This post is kind of going along the lines of ktticklers post but my inquiry is more has anyone just been open and honest with people about having a tickling fetish? and if so did anything bad or good come out of it? I bring this up because I was talking to a female friend of mine about this very same topic and she feels that if you are sublte it comes of creepy as you have some kind of alterior motive. To her she feels you should just come out and say it and fuck anyone who can't handle it or doesn't think the same of you because of it. Anyone have anything to add to this? I ask because I'm thinking of telling more of my friends about this but at the same time am afraid of the reactions I might get if any.
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what's the best way(if any) to let someone know you have a tickling fetish
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Hi stef2dope,
I agree with your friend's advice. Be direct and honest about it, but . . . (and this is my two cents) be VERY picky about who you confide in.
As far as good/bad coming of it, I've had both. I recently had a long term relationship end . . . and although I don't personally think tickling was the reason it ended, it sure didn't help the other problems we had. Although I have tried being honest about my tickling kink in my last two relationships, it was never "smooth sailing." Maybe I wasn't picky enough, or maybe I "told them wrong" . . . who knows.
The best I can suggest is this:
If you are thinking about telling someone about your kink, ask youself these questions:
1) What is the best that can happen?
2) What is the worst that can happen?
3) Can I live with the worst that can happen?
4) Is the worst that can happen worth risking in order to get the best that can happen?
Oh, there was also a book I wanted to recommend. I think it is called "When your partner is kinky" and there is a section on how to "talk to your partner" about such topics, as I understand.
I agree with your friend's advice. Be direct and honest about it, but . . . (and this is my two cents) be VERY picky about who you confide in.
As far as good/bad coming of it, I've had both. I recently had a long term relationship end . . . and although I don't personally think tickling was the reason it ended, it sure didn't help the other problems we had. Although I have tried being honest about my tickling kink in my last two relationships, it was never "smooth sailing." Maybe I wasn't picky enough, or maybe I "told them wrong" . . . who knows.
The best I can suggest is this:
If you are thinking about telling someone about your kink, ask youself these questions:
1) What is the best that can happen?
2) What is the worst that can happen?
3) Can I live with the worst that can happen?
4) Is the worst that can happen worth risking in order to get the best that can happen?
Oh, there was also a book I wanted to recommend. I think it is called "When your partner is kinky" and there is a section on how to "talk to your partner" about such topics, as I understand.
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Be as open and honest and straight forward as possible.
Try to leave out the term "fetish".
Use addages such as, "playful" and "tickle fights/wrestling" and "sensual touching/tickling".
OR You can just say straignt out that you love to tickle and be tickled adding it is playful fun etc.
Most couples love playing and playing games together.
Head games are taboo. Sexual and physical games are always welcome!😉 😀
TTD
Try to leave out the term "fetish".
Use addages such as, "playful" and "tickle fights/wrestling" and "sensual touching/tickling".
OR You can just say straignt out that you love to tickle and be tickled adding it is playful fun etc.
Most couples love playing and playing games together.
Head games are taboo. Sexual and physical games are always welcome!😉 😀
TTD
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Well put TickledToDeath and Mischief! 😉 😀
Don't refer to it as a fetish.
I'm pretty much in agreement with 'Chief and TTD. It all depends on whom I am telling. If it is a male friend, a comrade, I would probably just say something like "I totally dig it when a woman tickles me."
If the person I'm telling is a female friend, then I would play it by ear, depending on the situation. The topic can be approached from any number of directions. If you are already talking about fetishes and/or kinks, I'd definitely mention that I think tickling is very erotic. If you're talking about political science, it would be rather difficult to work in the tickling thing.
Here is an example of how I let one female friend know about my tickling fetish. We'll call her "Melanie" for the sake of anonymity. Melanie is a very attractive outgoing woman in her late 40's. She is unusually well preserved, and the object of much oggling around the office. She's always in a good mood and a joy to be around. Sometimes she and I would sneak out to my car to smoke a joint or a bowl. On one such occasion she noticed my bag full of magazines.
"What're those?" she asked
"Oh, you don't want to look in there, Melanie"
"Why not??" She said as she pulled a stack of tickling magazines out of the bag. "Oh my!"
"Definitely not your typical waiting room magazines, huh?" I quipped, as she thumbed through Tied & Tickled.
"Is this really what you like" she asked.
"For as long as I can remember."
We didn't dwell on the subject, and though I could tell it was not exactly her cup of tea, she nonetheless was totally cool with it. No, it didn't launch me into a new tickling relationship, but neither did it affect our current friendship in any way. I'm happy knowing that she knows and accepts this about me, even if she doesn't necessarily indulge me. After all, she may one day decide otherwise. 🙂
I'm pretty much in agreement with 'Chief and TTD. It all depends on whom I am telling. If it is a male friend, a comrade, I would probably just say something like "I totally dig it when a woman tickles me."
If the person I'm telling is a female friend, then I would play it by ear, depending on the situation. The topic can be approached from any number of directions. If you are already talking about fetishes and/or kinks, I'd definitely mention that I think tickling is very erotic. If you're talking about political science, it would be rather difficult to work in the tickling thing.
Here is an example of how I let one female friend know about my tickling fetish. We'll call her "Melanie" for the sake of anonymity. Melanie is a very attractive outgoing woman in her late 40's. She is unusually well preserved, and the object of much oggling around the office. She's always in a good mood and a joy to be around. Sometimes she and I would sneak out to my car to smoke a joint or a bowl. On one such occasion she noticed my bag full of magazines.
"What're those?" she asked
"Oh, you don't want to look in there, Melanie"
"Why not??" She said as she pulled a stack of tickling magazines out of the bag. "Oh my!"
"Definitely not your typical waiting room magazines, huh?" I quipped, as she thumbed through Tied & Tickled.
"Is this really what you like" she asked.
"For as long as I can remember."
We didn't dwell on the subject, and though I could tell it was not exactly her cup of tea, she nonetheless was totally cool with it. No, it didn't launch me into a new tickling relationship, but neither did it affect our current friendship in any way. I'm happy knowing that she knows and accepts this about me, even if she doesn't necessarily indulge me. After all, she may one day decide otherwise. 🙂
I'm in agreement w/everyone else here. I f you have the right kind of personality, you can pass it off as a quirk. Like if you're a jokester or a clown, the fact that you LOVE to tickle people probably won't suprise anyone. If that's not quite possible for you, try the self-depreciating method, like "I have a lot of weird quirks for instance I LOVE to tickle people, how weird is that?!?" Always use the term "turn on" instead of fetish, and don't let them know it's your primary turn on at first. Be casual. The more freaked or nervous you are the more freaked the person you are telling will be. Finally remember the "2nd" golden rule-"kinky is when you use a feather,perverted is when you use the whole chicken"
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