To the Switches.... Do You Ever Feel "Out of Balance?"

[Sunriseticklee]

SO.....

I know my name has ticklee in it, but I'm truly a ler-leaning switch. And although younger me (older posts) stated that it's more like 50-50, older me has looked back over the years and realized that I was ALWAYS and I mean ALWAYS the tickle monster much more than the ticklee before I learned about consent. 😆

As the years have gone by, finding tickle switches (outside of events) for me has become such a rarity. I find loads of lers, and I've even lucked out and found some wonderful male lees, but male switches have just been difficult.

I find myself having a session where I am only the ler. AND IT IS FUN! AND I RESPECT THAT LEE, of course! But afterwards, I feel out of balance. I feel like... "Ugh! I need to be tickled. I need to be under somebody and destroyed." And it's the same when I am the lee! I adore being tickled! I do!!!! But I also enjoy the revenge and all the wonderful feelings I get from being the tickler too. So after a great session where I am only the lee, I quietly have that feeling that I am a missing the piece that completes the puzzle.

I do have a session coming up. Very excited. He's amazing! He's strictly a tickler.
And there is a part of me that wants to get a session afterwards as the ler just to get that Evil Queen energy out that comes with being destroyed and not being able to get revenge.

Switches? Do any of you ever feel like you miss the "get back" when you only get to play on one side of your tickly kink, or is that just me?

Now... I know that this isn't a REAL problem. 🤣 I just wonder if anyone would ever admit that although they love tickling and being tickled, they miss that other side a lot. We really do love a session that has both. Curiosity and all that!

Happy Holidays!

 

[tickle_prince]

Its a very good question that, see for me the opposite happened to me

so I was always strictly a ler, but then I went to my first gathering a couple of years back and got the opportunity to have a tickle session with an experienced female who loves, lives and breaths kink life. When we first were arranging to play, she originally said to me, she doesn't bottom for anyone, unless she wanted to, so for a ler like me, I almost had to agree to be tickled with the understanding that I won't be tickling her back, which was totally out of my nature. So i had to bite the bullet, and given this was my first session ever, I was willing to do that, just to experience it! now the session came, I got tickled, for 45mins, all over, got wrecked by her, we set rules that if I could last, without tapping out I could tickle her back. Some how I did that, and got the honour to have revenge tickle on her!

AND that was the first time, where I thought to myself, I actually love that! to be tickled, then get revenge back, I absolutely loved it. So I changed from a ler, to a switch, I was a switch(still am) and have being for a while now, but I sometimes find myself falling back into my old ways, I want to tickle more, than be tickled back! and that is a struggle I find in myself. to the point where I actually enjoy watching or seeing someone I like get tickled, so that one event kinda turned everything upside down for me! now I class myself like you Sunrise as a 'leaning ler' and its not very often I let myself be tickled! and I do miss it sometimes, a few months ago I had a session with a friend of mine from here, that I had met at a gathering(not the same lady who I had my first session with me) we being friends for a while now, we try to meet up quarterly for tickle play. It lasted 6 hours for us, she is a lee (as that is her nature) but she finds for the right person, she likes to ler, so of course she wanted some revenge on me so I ended up getting tickled, granted it wasn't as long as she did, It was prolly 35-40min something like that, but it was lovely to have that release and have the tables turned on me(she even used my tools against me.. cheeky 😛), to experience both sides of the coin. I am hoping to do it again, but given how much I like to tickle a person, it really is hard for me to surrender that control sometimes, even thou I know if I do.. I will love it!

so I totally get where you are coming from Sunrise 🙂 happy Holidays to you too!

 

[ticklingj]

I definitely know what you're talking about. I love revenge tickling. I'm more of a tickler than a ticklee, so sessions where I do all of tickling is fine with me. Although I'll say there can be the out of balance feeling afterward. But I find I can strike that balance in other ways... typically spending time together afterward, like going for a meal or drinks and just "being friends" for lack of a better description. But ideally... Yeah... Revenge. 😃

 

[torturoustickle]

Comprise, comprise, comprise.
That has been the main ingredient of my tickling life.
I can't really complain, as I feel I have had a lot of good tickling experiences.
However, as a switch, you do have that slightly unfulfilled feeling.
Using the word "leaning" in a description, does not mean that the other side should be ignored.
Doing so can leave that nagging want or need that simply won't go away. Yes, I've tried.
In my case, my sadomasochistic desires mean that though Ler leaning, when I get tickled, I want to be owned, destroyed, made to regret my decision ............ well I'm sure you get the notion. 😅
I mean, imagine tickling someone to insanity, then having them get revenge. 😱
That desire does not simply go away.

I often think that my perfect partner would be a fellow Ler leaning Switch.
With hours spent figuring and acting out ways to tickle each other to insanity and beyond. 😍
Each time trying to do better. Make the other beg harder, give up quicker. Satiating that Ler desire.

But ...... all with the knowledge that the Ler leaning aspect means that there is another side, and revenge is coming. 😁

And that revenge would be a torturous, mind breaking, Lee experience.
Fueled by an unbreakable desire to destroy a helpless Lee.

Am I asking too much?
Am I being too graphic?
Apologies if so. But I do feel that I'm definitely not the only one out there like that.
And as for finding that person, well I started young and haven't found her yet. 😭🤣
But somewhere, out there, she lurks.
I guess I still believe in miracles. 😉

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Just know....
Only the oceans are saving you.

 

[torturoustickle]

Just know....
Only the oceans are saving you.

Thoughts of a "Tickle Queen" style session makes me want to part those oceans. 🤭

 

[sspyss]

Oh I hope a fresh pedicure and black sheer nylons are in store for that session..: lol

 

[Elyos]

I've always been more tickled than the one tickling, but I've revenged on some of my friends that are ticklish and they always know and appreciate me getting them back. Then there are some who aren't much ticklish, or even worse – not ticklish at all (so mad on them for that!! 😀). So tickling them would feel cringe at best haha.

I don't feel like missing on something if I am just tickled and cannot tickle back, but I do understand what you mean. My own experience regarding tickling is ca 70% lee and 30% ler – which I am comfortable with right now.

I suppose that if I would just experience being the ticklee all the time, then it would maybe start to bother me a little.