what do i do about this?!

[iluvtklng]

okay. so as my username says, i love tickling, and being tickled (;
i have a new boyfriend. we've known each other for about 4.5 years and were best friends before we decided to be a couple back in september.
as with previous boyfriends, i expected him to tickle me as a way of flirting.
but it's been over two months...and nothing!!
not even a single poke!
i've even tickled him a few times, and he's really ticklish so it's fun (;
he knows i'm ticklish only because he said "i'm ticklish" and of course i replied with "me too."
i've tried the whole sassing off/exposing tickle spots thing, and he still doesn't get the hint!
i don't want to outright tell him I LOVE BEING TICKLED, well not yet at least cause that's pretty much the biggest secret i've kept in my life and i want to make sure i trust him with our relationship first.
so any other suggestions? or should i just leave it alone?

 

[-Hari-]

If your that concerned about letting him in on your secret despite your desire for him to know, then I guess all you can do is wait until you can truely trust him and just tell him, he`l probably think its cute anyway 🙂

 

[Lord Doctor]

He may be assuming you do not like it. Trust time and go with the right moment to spill the beans 🙂

 

[milagros317]

Tell him that being tickled turns you on. If he takes the hint and tickles you, prove that you meant it. That should work very well. 😀

 

[Angel77]

Instigate a tickle fight and afterwards jump his bones lol. He'll get the picture

And if he doesn't? Then you can just say that you loved getting all rowdy and having his hands on your body really turned you on, esp. when he did "this!" And tickle him

Well, that's what I might have done. Good Luck!!!!

 

[Katie Pants]

considering you've been friends with him for so long, i'm not sure if he'll ever try to use tickling as a way of flirting. people who do not have this fetish often use tickling as a way to flirtatiously access people if they are unsure of how else to go about it. but if you were best friends before, chances are he's already fairly comfortable with you and may not feel the need to gain access to you in that way. as awful as it sounds, you may just have to wait until you feel ready to tell him outright. but hey, it sounds like the two of you had a pretty close relationship even before it was romantic. you're lucky. the point where you trust your relationship enough to tell him may not be far away =)

 

[leafstk]

Yeah, hang in there and be patient 🙂 If you're not comfortable outright telling him yet, instigating the odd tickle fight if he's willing to try and get you back is probably the best route. In time I'm sure you'll want to just tell him anyway, as nerve wracking as that can seem. But I agree with Haribish! He'll probably think it's cute... I know when I told my gf at the time it went over much better than I expected. Best of luck! 🙂

 

[rhiannon]

How come you don't trust him if you have been best friends before you got together? I would just tell him.

 

[Angel77]

^ Well, I can kind of see why she didn't tell him, even as friends. None of my friends know, not even my closest ones 🙂

 

[rhiannon]

^ Well, I can kind of see why she didn't tell him, even as friends. None of my friends know, not even my closest ones 🙂

Mine do. 🙂 No problem whatsoever! If I can talk to someone about sex, why wouldn't I be able to talk to them about the tickling fetish?

 

[Tckleme]

I would just tell him. He´s a guy. Guys like it when women talk about their kinks. 😀

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Just ask him. How is he supposed to know? Especially if he's vanilla. 🙂

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

Mine do. 🙂 No problem whatsoever! If I can talk to someone about sex, why wouldn't I be able to talk to them about the tickling fetish?

Because sex isn't a tickling fetish ...
Rhiannon, not everyone is comfortable talking about tickling.
It's not sex. It's tickling. 2 different things.

 

[Coda]

iluvtklng,

Unlike other posters, you actually came up with the right answer: make sure you trust him, and then tell him.

Even plainly stating "I love being tickled" might not be enough to really communicate what you mean. Ask him beforehand whether you can trust him; make sure he understands that it's difficult for you to say and that it's important to you.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

iluvtklng,

Unlike other posters, you actually came up with the right answer: make sure you trust him, and then tell him.

Even plainly stating "I love being tickled" might not be enough to really communicate what you mean. Ask him beforehand whether you can trust him; make sure he understands that it's difficult for you to say and that it's important to you.

Actually yeah. I retract my statement. This is the best piece of advice on here. 🙂

Best of luck and hope it works out!

 

[maniactickler]

Have a heart to heart talk immediately. if hes not into tickling, then its time for you to move on.

 

[leafstk]

Because sex isn't a tickling fetish ...
Rhiannon, not everyone is comfortable talking about tickling.
It's not sex. It's tickling. 2 different things.

Exactly.

 

[FeatherQuill]

If you've known each other for 4.5 years then I'm sure you have a good level of trust with him. Just sit down and talk with him then tell him. If he likes it great, if not maybe he's a closet lee who likes being tickled but won't admit it. Either way you'll still be with him, and I'm sure if you asked he would accomodate you now and then.

So yeah just tell him. Worst that can happen is he'll say no.

 

[rhiannon]

Because sex isn't a tickling fetish ...
Rhiannon, not everyone is comfortable talking about tickling.
It's not sex. It's tickling. 2 different things.

Yeah, exactly, it's tickling! Even more harmless then sex actually! Especially if you are a lee!

I understand if people don't want to talk to friends, family, colleagues about it because it is none of their business. But your partner? The person you have sex with? That's definitely the wrong person not to talk to about it!

Of course I was there once, before I started becoming comfortable with my sexuality, but when you think about it, what could happen when you tell someone about it?

The only thing to be afraid of here is the fear itself! 🙂

 

[Angel77]

Mine do. 🙂 No problem whatsoever! If I can talk to someone about sex, why wouldn't I be able to talk to them about the tickling fetish?

Well, I'm glad you have that comfort level to talk fetishes with friends and it's awesome that you feel comfortable doing so. I never did and probably never will lol. I don't think that it's something that I'm scared of but perhaps just something that I choose to keep to myself. It feels "safe" with me lol.

 

[rhiannon]

Well, I'm glad you have that comfort level to talk fetishes with friends and it's awesome that you feel comfortable doing so. I never did and probably never will lol. I don't think that it's something that I'm scared of but perhaps just something that I choose to keep to myself. It feels "safe" with me lol.

Well, if my best friend calls me from a sex shop saying "Hey girl, they got two dildos for the price of one, want me to bring you one?" I guess we can talk about fetishes too! 😉

 

[Angel77]

Well, if my best friend calls me from a sex shop saying "Hey girl, they got two dildos for the price of one, want me to bring you one?" I guess we can talk about fetishes too! 😉

Dildos, yes, I can chat about that with friends. My fetishes are too private to chat about though. It's on a totally different level for me.

 

[CuteJill143]

He may be assuming you do not like it. Trust time and go with the right moment to spill the beans 🙂

It is possible he could have had an experience with girl who hated it before. So that would make most guys think that all girls hate being tickled. Before I told my boyfriend now, he said he always held back from tickling me because he was afraid it was annoying me. now there is no hesitation.

 

[rhiannon]

Dildos, yes, I can chat about that with friends. My fetishes are too private to chat about though. It's on a totally different level for me.

Why? It IS sex! 🙂 What are you worried about if you are on that trust level with someone?

 

[Angel77]

Why? It IS sex! 🙂 What are you worried about if you are on that trust level with someone?

It's different for me. Sex isn't as intimate as tickling is, for me anyways. I'm much more able to discuss sex with someone than tickling and this has always been the case. No idea why but this is how I am wired. The way people deal with tickling is different. I'm glad that you are happy to be more open with it. As for me, it's more of a deeply personal thing. To each their own.
🙂