. I say that because these individuals are not your typical control-oriented people. Perhaps these people are just so loose in their thinking that tickling is too strong a force acting on them.

Now, in the case of what your psychologist said, yes that is another situation. Maybe the feeling of being lightly tickled is fun and happy. However, when the tickling goes beyond your ability to enjoy the feeling then it becomes hated. You are not in control, the tickler is in control. You know that the tickler has power over you and you are helpless. That is a strong bond. If you can't trust this person with this power then it must be stopped.

I am a 'ler in most situations I enjoy being on the controlling side. But when I was younger I was the 'lee and enjoyed it. When people are young they are accustomed to granting authority to dominating figures. Maybe that is why I accepted it. When I get tickled I go back my youthful state of mind where I was the prey. So it is a balance of power and to whom (if anybody) you are willing to grant that power.

 

[melanie2]

I think so, too. For instance, in my case, I have a weird love/hate of tickling. On the receiving end, I totally spazz out, so I hate to be tickled in public, as i tend to be one of those people stays reserved and not prone to outbursts and such. I love to be tickled in private, while bound, where I have no control over the situation. It's definitely a giving over of control kinda thing. Much trust involved.

are you my twin????? that's me also..wow...

 

[Bashiku]

to be tickled means to let the things go, to be happy to loose the control... in her opinion I'm too rigid, I want the things under control...

It depends on the trigger... someones trigger might be domination over someone... someones is to be dominated, someone likes to make other laugh, others are just plain mean etc.

It all depends on the logos, the beginning cause. In my case I would say that I want to make people laugh, for I tended, but am not always a helpful and compassionate person... I also have dark side, but it doesn't have anything to do with my love for tickling... it just likes chaos and destruction...

My point is that everyone has a different view on that, and I like her colleague can't wholeheartedly agree with that sentence or explanation, even if it is plausible. Human beings are not just selected few reasons and emotions... to put it up so simply is not enough to uncover all things behind it.

 

[MistressValerie1]

I don't think that it necessarily means that you are too repressed. Touch preferences are very specific for each individual; there is nothing wrong with not liking to be tickled, just as there is nothing wrong with loving to be tickled 🙂

 

[Tickleslave83]

I'm very shy, anxious, inhibited, a bit repressed and afraid to let go. I think this is why all my fantasies involve loss of control or vunerability. For a shy guy like me probably the best thing would be the be stripped naked and forcibly gang tickled by sadistic girls having no control whatsoever! :ggrin: