When She Says "Lets Just Be Friends"

[CheshireCatNY]

I think Larry the Cable Guy said it best: "When a girl says lets just be friends its like if your dog dies but your mom says you can still keep him."

Over the past 2 weeks or so, myself and my girlfriend and tickling partner of 3 years called it quits. Surprisingly it was one of the "best" break-ups I've had in the way that we both came to the conclusion that we we've always seemed to be better friends than anything else. We had one of those relationships where the way we bitched about stuff and took shots at each other, most people just assumed we were best friends or even brother and sister on some occasions. As for the actual RELATIONSHIP part....there were a number of complications. Sure we always had the physical attraction and did love each other unconditionally (still do in a way) but we had a lot of issues we just couldnt work through as a couple. Respecting her and our privacy, I'll just leave it at that.

This past Friday we went up to Connecticut to see a country concert (for those curious it was Big & Rich featuring Cowboy Troy and Gretchen Wilson). Basically I got her the tickets as a birthday present about a month ago, promising to take her not thinking we'd be splitting up. (for the record I really don't care much for country, I'm more of a metalhead but I did it for her) In the end the trip was good for us because we got a lot out in the open and dealt with a lot of personal demons. Last night is when we decided to officially call it quits.

I'm happy to say I was the one who made her realize how much she loved tickling. I mean what are the odds? Meeting a girl through a mutual friend not from the tickling community who had a foot fetish AND found out she was into tickling. Now thats what I call a one in a million shot!

I'm not gonna sit here and claim "She dumped me and it was her fault" or any of that....it takes two to tango and it took a group effort to drive this one into the ground...ROFL...Sure I'm upset....as anyone ending a 3 year relationship would be....but I take comfort in the fact that I'll always have her as my best friend and confidant no matter what happens. I mean we're still going to a New Years Eve tickle party together and it'll probably be less stressful not being concerned with what the other is doing behind a closed door with someone else! LOL

Well....(does bad Forrest Gump impression).....thats all I have to say about that.....

How are the rest of you doing? 😛

 

[Kalamos]

When you used to smoke your life seemed better from this side.
Just a consideration.

 

[CheshireCatNY]

Yeah I won't deny that my drug problem was a factor in all of this, however its because of her that I was able to give it up. She did tell me however that since I kicked the weed habit (have been completely clean for months now), the drug thing ceased being a factor in our problems. Trust me, there was a lot more going on....

 

[baptt1]

God love ya man. Lafry the cable guy is one of the funneisty guys to walk the earth as a mortal right now. My wife hates it, but she lets me have flashes f ticklishness to keep me in the game. HAHA eivl those women are.

 

[Kalamos]

Well, Chesh, I'm not even trying to claim I know what you're being put through.
I could relate my story, but it would be mine, not yours - and besides while misery loves company, you don't really need me to depress you. Any further or at all.

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😀

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Come on, man, cheer up.
This week I managed to cut, singe and *electrocute* myself more times than I'd care to relate.

And no, I'm no masochist.

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😀

 

[PhoenixMacGyver]

Point. Click. Save. Move On.

Relax, Cheshire. Life gets us all down sometimes. All you gotta do is bounce back...and find a NEW victim ..er.."friend"!

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

I don't want to say "I'm sorry to hear it" when theres nothing to be sorry about or you wouldn't be. You've said it yourself that it was a clean, honest, and above all, mutual breakup. That is perhaps the best type of breakup there can be and theres nothing to feel sorry for in that type of deal. If anything, this was a learning experience and it obviously taught you a great deal about your inner strengths and inner weaknesses. You helped eachother for as long as you were meant to, and now that time is over.

The wonderful thing about this, in it's resolution, is that the two of you remain close friends. If theres any silver lining to it, that would be it. Its always great when people can remain friends and be comfortable with that. In truth, some people are destined to be just friends even if more is possible, attainable and realistic. I'm glad to see you've come to terms with this experience and have accepted it for what it is. So many people would be so quick to cast blame on the other and allow negativity and bitterness into a situation.

You've still got your whole life ahead of you and many enriching experiences to come. Hang in there.

 

[morgandee]

when she says such garbage it is baseball time with her head as the ball

 

[LonelyKimiko]

EEEK Oriy! *runs*

 

[His Divine Shadow]

Oriya, its a wonder they haven't locked you up yet. XD

At least you can take it in stride, Chesire. While I would be foolish and trite to say that you'll find another, better GF, I can hope that you will, if that's what you want. At least you had fun and didn't end with a blow-up with this relationship.

 

[LonelyKimiko]

Yeah, I'm with HDS, hopefully the time you had was good and it didnt end badly as you said. I'm sure you'll find someone better soon (sounds likea clechaised fake sympathy but i really mean it 🙂 ) Just keep ya chin up! *hugs*

 

[Dr. Eastmann]

Girls never say lets be friends to me anymore now that I am engaged to be married. I approve of this ancient joining called marriage. I want my mate to share my last name. So in short if a girl asks you to be friends go to her house and deficate on her kitchen floor. Shell thank you for it and youll be the better person. Good hunting!

 

[Hungarian21]

well....what can I say? Sorry to hear it, but things like this happen...you just gotta learn to live with them. :happy:

 

[Kalamos]

It's the grammar police here.
It's spelled "defecate".

Now you can resume your normal activities.

 

[Dr. Eastmann]

It's the grammar police here.
It's spelled "defecate".

Now you can resume your normal activities.

Thank you Kalamos I cant help but be embarrassed as I am somewhat of a defecation expert! 😀

 

[Kalamos]

I think most are. Living beings can't live without.

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I just found a bit extreme the idea of having a crap in her fridge just because she had dumped him.
But hey, I'm old school.

😀

 

[LonelyKimiko]

Oh yeah, the poop in the fridge is the new trend ^^ .

 

[Kalamos]

One of those quaint british customs I guess...

 

[LonelyKimiko]

Hehe something like that. All I can say is dont look in the glass cupboard...

 

[Goodieluver]

I will be the sour milk here and say it cant remain friends. Now yes i did not date someone as extensive as you did, my longest being 1 month and shortest being two weeks, i attempted to remain friends with these people but to me it seemed i was doing all the work to remain friends\talk and they didnt care. Also an issue that became a problem was the issue of jealousy\bitterness when they would brag or talk about guys they were currently in to. I wonder if it will be harder on you since you were with her for years and as a best friend, you guys should discuss alot of topics, but you may not like it when she starts talkin about findin a new exclusive tickle buddy for herself or such

 

[LonelyKimiko]

I see ya point there, but I know it is possible to hit a point where you dont get jelous anymore, though it takes quite some time, and in my case a regular dose of fluroxetine 😵 . But there is light at the end of the tunnel, so dont give up hope 🙂 .

 

[Faramir]

Oriya, its a wonder they haven't locked you up yet. XD

ditto ... but I have a sneeking suspicion it won't be long. 😀

 

[Faramir]

I approve of this ancient joining called marriage. I want my mate to share my last name.

...it's not all it's cracked up to be ... 😀 ... and you know you're in trouble when she decides she wants to have one of those hyphenated, two name, last names!

 

[Goodieluver]

to quote kramer
"They're prisons, man-made prisons, you're doing time. You go to sleep at night, she's there, you wake up in the morning, she's there. It's like you have to ask permission to, to use the bathroom. And you can forget about watching TV. You know why? Because it's dinner time, and you know what you do at dinner time?"You talk about your day. 'How was your day today, did you have a good day today or a bad day today?' 'I don't know, how about you? How was your day today?'"