Ways to find a (safe) tickler?

[jellopink]

Hello!

This is probably a ridiculous question, but since none of the guys I've dated could really get into erotic tickling, I think it's worth a try...

I was wondering if anyone had ideas about getting (relatively safely) matched up with a willing tickler? Are there any well-known organizations that work like dating sites?

Thank you to those who took the time to reply!

Also, I'm new here, so I apologize if this question had already been covered many times...I'm still looking through the site!

 

[AngelOfDarkness]

Through here or other tickling/fetish forums, mostly. Get to know people, both through the posting aspect, and in the chat room. It's a good way to jump start learning about people, in a general way before you jump to the tickling aspects. Good luck. 🙂

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Yep, what Angel said. Just get out there and post, and meet people.
Make new friends. Even if they don't end up being compatible playing
partners, you will make friendships here that will last a lifetime. Where
on the east coast are you? There are wonderful munch groups that
meet all up and down the east coast.

 

[Jackalx33]

Well, welcome to the forum. This is a cool place it is also how you make it. So welcome again. Now.... I am gonna be honest with you. First you being female on here and asking what you want, There is gonna be flows of pm's in your inbox. NOw for safety well the only best bet that is possible is to get to know a few people first. Realistically you are gonna get people who would do want you are offering too. But then they are complete strangers. To answer your question I am not sure if there are organizations out there and this will be the closest you will get. So i hope this answers your question. if anything feel free to ask me.


P.S. some other dudes will ask for session right off the bat so watch out.

 

[the tickleshow]

Welcome, jellopink! Pretty much the only way to find a safe tickler is either here or just by lucking out. Because it's in my nature to be a tickler, I can't imagine a guy not wanting to be one. 🙂
Good luck! If you're near NYC, let me know.
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[rhiannon]

I've known my ler online for 6 years before we met. I felt pretty safe by then. 🙂 But still, you should always make sure you have backup from a friend if actually something turns out wrong.

 

[Carsomyr]

First of all, congrats on your first post! Secondly, I think the people above me covered it pretty well, but I'll just add my personal reflections anyway.

Don't rush into anything, and don't settle with someone you don't feel 100% comfortable with. Attending gatherings is a great idea as it is a lot safer with more people around, but be sure that you still know some of the people that will attend fairly well. Socialising on the forum is always a good idea, there are a lot of great people here!

Good luck 🙂

 

[Em Es]

Circulate

Jellopink, I started on the sidelines and then got in the game. In other words, after joining I first lurked about the T.M.F. and later began participating in and initiating discussions. Two fantastic women invited me to tickle them because of that interaction. One even said she liked the tone of my comments, so I guess she felt safe approaching me.

As you read and contribute here, you may notice certain guys' posts appeal to you, and some of them will live nearby. With both members I tickled, we met in public to get a feel for one another and, as I earned their trust, got together for tickle play.

Do any of your friends know about your desire to be tickled? If so, should you decide to meet any T.M.F. men take a friend with you as a chaperone.

 

[huskys]

All of the above. Knowledge is power. The more you get to know people the safer you will be.
You will meet HUGE variety of people on this website alone. Some will appeal to you and some won't.
Eventually you will find your perfect tickling match!!!
Good luck and welcome to the forums!!!

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Welcome to the TMF!

The best way to find someone is to just be present. You'll get all sorts of guys contacting you about playing. But, to be safe, your best bet is simply to get to know people first and see what people are like. There are a number of couples (myself and my hubby included) who've met through the community. But, it takes time and patience. Trying too hard tends to be counter productive.

You might also want to check out some of the articles about safe play on my site. Just click on the banner below and go to the library. There are some good suggestions for making sure you're safe if you meet up with someone new.

Good luck!

 

[tickler4u2]

Welcome to the forum Jellopink. This is a great question. I was a lurker on the site for awhile and recently decided to start posting. One of these days I hope to meet a woman into tickling. I think you won't have a problem meeting a man on this site. We seem to outnumber the females by far. If you meet someone you like, I would move the discussion to email and request a picture which of course may not be the individual or may not be a recent picture. That has happened to me a number of times. You could then have a phone conversation or two. That will give you a really strong sense of the person. Of course, you can never be 100% sure someone is safe even after you meet them face to face. But, is it any different than meeting someone at another venue - a bar, party, or some social group or club?

I am in the NY area. If you would like to chat, send me a PM.

 

[ElFewja]

There are standard ways to find out if someone seems safe, but being the internet, it's also very easy to lie.

Assuming you were to meet up with someone, the best ways would be to get to know them (or try to) online a fair bit, maybe exchange phone numbers and talk there.

