what do i do about this?!

[Em Es]

iluvtklng, I think it would be a lot easier for a woman to admit such a turn-on to a man than vice versa. If nothing else, if tickling you means more sex or more exciting sex for him, that should suffice.

But if you are not ready to say the words yet still want to convey your desire, I suggest:

Next time you two go out tickle your boyfriend throughout the date, a steady stream of finger pokes, ten finger to the ribs attacks, and so on. Then when you get him alone, tickle him assertively until he either at last retaliates or says to quit it. At that point, say, "Alright, let's make it interesting. We play Strip Poker and whoever winds up naked first gets tied down and tickled by the winner."

Girl, make sure you lose that card game! And as you will have some restraints ready, even the slowest learner will at last add 2 plus 2.

Please let us know what happens.

 

[PlayfulCarbonara]

Chances are he just hasn't thought about it. Tickling is a good way of flirting, but not one everyone gets into.

Just find something playful to get him to tickle you. Refuse to tell him something, to the point he's near begging you to spit it out. Then just say "You'll have to tickle it out of me!". Once he tickles you, give him some sort of external reward (like a hug or a kiss.) and continue to refuse to talk. 🙂 Make tickling you as pleasant for him as it is for you with some sort of external reward like that, and he'll tickle you more often.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

It's different for me. Sex isn't as intimate as tickling is, for me anyways. I'm much more able to discuss sex with someone than tickling and this has always been the case. No idea why but this is how I am wired. The way people deal with tickling is different. I'm glad that you are happy to be more open with it. As for me, it's more of a deeply personal thing. To each their own.
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Possibly because normal people like having sex, but not everyone likes tickling. And sex is pretty much every where and everyone knows it's out there and most people seem to have it, so it's pretty common.. tickling fetishes aren't that common, you don't see it everywhere, you might get the "what the hell?" look when you talk about having a tickling fetish and that makes it more personal. And I do think fetishes are more personal bc they're specific things that turn you on. it's not just sex. It's more specific than just sex.

 

[Angel77]

Possibly because normal people like having sex, but not everyone likes tickling. And sex is pretty much every where and everyone knows it's out there and most people seem to have it, so it's pretty common.. tickling fetishes aren't that common, you don't see it everywhere, you might get the "what the hell?" look when you talk about having a tickling fetish and that makes it more personal. And I do think fetishes are more personal bc they're specific things that turn you on. it's not just sex. It's more specific than just sex.

My thoughts exactly 🙂

 

[grrl]

The only guy I ever told thinks its cute. As long as I don't try to tickle him!

 

[rhiannon]

Possibly because normal people like having sex, but not everyone likes tickling. And sex is pretty much every where and everyone knows it's out there and most people seem to have it, so it's pretty common.. tickling fetishes aren't that common, you don't see it everywhere, you might get the "what the hell?" look when you talk about having a tickling fetish and that makes it more personal. And I do think fetishes are more personal bc they're specific things that turn you on. it's not just sex. It's more specific than just sex.

Granted, that is a big reason. BUT: that goes if you are a ler and male! 😀 The big advantage of being a girl! 😀

If you're a woman and tell a guy that you have a kink - especially one that doesn't cause anything unpleasant to him (which is the case if you're the lee) - he will most likely think that it is awesome, not weird, because it shows him you are a bit on the wild side and more likely to experiment.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

WOW!! Well that is good and great to hear that as a woman if you admit having more than a few sensual/erotic kinks including being tickled a major kink-besides out of the ordinary "vanilla erotic/ vanilla sex" that is good to know. That definitely helps a woman feel a lot more comfortable and lot more at ease in confessing her secret tickle/ erotic sexual fantasies and desires for sure. That sure helps. That makes a rough conversation a lot easier to broach for sure. Since for many women, especially some that have shy tendencies might have a tough time confessing their desires and fantasies-especially if tickling comes to play in it.

It is just a shame that for guys it can't be like this:many times guys are honest and forthcoming and try to gently introduce the love and kink of tickling-sadly either it gets rejected right away or else the woman that he is dating or who is his partner, gf or wife-says ok, says she will try it and give it a chance and willing to tickle him and have him tickle her, but sadly so many cases of mismatched sexual/tickle incompatibility: either it is like this emotionally it is a match real close, but kink of tickling and other kinks bedroom-mismatched or you get opposite-total match tickle kink wise both love tickling and other things in bedroom but no emotional connection-mismatch.

That definitely makes it very tricky and difficult for sure. It is best to find a good true balance of emotional and tickle/sexual compatibility equal balance not one being more important than the other but equal-emot compatibility and sexual compatibility equally balanced.

So I guess my best advice is just have a heart to heart with him and let him know that tickling is a passion for you and you love to be tickled and love to tickle, you love how close you and he are-you would love to share this special activity with him-if he is willing and go from there, just keep communication open and take it slow and go from there-wish you the best-let us know and keep me posted also on how it goes. If you want to chat I am here for you have a great day. Happy tickles

😉😀

 

[TheTickleMonster]

Granted, that is a big reason. BUT: that goes if you are a ler and male! 😀 The big advantage of being a girl! 😀

If you're a woman and tell a guy that you have a kink - especially one that doesn't cause anything unpleasant to him (which is the case if you're the lee) - he will most likely think that it is awesome, not weird, because it shows him you are a bit on the wild side and more likely to experiment.

I don't think that makes it easier for girls though, just because they're girls.. not all girls would realize that it's okay for them to tell their male partners that just because they're girls... you really need to stop assuming all girls are like you. That has nothing to do with why I don't tell certin people that I have a tickle fetish.. I jus think it might have someting to do with why she won't because I believe she was the one that said it's not just sex and you were the one that said yeah, it's easy to talk about than sex and I was trying to explain to you what might make it harder to talk about than sex, what makes it deeper and more sexual than just sex.

 

[rhiannon]

I know not all girls are like me. God, I would HATE it if that was the case! 🙂

I am just talking about my personal opinions and experiences. It is my personal experience that it is not a problem at all to talk about your kinks! Don't think I haven't been at the point where I would have rather cut my tongue out than said anything about it! I know the fear, and I know how irrational it is.

So what I can offer is simply the advice: Don't worry! Nothing will happen to you when you tell the people you trust! It will make you feel better!

And this piece of experience could actually give other people the courage to come out of the closet and lead a happier life afterwards!

 

[TheTickleMonster]

I know not all girls are like me. God, I would HATE it if that was the case! 🙂

I am just talking about my personal opinions and experiences. It is my personal experience that it is not a problem at all to talk about your kinks! Don't think I haven't been at the point where I would have rather cut my tongue out than said anything about it! I know the fear, and I know how irrational it is.

So what I can offer is simply the advice: Don't worry! Nothing will happen to you when you tell the people you trust! It will make you feel better!

And this piece of experience could actually give other people the courage to come out of the closet and lead a happier life afterwards!

yes, but in your posts you act like all girls are like you. I tried to give an explanation for why she might be afraid to tell and you said that goes if your male and a ler, like females don't think that.. like ALL females don't think that.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

My thoughts exactly 🙂

I'm glad you agreed with me... I was trying to sound smart and give a good in depth reason why some people (even girls)might be uncomfortablewith talking about a tickling fetish. And what makes it definately than sex

 

[rhiannon]

yes, but in your posts you act like all girls are like you. I tried to give an explanation for why she might be afraid to tell and you said that goes if your male and a ler, like females don't think that.. like ALL females don't think that.

That's how you are interpreting my posts, not what I think! And I didn't even say that! What I meant was that it is HARDER to talk about your fetish if you are a male ler, but usually not a problem when you are a female lee!