When a ler is off their game (kind of a ramble)

[Soles_Scream]

I've been a semi active ler for a number of years now. I went from no tickle action for 30ish years to being in some producer shot tickle clips. Through it all, I have realized that I have off sessions. By "off sessions" I mean I didn't achieve the desired result. My goal is to produce ticklish reactions based on my intent when I switch to tickling.

At this point in my reputation, everyone who sessions with me knows how I play, and are open to it. It's within their boundaries that I explore. There are folks out there that are in the 8+ range of ticklishness. 10 range are those that it gets painful and therefore not to engage, I'm guessing Anna Kendrick - who I’ve never tickled but has mentioned her disdain for being tickled - resides at 10.

The level where an off day can be disastrous, from a tickling standpoint, is with ranges 4-6. Generally, you can take someone who is naturally a 4, to about a 6 depending on your techniques. It's kind of like sex. If you use the same tactics in the same sequence, sensitivity can reduce overtime. Some pressure works smashingly in some instances and is dead on arrival in others. Same is true for tickling. Furthermore, no two lees can be tickled effectively the same way, and in some cases the same lee may react differently even if the same tactic is used in both play sessions. This is where someone who thinks they are a 2 is actually a 6, or vise versa.

My problem - one of the legion of issues I have in general - is that I can get into my own head. If I am used to a certain reaction out of someone I tickled previously, and I don't get it the next time, I tend to low key panic. It's worse if I am attempting to tickle a woman who knows of my reputation for the first time.

Sometimes we lers can be off our A game. Other times, our lee isn’t in the headspace that accesses the level of sensitivity they may otherwise have.

In a previous post, I mentioned the various ways my tickling experience fell short of my expectation. I even posted a video with the thread title “not my best work”.

The woman in that clip is like a 7 on the ticklish scale, I've done many sessions with her at the party and privately before and since the clip in question. However, I cut my nails too short before that party (an egregious error as they are one of my main tools), and was totally in my head regarding that screw up. Being recorded, while knowing my "proverbial hair was cut" - a la Sampson, diminished my abilities. The recording also factored into the lee’s - in this instance - sensitivity.

The whole point of this post is to convey that we lers and lees are not always going to be firing on all cylinders. This is why I do paid sessions with people I enjoy talking to, and who have pretty feet. That way, if the lee or I am off my tickle game, I can just double down on worship or whatever so the session isn’t a waste.

A video I will soon post on my social media from a doubles session I did last week went a different way. Sometimes knowing a person is having a session with a ler can cause them to set up a resistance by instinct. I tickled her at the party and got her to laugh out loud. However, when the private session came she formed a better resistance. She squirmed and even butt bumped me when I was really getting to her, but it took a lot to get her to finally laugh from the tilt.

Anyways, thank you for reading my TED Talk

 

[duderino84]

Not to sound like an expert but when I was in my tickling prime before tickling I'd purposefully pick and file my nails so I didn't scratch. I have large hands and I guess I scratched before I heard a few times in my early tickle adventures that I did. I use finger tips and gentle squeezing.... and I've had a couple "10"s I played with. Maybe 6's on average. I don't know, I'm not good with the numbering system. It just ranges from "not so much" "a little" "ticklish" "very ticklish" "losing her mind" "insane with laughter". Lol.

 

[Ms Regan Black]

Hi, Soles_Scream-

There have been a few occasions in the past I felt the experiences did not go as well as they could have. Even if your conscious mind is 100% there, the unconscious can affect your processes, without you realizing it right away. My vanilla career is heavy on stress and responsibility, and I admittedly used to let it unknowingly stick in the back of my head when engaged in tickling. When you hold yourself to a very high standard, not meeting your own peak expectations even once can be frustrating and maddening.

Worked very hard to preemptively remove all possible issues to a less than stellar experience; I now do not take evening sessions if I know I have a challenging work day earlier that day, or weekend sessions if there is MTA construction and the difficult commute would take too much of a toll. Also, I pack up clothing and gear, and plan, at least the day before, so nothing is forgotten or overlooked, just ready to go, which avoids same day issues.

Also, I recently just came off a long sabbatical, which has really helped me to focus on all the outside stressors separately, as well as increased self care, and I can now tickle again with a clear head. Really makes a world of difference.

Regards
-Ms Black

 

[Soles_Scream]

Hello Ms Regan Black,

These are all excellent points. Thanks for articulating your experience so clearly. You’re exactly right, and I appreciate your response.

Thanks,
SS

 

[219Footman]

I had an off period when I had to make a whole new bag of tickle tools. At first I didn't think it was going to be a big deal but then I went and had a session with a very ticklish first timer and I just felt like I had a complete disconnect with this new bag. We had a good session but I didn't have that session that I had in my head.

 

[brotherted]

All good points.

I'd also add the "off their game" can not only mean failure to connect the feedback loop of the 'lees reaction to optimize physical techniques -- it can also mean "off their game" in terms of tying her reactions to verbal teasing and the psychological element.

 

[CutenCurvylee]

As a lee, my reactions are involuntary. I cannot fake them. It’s not like orgasms lol. So, in order for my ler to get the reaction we’re both desiring he has to be able to read my body and noises fairly well. As is with any kinks, fetishes, interests...there has to be on going conversations of interests and implements. Have a conversation about “pervertables”, D/s elements, trigger words—I have always maintained that anything in the kink, fetish, sex world...is more mental than physical. The mind has to be engaged first, flirted with, before things start firing off the way you both want them. It takes a connection, a spark, and flexibility. My hat is off to the ler’s, left side of the slash (what have you), because we’re (lee’s & right side of the slash) reactionary and yes our reactions push you further in whatever direction you choose to go with us, but ultimately you all have to pick the start from destination and reroute when necessary. It’s a supercharged, euphoric feeling when it pops off like both people want to pop!

 

[robmic]

I think the other thing that many don't fully understand, is that someone you tickle regularly can react quite differently at different times. It seems to depend on what mood they're in at any given time. Mood being the key thing here! So, if you're a 'lee and you aren't that ticklish, don't worry too much about it. It will pass. And 'lers, if you're not getting the response you're looking for, try a different time.

 

[RevyBL]

I've never had a situation where I sessioned with a woman multiple times and her ticklishness was inconsistent. The worst I had was when a woman I choice happened to not be that ticklish, to begin with.

 

[chicago]

I think the other thing that many don't fully understand, is that someone you tickle regularly can react quite differently at different times. It seems to depend on what mood they're in at any given time. Mood being the key thing here! So, if you're a 'lee and you aren't that ticklish, don't worry too much about it. It will pass. And 'lers, if you're not getting the response you're looking for, try a different time.

100% this

 

[Soles_Scream]

An added fuel to the "off game" fire in my case is my reputation in the foot community. Being called the "tickle man" is nice, but it creates this expectation in my head that I need get authentic reactions in every case. If I fail to cause ticklish reactions, that becomes the narrative in my head until I can restore my tickle confidence.

I know that not all ticklish reactions are created equal. Some lees will not bust out laughing. Instead they may squirm. Others will make squeaks or other interesting sounds. Some can be more ticklish if they are trying to focus on other things. Other lees are less sensitive if they are distracted by other things. Others will do parkour or spasm until they get away from the tickle stimulus without laughing or saying anything. Yet, I cling to, "if they don't giggle or laugh that means I suck".