What married tickling is like in a great marriage

[tkNUT]

About me: I'm 42, married to a 27 year old for years. And we're both super religious.

So what I have coming up is this....

A week or so ago we were enjoying ourselves just watching TV at her mother's while visiting. And at 2 am she started talking about sex fantasies. 8) She knows i want to be tickled way way beyond my limits and kept there as a begging, nearly crying, pleading ball of anxiety and nerves. I have always given her full permission to do whatever she likes and we don't use safe words at all. Only begging and pleading. To really try and NOT CUM for fear of another tickling session. 8)

Well, one thing about being in love for 10 years and still acting like high school kids at our age is that you REALLY do love the other person. And that means even if they told you to be cruel, if they beg enough you'll probably relent.

So we talked about that and decided that a blindfold and an open mouth gag would be the best way to hide any real true, "Oh crap, stop it" is with a good blindfold and an o-ring gag stuffed with a rag, panties, socks, whatever. Then, if I'm in tears and losing it mentally it will be behind the mas and the gag. well... the roller coaster continues as the sounds of begging and pleading are very similar to the sounds of pleasure when filterd through an O ring gag stuffed with panties. 8)

we have only played with tickling early in the marriage and now that she's hitting 30 her hyper-sex drive is kicking in and she's wanting to play some more games.

I ordered (without permission - asking for forgiveness for spending $100+ on this, not permission) a nice full set of wrist + leg restraints, a strapless strap on for her taht actually looks like it will reward her thrusting with clit stimulation and vaginal stimulation since the other BIG end is held in the vagina. This scary beast is 7 inches long (on my end) and 1.5 inches wide (that's pretty big and will require SLOWLY working it in). And a nice o-ring gag that comes with nipple clamps. All of these things she had mentioned she'd love to use on me. and none of which I have experienced.

So... I feel like a teen ager again with these things coming. SHe also aske me to write down my fantasies and things I'd like done to me or that I"d like to do to her (mostly to me since I'm the ticklee and she the tickler). And then, one morning after a long night of partying with her at home (which for married people means drinking coke all night and watching tv and chit chatting while the kids sleep). SHe went to bed at 6 am nad I was up (got to watch teh kids). I DID write down the raunchiest stuff.

For example:

* tickled for 3 hours. 1 to have some fun. 2 to get me worked up. and the 3rd to make me at risk for PTSD b/c she was so cruel. 8)
* no safe words - I like to be in fear of anything is possible and I like just having to trust that she won't do things i don't want done - like pee in my mouth or make me gag with the dildo through the open hole mouth gag and potentially end up with me barfing. But she has the ability and my permission to do ANYTHING she likes
* tie me up with clothes on me... grab the scissors... make up a game to get the clothes off me... [never been done to me]
* tie me TIGHTLY and wide - very little hip swinging movement possible and of course no way to escape genital torments
* 'force' an eating of you through the o-ring gag - get an orgasm from it [never been done to me]
* SHe loves to torture nipples...
* ass down or ass up? She may choose ass up or start with ass down and as a punishment for whatever - cussing while being tickled, or the very worst that can be done - cumming either outside of her while playing or even inside of her without permission. [never been done to me]
* asked for a real punishment for cumming too soon... something painful like a good spanking that will leave a bruise or 2 - and to be done with hands behind back tied, and ankles tied and bent over the lap [never been done to me]
* asked that she put some towels under me, then force me to drink 32-64 oz of any beverage, preferably tea, and then not allow a bathroom break or a cup to pee in. And then to be tortured to see if she can make me pee. If so, then a cup will come, all pee emptied into the cup, and then 30 minutes of really intense tickle torture all over. [never been done to me]
* post-orgasm torture [never been done tome - and she's not familiar with it so I wrote down lots of details]
* how to get me up again after the post orgasm [the prostate... tickling... teasing... threatening... and the old favorite viagra [also never been done], and that if she fails to get things up, follow up with a nice spanking and an eating.
* orgasm denial
* minor ball torment... She has a thing for this too. But I've never given permission b/c she has no idea about how you can get really hurt by a kick to the bare nuts. I told her she could flick them as much as she wants but to please be reasonable.
* ball tickling (stretch that sack tight, tickle the sack)

You get the idea. All of that is now in an encrypted file on my pc (thank you PGP).

