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[meanie]

meanie

 

[Em Es]

She has to want you more than you want her

Meanie, if I had a son I'd tell him what I'm suggesting to you: Concentrate on the girls who like you, not the girls you like. Because I'm guessing you are still on trial with these women who don't like it when you tickle them.

Here is a link to a true story I posted that illustrates my point:
http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=34428

What matters most is choosing the girl whom you are sure likes you, not the ball busters it sounds like you are dating now. There is no more powerful force than a woman who wants to please a man! The vast majority of the time that kind of girl will not appeal to you as much as the women who first catch your eye. But I would rather spend my time and money with a plain Jane who wants to please me instead of a knockout whom I can't trust to return a phone call.

Trust me, Meanie,I disgust most women - I have never had it going on with the ladies. Yet I've still had a few that would have done anything to please me, including putting up with getting tickled! Your best bet for a good time is to take the girls who offer themselves instead of chasing the heartbreakers.

 

[chicago]

I've told a few guys I've dated and the time where I felt comfortable enough to tell them about the whole tickling thing was different with each person.

As a girl and a 'lee, I don't have it too hard. Most guys either really like it, or at very least, don't mind it. I've never had a guy react negatively. 🙂

 

[Em Es]

Perhaps my choice of words was poor

Meanie, I apologize for confusing things. I was not trying to say a certain type woman may be out of your league. No one is too good for anyone, even if they don't know it!

Nor would I call dating a plain Jane lowering one's standards. All I was trying to say was the girls who like you are the ones worth your time and money. If a woman is not meeting you at least halfway, stay away.

And I did not mean to say tickle a woman who is not attractive to you. Were Maria, the subject of the post to which I linked, of 🙁 no appeal to me I would not have invited her out when she called me. While I wasn't crazy about Maria's appearance, there was enough about her to like. God knows women who only date handsome men would never want 🙁 me.

Nor was I trying to say the beautiful women won't try as hard to satisfy a man as plain women do. On the contrary, I have seen knockouts make fools of themselves in an attempt to keep the men they wanted. All I was trying to say was when a woman - any woman - wants a man, the most powerful force on Earth is in effect.

The number one important thing to look for in a woman is how much she likes you. Maybe she will be beautiful, smart, and successful or 😱 plain, of average intelligence, and living with her parents. Or, she will comprise a combination of those things. You don't have to date her only because she likes you if she has no other appeal, Meanie. But, if I had a son, I'd teach him no woman is worth the breath of asking out if she isn't showing a high interest level in him.

 

[orangetickler]

for what it's worth...

If you like tickling your girl, but she doesn't, you will never be happy with it.
My ex doesn't like it and we have never been really close.
I meet a new lady that I like and she let me tickle she the first time we meet.
And she is always nagging me to tickle her, I thought I maybe over doing it by always tickling her, so I keep it to a minium. But I see she gets fustrated with me, I just don't want to turn her off so soon, but I think I am wrong...
Time will tell...
I have friends (women) who expect to be tickled when I see then, so go figure...

 

[Dancer]

These 2 questions are directed at everyone on the TMF. I'm sure I'm not the only one who wants to know what you all have to say.

First I'll tell you my story. When I was younger I would tickle any womans feet, anywhere. It didn't matter to me what anyone thought. After I grew up though, I realized that if you wanted to date any of these women, tickling their feet after you've just met them wasn't such a good idea. They would get creeped out, so I learned to hold back. I'm not the relationship type meaning I date a lot of girls. I notice that whenever I tickle them, 99% of the time they react negatively to it. They think I'm doing it to annoy them and they're very vocal about how much they HATE being tickled. I find it doesn't matter if I wait a day or a month, the response will be the same. I even try explaining to them how big of a turn on it is for me to tickle them but they either think I'm full of it or that I'm a weirdo. For me, this takes A LOT away from sex. It would be like a guy who LOVED women's breasts not being allowed to look at them or touch them without the woman getting upset and going cold on him.

As for my questions.

1. How long do you normally wait before showing you have an interest in tickling to a new girl or guy you're dating?

2. How would you go about introducing it to them?

Thank you for reading this far and I look forward to reading your replys.

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As a female and a "lee myself, I like a new guy I meet to tell me right away he has an interest in tickling. When I go out dancing I usually wear hip huggers and a top that exposes several inches of bare skin. When a new guy asks me to dance, I can usually tell by his expression if he's interested in tickling me, because they usually stare at my stomach a lot while dancing. Or, if a slow dance comes on, they will hold me gently around my waist and sometimes drag their fingers on my exposed skin. (I love that) That's the best way to introduce tickling to a lady - to see her body language in response to the way your hands move around. I had one guy tickle me so nice while we were dancing it sent chills up and down my spine. (you can imagine what we did later at home)

 

[alchemy]

I can give quick answers:

1. It depends upon the person and the situation. I'm not big on tickling in public places and I don't tickle people I don't know...I normally don't do it on the 1st date either unless it is instigated by them. At least the second date or longer.