I'd try to meet somewhere public, or maybe go with someone you know/trust to either be present or somewhere near by just in case. I wouldn't recommend bondage immediately.

Safe is a relative term, and online is never safe. I haven't thought of any precautions other than being somewhere public, but that should do it. But yeah, etc.

Edit: Also, welcome. I forget things sometimes.

Etc.

 

[Goodieluver]

Get your name out there and post. Show what kind of person you are. Also word of mouth between veteran posters here. Hell, I met several ladies off here who were not posters but lurkers and saw posts of mine(in discussions and personals) and contacted me off site and we got to talk alot and after a safe comfortable easy time waiting, we finally met up and had a blast of a time

 

[ElFewja]

Nice 😱. Lucky jerk.

Yeah, I guess I'm way too much of an ass to catch anyone's eye, though. Oh well.

Etc.

 

[JBgood]

Though it may be rather repetative based on some of the posts above, I wanted to speak up on this subject as well.

First and foremost, don't rush into anything. Take the time to get to know the person through chat, emails, and the like.

Be open and honest as you talk about what you like,want,expect, so that if and when the day comes that you do meet, you are on the same page.

Meet somewhere public and actually talk face to face for your first meet. If you get a weird vibe or something isn't adding up with them in real life you can reasses if you want to continue.

Have a safety line in place for that first meet. Have a friend you call or who calls you so they know you are OK.

Just a few thoughts from one that has been there 🙂

 

[OmahaTickler]

Welcome, and love that awesomely unique screen name -- whether or not it refers to being tickled pink to the point of being a quivering mass of Jell-O.

"Safety" is subjective. Angel's point rings the loudest in that regard. You must communicate, explicitly, what your boundaries are to any potential tickler. I know some in the chat room who get off on fear and the darker side of tickling. Not my bag, but if it's between consenting adults, carpe diem.

The more you associate with others in the community, the more you'll be able to weed out the creeps.

--The Jester

 

[sasaxrah]

Welcome!

The benefit of making friends with TMF folks is that if you are interested in playing with someone, you can ask your friends what they know. They may have already met the person at a gathering. People build up positive, neutral, or negative reputations if they're active on the TMF. If you don't know them, someone else might.

When I was considering play partners, I could tell some things from IMing. Did they mention tickling right off the bat? Did they ask me how ticklish I am, and where? Could they hold a conversation? Were they respectful and genuinely interested in getting to know me? Were they pushy?

Feel free to PM if you have any other questions.

 

[Adam]

This has already been well-covered, so I have nothing to say other than best of luck! That and welcome to the forum. 🙂

 

[Mz Chaos]

I'd add to all of this by saying that if you're approached by a Ler...

Get references.

Ask who he/she has tickled and PM that person to get their opinion on what their session(s) were like.

Some 'lers are just... well... awful but think that they are great. Some 'lers are fantastic. Don't ever be afraid to ask another 'lee about the 'ler you are considering, or even asking if there is a 'ler they would recommend.

 

[Cavum]

As in BDSM it's important to find someone you trust a 100%. A "one night stand" play ain't exactly 100% safe. There is alot of idiots out there who use situations like this (a submissive girl without much experience) to get what they want without thinking about the submissive needs. So my tip to you is to get to know a potensial play partner as a friend before stanting playing. If he only is interested in the tickling part then be carefull. Even that you also want to be tickled, it can turn out bad and you might even loose the interest of tickling because of a bad experience and never get to know a good experience. Good luck in your search 🙂

 

[paracarl44]

WELCOME JELLOPINK.

In answer to your question, this forum has many sections in it. Be sure to look them over. I would go with meeting a person in a Public Place, therefore you can back out of any arrangement if you like. I hope that you enjoy it here and Happy's to you.

 

[waitin2btkled]

Welcome jellopink,

I have had a few encounters from this forum myself and I can understand how you feel. Like everyone else is saying, you should post a little bit and talk for a while with someone finding a connection with that person from the forum.

Remember one thing on here, We are all very much into tickling as you are and all want to meet that special someone on here to share and have new experiences with (including me).

All things take time honey, but with the people you do speak to on here, for the most part, you don't have to worry about mixed feelings b/c we have all been through them ourselves.

Glad to see you started posting and chat with you soon.

Hello!

This is probably a ridiculous question, but since none of the guys I've dated could really get into erotic tickling, I think it's worth a try...

I was wondering if anyone had ideas about getting (relatively safely) matched up with a willing tickler? Are there any well-known organizations that work like dating sites?

Thank you to those who took the time to reply!

Also, I'm new here, so I apologize if this question had already been covered many times...I'm still looking through the site!