And today, after our 2nd sex chat last night (we were too tired to have sex - kids do that to parents), she asked for teh password. I told her she could have it but she'd have to torture it out of me. She made me promise not to chaneg anything I wrote in it b/c I was horny as all get out when I wrote it and she wants to see what I wrote.

And now, dear fellow fetishists, I'm SCARED. And I like it. I know that when our bondage stuff comes in the mail (I didn't tell her what I bought, and she wants to be surprised). Just the anxiety alone about what's coming is terrifying. The only details i told her was that she needs to give me a 2 hour warning before we can play so that i can get... *everything* cleaned up (and out) before we start. You know that "oh crap" feeling you get a you're being put voluntarily into restraints? The "why the hell do I do this to myself" feeling?

Why the hell do I do this to myself?

Anyway, I thought ya'll'd enjoy this glimpse into what I think is a sweet marriage with a really crackling life in the bedroom when the kids are asleep.

 

[marcusb]

That's an impressive list. I hope you do things for her.

 

[rdhd]

Nice.....wish my wife of 36 was so willing.....and, I have bought bondage items, vibrators, etc. without her permission.... Good luck, and have fun you two devils you....

 

[tkNUT]

oh yea, she gets like this. But this after a 9 year no-bondage spell we've been through. I mentioned elsewhere that sex is the LEAST important thing in our marriage (we're in this for the long haul and have vowed to not re-marry after death (and she'll die long before me b/c of cancer which is going to take her in 10-20 years - very sad, but we're over it and there's always the chance it will not metastasise). I'm 42, she's 27 - yes got married when she was young, no i didn't get her prego. We just fell in love right away and got married 3.5 months after meeting and have had no regrets except for during the biggest nasty fights (married people DO fight and we're awful when we do). Got 5 kids. 8) All of which creepily love to be tickled. I hope they don't end up with the fetish, but just like me at age 3 I'd get tickled by my teenaged aunts and come running back for more over and over again much to their amusement. No, that wasn't child abuse. It was just my dear aunts having fun and so was I. Same as when i tickle my own children. Its fun, hilarious, brief, and they come back over and over. The others will say "do me next" when they see one of them get assaulted, held down and tickled for a minute or two. Normal, healthy, fun for the kids and amusing for me knowing that it can turn into a fetish later. I"ve had to break up a tickle fight more than once when the older 2 gang up on a younger one who starts screaming bloody murder. Again, normal kid activity. But it makes me wonder if they'll end up with this fetish and how badly. I can live without it in my sex life and have for ages.

So now, out of the blue, the old lady is wanting to tie me up and torment me to the point of tears, anger, and screaming. And of course, me, like an idiot, immediately purchased $120 of bondage gear after we got paid, wrote up a list of my fantasies after an all nighter, encrypted them, TOLD HER I ENCRYPTED THEM, and now she's made me promise not to delete or edit the file so that she can see exactly what I wrote when horny as a 16 year old in the 1990s before the internet was in his neighbourhood. I actually asked for 3 hours of torment with no bathroom breaks and hell if i should pee even a little (not sure if guys - esp a 40 year old) can be tickled to the point of peeing). So if she goes for that objective (and she's said she would - she knows that's in there), I could be in for a huge ride. Not in there but she asked if I would let her tickle me until I passed out. I told her she's welcome to try. I'm in great health so I won't die from it. I even told her that you have to swap the area around b/c they get desensitized. I know this b/c I was tied up by 2 girls about 1 year before i met her and they tortured me for a solid hour. But they also left me alone for most of the time. It wasnt' constant torture b/c i refused to use a safe word so they went (IMO) very easy on me.

And now i'm horny as hell and here talking about it while she's over at her friend's for probably the night until morning (no, we're not swingers - it's a girl friend she's visitng and tehy are just very close friends). Her friend is divorced recently and hating life b/c she got herpes and chlamydia like 2 weeks after getting divorced. And she has the nasty luck of being one of those with herpes who breaks out for a week every month. Doctors are holding out on prescribing some of the strong stuff until he has had it and has had break outs like that for 3 months. That kind of puts a damper on her prospective love life post-divorce. One guy she really liked dumped her when she told him she had it. Its a real burden to bear and she's upset bad. Add to that my wife has had bad news about her mother's health today and she just wants to escape the kids and the house for a night to get a break. I like her friend and so I certainly don't mind. Which is why I'm here running my mouth and horny.

 

[mabus]

I'm here thinking, "How the hell did you find someone super religious who loves sex?!!"

