whats people's opinion..

[Limeoutsider]

Ive usually used the theory that "They arent my friends, their opinion does not matter" When it is your friends that are the problem, tell them to mind their own damn business/fuck off (whichever) and find new friends

 

[ticklkitten]

I choose my friends carefully and once I love them I love them no matter what. We all make the wrong decisions and I support those who really THINK. It makes all the difference in the world.

 

[TKpervert]

Ive usually used the theory that "They arent my friends, their opinion does not matter" When it is your friends that are the problem, tell them to mind their own damn business/fuck off (whichever) and find new friends

Lime, friends should be treated as more than a cotton sock that sprouts a hole in the toe, to be tossed into the trash.

As much as we like to think we know everything, we really don't.

I value my friends for their opinions, and I make adjustments when necessary.

 

[nosforatiop]

Having grown up and watching my mother endure two divorces and plenty of failed relationships, I would have to say that marriage is NOT the key to a happy relationship or good parenting. If your both there for your kid, married or not, together or not, I think everything will be okay.

 

[ElectricEye72]

No offense rather to comfort you child...you dont seek others opinions,you only want people to echo whats in your heart. Since its in your heart already why ask others what they think? 😉

 

[kis123]

Here comes kis with her opinions......usually I'm not within the typical flow of things, and today's no exception.

First of all, I would like to commend Sinner and Jester for staying together long enough to make a Skyylaur (spell). The fact that you decided to give her birth instead of so-called other alternatives is beyond commendable.

My situation is not the same as yours. I had the first kid by a complete and total jackass--he wanted me to have the kid but he didn't want to be responsible to take care of the child. He walked away from me a very young mother. I eventually found out that my child was disabled and no man really wanted to deal with me because of my kid. I eventually dealt with a man who fell in love with my kid even before he fell in love with me. We lived together for 18 mos before we got pregnant with my daughter. She was his first biological child. His priorities got twisted and other things happened and we didn't stay together. However, he still loves my son even more than the sperm donor who conceived him.

The only thing I wonder is are you guys intending to get married? If so, then get married! Don't wait until you think you can afford it, because it'll never happen. Don't wait until things will change beacause that'll never happen either. You are a family of three and I think if you love each other that much, you should be married. You've already made yourselves a family, now go and make it official!

You know you love each other that much, then go the next step. Don't do it for other's expectations, do it because you know you can't live without each other and you want to be together. Don't wait until you can "afford it"!! Go ahead and let those nay-sayers foot the bill for the reception.

If they're not willing to do that, tell them to pound salt because they are double-minded! If they can screw around, they can conceive. If they can conceive, they can procreate. If they want the fun of screwing, yet don't want the consequences, it's unrealistic and you should run, not walk to someone who will respect you better than that. I don't think this is a problem with Jester and Smurfie......

I personally am proud of you both by being so young yet responsible for the life you've conceived and delivered into this world. You have no reason to be ashamed of anything. However, make this committment before you have the second one. Take it from someone who knows, you want an official committment before you give it all away!!!!!!!!!

 

[Oddjob0226]

Well, if you live in a culture that is a Puritanical Christian one at its origin core, that's where it comes from.

What piles it on is that as ends are harder and harder to meet for more and more married people in a planet where there's already 6 billion of us, it makes married "average folks" a little ansty to think they their tax money is going out to people for Welfare, WIC, etc. who brought a child into the world while there are people on similar programs, married and not, who don't have children.

 

[kis123]

Well, if you live in a culture that is a Puritanical Christian one at its origin core, that's where it comes from.

What piles it on is that as ends are harder and harder to meet for more and more married people in a planet where there's already 6 billion of us, it makes married "average folks" a little ansty to think they their tax money is going out to people for Welfare, WIC, etc. who brought a child into the world while there are people on similar programs, married and not, who don't have children.

Oddjob makes an interesting point. If you can't afford to take care of yourself and are given money every month so you can do nothing but screw around and make baby after baby while others work two jobs just to survive, that really sucks!

My boss is upset because she and her husband can't afford to have another baby and they really want one. As much as I feel badly for her, I am happy to hear she and her husband are exercising wise and responsible. parenting. Nothing worse than to bring a kid on this earth and you stand at the mailbox every month waiting on money you didn't earn to raise the kid.

On the topic of puritannical Christianity is concerned--it was hypocritical in the days of puritanism and it's still hypocritical now! People are having sex all over the place-how can you judge someone else when you're doing the same thing?? The only difference is that you (with "you" being hypothetical) haven't gotten "caught" yet with a pregnancy or std. Like I said before, folks can screw around all they want but don't want the responsibility of the consequences. They don't want to deal with the pregnancy, disease, or emotional upheavals yet they want to be free to have sex. Give me a break!!!!!

This is kis returning the thread to it's original topic.........😎

 

[MissBeeHaven]

I say the hell with people, if you are happy, your baby is healthy, then it doesn't matter what anyone says, maybe they are saying it out of jelousy for not being as happy as you

 

[KrazyBoi]

Who really really cares what other people think, if you love the guy and you both are happy with your baby then forget everyine else.