When offered the opportunity

[Cif]

When offered the opportunity to tickle a 'vanilla' person, (I mean properly.) Does anybody else get nervous/conscious of their actions and which detracts from the whole experience? When I was in a relationship, I felt too guilty to tickle by girlfriend who wasn't into it, even though she had the greatest feet and laugh I've ever tickled, for more than maybe two minutes!

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Assuming you mean having the opportunity arise when you're in an actual relationship with the vanilla person like your example, then you can still make it part of play and I don't think she'd necessarily have to be "into" it as much as you are for her to still enjoy herself and the basics of it - exchange of power, etc.

Therefore, they'd be no need to feel guilty about it. As long as she's having fun, getting turned on, what's the problem? 😉

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Assuming you mean having the opportunity arise when you're in an actual relationship with the vanilla person like your example, then you can still make it part of play and I don't think she'd necessarily have to be "into" it as much as you are for her to still enjoy herself and the basics of it - exchange of power, etc.

Therefore, they'd be no need to feel guilty about it. As long as she's having fun, getting turned on, what's the problem? 😉

I was so hoping you were going to give a personal example! I never hear about you playing IRL. 🙁

 

[NonConTickler]

When offered the opportunity to tickle a 'vanilla' person, (I mean properly.) Does anybody else get nervous/conscious of their actions and which detracts from the whole experience? When I was in a relationship, I felt too guilty to tickle by girlfriend who wasn't into it, even though she had the greatest feet and laugh I've ever tickled, for more than maybe two minutes!

I would just say "this is what I'm into, if we're going to be together it's not optional. Don't like it, there's the door" If she balks at it, NEXT.

 

[PlayfulCarbonara]

I make an early assumption that the person doesn't mind. I watch them kind of closely and gauge their reactions accordingly... but I don't worry myself over it. If someone doesn't like to be tickled, you'll know. People who don't like to be tickled are generally very ticklish, and despite the number of ticklephiles in the world being small... these people generally get tickled a LOT. Even vanillas can't resist the urge to tickle a ticklish person. So, if you get a quick giggle in and don't get yelled at/slapped/punched in the face/kicked in the groin, you are doing ok. If you do, quickly quit and duck for cover until they have had proper time to cool off.

 

[rhiannon]

I would just say "this is what I'm into, if we're going to be together it's not optional. Don't like it, there's the door" If she balks at it, NEXT.

I'm sure that's why you are in a great, loving relationship! 🙂

Therefore, they'd be no need to feel guilty about it. As long as she's having fun, getting turned on, what's the problem?

I think I remember that in this case she wasn't turned on, it was more like a favor she did to him and they ended up breaking up over it. Do I remember correctly?

 

[Cif]

It wasn't really just that... it didn't turn her on, but she didn't hate it. She enjoyed it because I enjoyed it and thus she got what she wanted. But it never stopped me feeling guilty even though she would sometimes entice me into doing it. Thus, it was never as good as it was in my head.

 

[rhiannon]

I think that's normal. I don't get my husband into doing it either because I know he's not into it.

 

[Gadilici]

Why feel guilty? If you had done it nonconsentually, I can see regret, but why regret something that after the first time she intentionally goaded you into doing it again?

If you feel that guilty, you may want to consider much lighter scenarios or make peace with the fact you have a sadistic streak. Anyone who agrees for a sadistic tickle session tickle them without guilt. Just be upfront that its going to be torture.

Otherwise, be more playful. More than one way to enjoy tickling.

Christopher