When they do what you don't want

[Bonnie]

Yesterday, my girlfriend was tickling me (unbonded). She knows my fetish very well. I may have been resisting the tickling a little...holding back my laugh or something, i don't remember. She adjusted her position over my stomach and was tickling my feet, which she typically uses as a tactic to just get me laughing so she can go back to my stomach (we both prefer stomach tickling on me). So she starts tickling my feet, and im laughing, and then she starts to pull my socks off. I freaked out yelling "no! dont! no!" because, really, i can't even remember getting my feet tickled without socks on. I ALWAYS wear socks...even when i sleep. I'm self conscious about my feet (not really for any reason...i think a lot of women are...and im one of them). Anyway, i was yelling no and kicking around, and she was asking "why? why not?" and laughing. (i wasnt screaming in torture or anything just so you know...my gf is not abusive...but i didnt want her touching my feet because 1. it tickled a lot and i was trying to be a brat 2. im self conscious of my feet)

My point is.... it turned me on a lot that she finally ripped my sock of anyway and tickled the crap out of my foot, mostly because she did it despite the fact that i was begging her not to.

So my question is (to lees, mostly)...does anybody like to have their rules broken? Do you like when the tickling stems more from the ler's ambition than your own? I guess i do!

 

[milagros317]

There are hard limits that I have and I would be furious (and never play with the Domme again) if she broke one of the hard limits.

But, apart from that, it is fun to have your boundaries stretched.

 

[cloudgazer2k]

YES!!

Um...I guess that's a bit emphatic there.

I enjoy it immensely when my tickler goes for the places she knows will set me off, regardless of how much I beg her not to. We both know that, until I use the safeword, everything is fair game.

Having a safeword actually makes things more intense for us. I can shout "STOOOOP! NOOOO!" all day long and she'll just keep going. But once I say "RED!", that is THE signal to end it. If you and your girlfriend want to make things more interesting, maybe you ought to discuss a safeword that you both can use and remember easily. That way, a simple "STOP!" won't end the fun if you don't want her to.

 

[Bonnie]

Mmm i agree Cloudgrazer.... Question... do you like your safeword limits stretched? Not too far, that is, just by half a minute at the most. My girl always does that and i love it, although it can be a little painful because my muscles are so tired. But i just love feeling like she gets as much joy out of it (or more!) than i do.

 

[cloudgazer2k]

Mmm i agree Cloudgrazer.... Question... do you like your safeword limits stretched? Not too far, that is, just by half a minute at the most. My girl always does that and i love it, although it can be a little painful because my muscles are so tired. But i just love feeling like she gets as much joy out of it (or more!) than i do.

Some people, like myself, have 2 safewords. Besides the one I mentioned already, we also use "Yellow". "Yellow" for us means to slow it down for a bit, so as to not necessitate the need for "Red". Helps to prolong the session a bit. However, in some cases the main safeword can also mean that there's a problem (feeling woozy/about to pass out, for example). This helps to make sure the session stops entirely. You never want to go too far or else risk harm.

 

[EvenSteven]

rules are for breaking

Being pushed past the limits of what i might have said i'd prefer are the scariest, most exciting part of the event. Only then, can i truly realize what it is to have given up control. A woman should not be reluctant to take me to her domain of pleasure. She should place her desire to derive pleasure from tickling me above my desires.

 

[taz_tickler]

Since it turned you own that she took your sock off and tickled anyway, It sounds like the end result was positive....let yourself get lost in the moment and see where it leads. If she does something that you really don't like, you'll know it and so will she.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Few things are as hot as being forced to do something you don't want to do and finding out that you love it.

 

[Angel77]

I like having my boundaries pushed, for sure. 🙂