The girls I know who were super religious were super judgmental and super prudes. To the point where they'll probably never get to boring-married-lights-out-get-it-over
with-as-fast-as-we-can-so-I-can-go-to-confession-and-begs-God's-forgiveness-for-defiling-my-body-with-Satanic-sinful-vile-evil-sex-icky-yuck-YUCK!

...much less fun, pleasurable sex, much less what you're describing! In other words, you're even far luckier than you know, which is why you're here, to see how some
folks on "the other side" have to live, so you'll appreciate your wife EVEN MORE, and sex will be even better!!

Why no bondage for so long? Bondage was never my thing, but you're married, you can have sex however you like. I'd suggest you discover the joys of nylons or pantyhose,
...thigh high nylons make the sex easier. You can use this place to find out what other people are doing, and apply that to YOUR sex life, which is one of the main reasons
for having a forum.

The main reason for this place, and why I'd say 99% of the people are here, is to know there are other people like them, to feel accepted and loved in a world where many, like
me, are alone in our interests. I believe that God is a part of that.....I can't see God siding with the judgmental assholes who would insult and criticize, or laugh at people who
like tickling or any other fetish or sexual interest. As an example, I'm sure there are people on the clown fetish forums who are wonderful people who did much good for humanity.

Hope you stick around - there will be many spiritual and religious discussions to be had, as there have been for the decades this place has existed.

 

[tkNUT]

I'm here thinking, "How the hell did you find someone super religious who loves sex?!!"

The girls I know who were super religious were super judgmental and super prudes.

Why no bondage for so long?

How? Well... part of that is the faith. In my world / religious beliefs sex is a privalege and honestly when married sex is much better than not. Something to do with the 'indeliable mark on the soul" that getting married does. (req'ts: both must be eligible to be married - not prev married and if so have an annulment AND that annulment passes the non-church based test of "did the Church just hand it out just because). Add to that well, its really between me, her, and being open to getting pregnant again. We have had dry spells like when she has had a family member die. And I go as celibate as I can during that time. I've made it overa year w/o orgasm before getting married. So when married its easier with the dry spells. I tihnk its b/c I dedicate every cum to having her involved (no fapping). THat makes me more aggressive about it, pushy for it, and forces me to romance her to get it. ;-)

Why no bondage? Honestly I'm not sure. We were having great sex all that time. I wrote it off to her not being that into it and myself, I put her enjoyment over my own and sex is the least important part of marriage so its not a big deal.

This bondage stint may not last long. Remeber, bondage is a lot more work than just getting nake,d getting it done, and cumming.

I also think that since she was barely legal when we married, she has since matured a bit and now is in that late 20s early 30s sex crazed phase women go through.

Kinkiness and sex are certainly allowed in my faith. Running my mouth about it here anonymously may not be that good an idea, but its not considered a sin as far as I know.

We don't do 3 somes - there's good for folks who can handle the complex emotions of watching your partner with someone else. Neither of us could handle that.

 

[TKLVR18]

It's awesome to hear stories of other happy married people. My husband and I switch really fast, and I love it. Last night we were rolling around with me slightly on top, when I had to stop to go pee. When I got back he'd literally tied himself up 😀 Now, the two of us have very different leeing styles-he's very much like NUT in that he loves to be as screwed as possible with me as the cruel, merciless ler who may or may not ever give him a break (and he knows just how to bring this out in me). I lee to feel like a playfully-bullied child (not ageplay, just that kind of feeling).

One of my favorite parts of our relationship is that we switch so well. Last night I'd been lerring him so much I wore him out and kept going for a little while xD (which he loved). I teased him, called him my helpless prisoner, old him I had no mercy, and let him know exactly how much ignoring his begging turned me on. He went crazy and loved it.

As we were lying there together afterward he started teasing my stomach-before I knew what was happening he was leaning over me, both hands on my worst spot, repeating "this doesn't tickle! You can't be ticklish! I don't believe you!" All while grinning like a madman, just to add the extra element of playful humiliation I'm admittedly utterly addicted to. I was lying there giggling like crazy and I think I exclaimed "this escalated quickly!" XD Finally he goes, "Yeah, I guess you must really be that ticklish....oh well!" and this glorious bastard keeps going.

...just like I was hoping he would >/_/>


NUT, have fun! I hope she goes crazy on you, pal, and keep us updated!

~K