2. I used to wait until a relationship was started...and even then I was reluctant to break it to them. Now, I pretty much tell a lady right off the bat (as gently as i can). I'm talking 1st or 2nd date. I'm tired of starting to get serious with someone, finally getting up the courage to tell them, and then hearing either "You like to tickle people, what the fuck is wrong with you?" or "Ok...um...I hate being tickled and that's not going to happen." Ok, it tends to freak people out a little bit at the beginning, but it weeds out the tickle haters and it's my way of telling people "Here I am, what you see is what you get. Take me or leave me."
No more games.

But...go at your own speed and do what YOU feel is right.

 

[Stugots]

These 2 questions are directed at everyone on the TMF. I'm sure I'm not the only one who wants to know what you all have to say.

First I'll tell you my story. When I was younger I would tickle any womans feet, anywhere. It didn't matter to me what anyone thought. After I grew up though, I realized that if you wanted to date any of these women, tickling their feet after you've just met them wasn't such a good idea. They would get creeped out, so I learned to hold back. I'm not the relationship type meaning I date a lot of girls. I notice that whenever I tickle them, 99% of the time they react negatively to it. They think I'm doing it to annoy them and they're very vocal about how much they HATE being tickled. I find it doesn't matter if I wait a day or a month, the response will be the same. I even try explaining to them how big of a turn on it is for me to tickle them but they either think I'm full of it or that I'm a weirdo. For me, this takes A LOT away from sex. It would be like a guy who LOVED women's breasts not being allowed to look at them or touch them without the woman getting upset and going cold on him.

As for my questions.

1. How long do you normally wait before showing you have an interest in tickling to a new girl or guy you're dating?

2. How would you go about introducing it to them?

Thank you for reading this far and I look forward to reading your replys.

If the women say you're annoying them, you probably are. You mentioned you tickled women's feet in the past and were careless about their feelings. No wonder why you aren't a relationship type. You seem like you still tickle women's feet and are careless about their feelings. Look up the term VIOLATE. Maybe I can explain this in more clearer terms. You mention tickling is a huge part of sex for you. So, that would be like trying to have sex with a woman that obviously isn't interested in having sex with you, or isn't comfortable enough to.

1. You treat a woman well and work on creating attraction and building comfort with her. That usually takes about 3 dates (depending upon how good of a gameplan you've got and how long your dates are. Dates I go on usually last 3-4 hours).

2. Introduce tickling to a woman in a way that makes it pleasurable for the both of you! You clearly state that you only communicate how tickling is pleasurable for you and then act it out in a way that is only pleasurable for you. Get to know your girl and her feet. Tell her that her feet look nice and then explain the 3 foot types (flat-low arch, medium arch, and high arch). Explain how the more shapely or curvy the foot is, the more sex appeal it has. Men are attracted to curves, duh. Feet are curvy just like hips. Educate yourself about feet so you communicate you know what you're doing when handling a woman's feet. Another good conversation topic is with dangling. Ask her why she dangles her shoes. Women who dangle their shoes know they have sexy feet and that's their way of showing it. Dangling is a way of showing off curves. Get her comfortable with your touch. Start off by giving her a foot massage while explaining the above. Occasionally sneak in a tickle for a moment to see how she reacts. If she pulls her feet away from you and breaks the massage, no soup for you. If she jerks her legs but still keeps her feet in your lap and continues to let you massage them, you've established comfort. Don't abuse it! Continue massaging and make it more pleasurable for her, then slowly increase the frequency and length for the tickling. Massage the achilles tendons and up the calves too. If your foot massage is working you will notice her become real relaxed and drift away in babbling conversation. She may even yawn. This is usually a good time to tickle to perk her up and let her know she isn't allowed to sleep because it's rude. You'll probably be told it's your fault because you made her feel so relaxed that it made her sleepy. Let the flirting begin!

Hopefully you've learned something after reading this post. But, none of this external help will work if you have an internal problem. Work out your internal issues with women and tickling, and learn to be more of a relationship type. Because the reactions from the women you were explaining are reactions of women who are the relationship type. Dating's purpose is to form a meaningful relationship with an opposite sex member, regardless of what anybody says differently.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I think that if you begin dating a girl you like and she likes you, if you want to get her into tickling take it slowly like baby step. Start out with light tickling here and there and then slowly build up into more tickles. As to when to introduce her to tickling as a fetish, do it when you feel most comfortable with her and she feels the same about you. That's the best advice I can give right now.

 

[lustfultickler]

I've told a few guys I've dated and the time where I felt comfortable enough to tell them about the whole tickling thing was different with each person.

As a girl and a 'lee, I don't have it too hard. Most guys either really like it, or at very least, don't mind it. I've never had a guy react negatively. 🙂

Then again Ticklishgiggle as hot as you are any guy really wouldn't mind giving you a tickle just to see that smile

 

[The_Laugher]

I am a very firm beliver in getting everything out in the open early in a relationship. It is easier to findout that the two of you are not compatable early on rather then after you have spent a few months together. So I have always made it a point to start asking questions and also stating my likes, dislikes, and needs.