Unfounded prejudices

[melanie2]

Bare with me as this was posted as a blog elsewhere and my thoughts tend to get jumbled up..and my fingers work even faster than my brain...lol


Ever since i was young, and watched for the first time the movie, In Cold Blood, i could never watch it again, as the scene in which the young girl goes to the bathroom in the middle of the night, unaware of the killers presence downstairs, a scene that is enacted in every household, as that scene really got to me..i never watched it again..also as i grew older, i was under the misconception that Truman Capote had written the book, from the preception of feeling sympathy for the murderers...i was wrong..i did not like him for the longest time because of that idea of mine..a few years ago, i watched Capote, starring Philip Seymour Hoffman..and a light went off in my head..Truman did not write the book gloryifying the killers..so then i ordered the book, In Cold Blood and read it..a very well written and detailed plot..depicting the background of the Clutter family as well as the backgrounds of the killers..and i then watched the movie, In Cold Blood as well..

I was under an unfounded prejudice against Truman..when in reality he was a delightful individual with many complex parts..it makes me wonder how many of us go thru our lives with unfounded prejudices..and when we discover that we are wrong..are we man or woman enough to up and admit it? I know i am..

 

[kopfhorer1]

..it makes me wonder how many of us go thru our lives with unfounded prejudices..and when we discover that we are wrong..are we man or woman enough to up and admit it? I know i am..

Story of my life!

ETA: Sometimes I'm not man enuf to admit when I'm wrong, but I usually come around eventually.

 

[CrazyLikeAFox]

Unavoidable, certainly not unforgivable.

Take heart in knowing at least your predjudices where aimed at an undeserving individual. In any day and age it is far too easy to be mislead regarding who did what to whom when and where, and following up on all the facts is simply not practical. I don't question the validity of most stories I see on the news because if I did I would spend all my time hunting down the facts. The only people I can think of capable of remaining adamant skeptics to a fault are those delightful fellows we call paranoid schizophrenics.

Everyone is guilty of at least a few misjudged biases, a result of nothing more than human error. Whether or not we recognize our mistakes when the evidence is against us, which you have proven capable of doing, is what is important.

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

CrazyLikeAFox said it far better than I ever could, but you are certainly on to something there, Isabeau. That you are able to look at things from a fresh perspective is what is most important. It feels almost like literal shackles lifting when you come to that sort of mature understanding about yourself. So many of those I interact with on the job and elsewhere in meatspace seem incapable of that.

 

[melanie2]

Yes for years and years i had an unwarranted dislike of Capote..until i watched the movie, Capote..and when i'm wrong i admit it..now i like him very much..

To me it's like this..for example...say all you knew about me was what you read on this forum..sometimes i'm silly...sometimes serious..you may get an initial impression on who i am, based only on what you read..then you get to know me more..and then you realize your first impressions were totally wrong and unfounded..give people a chance..don't go by first impressions alone..they could act a certain way to hide what they truly feel deep inside..

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

hmm,good point

 

[Frost King]

well i know someone that i know who is a friend of my sister i didn't like her because someone i knew dated her and told me all this stuff about her. he said she was treating him like shit and she was controlling. but she was always real nice to me and she helped me with something that i needed help with. and thats when i started to wonder if what i heard about her was really true. later i found out that it wasn't true and that it was actually my friend who did those things to her that he wasn't real nice to her. so i felt bad that i thought those things about her and i addmitted to her that i was wrong. i later became good friends with her and never talked to my other friend again.

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

well i know someone that i know who is a friend of my sister i didn't like her because someone i knew dated her and told me all this stuff about her. he said she was treating him like shit and she was controlling. but she was always real nice to me and she helped me with something that i needed help with. and thats when i started to wonder if what i heard about her was really true. later i found out that it wasn't true and that it was actually my friend who did those things to her that he wasn't real nice to her. so i felt bad that i thought those things about her and i addmitted to her that i was wrong. i later became good friends with her and never talked to my other friend again.

Well,you know what they say;there's always two sides to a story.

 

[Frost King]

Well,you know what they say;there's always two sides to a story.

Yep i agree

 

[chicag0]

I probably did a lot of that when I was younger, you know like thinking I didn't like a certain type of food just based on the fact that I'd never tried it. These days, I try to be a bit more careful when forming opinions, like not basing them on movie adaptations of reality or one-sided arguments, though I'd have to say personal experience probably helps to form most of my opinions in general.