When you tickle too far.

[FLBowler]

A lot of people have been having relationship issues and getting hurt because of tickling, I thought making a thread to give out guidelines to help those who are in relationships with people who DON'T have tickling fetishes. We need to give guidelines as if we were those who left, not people who wish they could have a relationship based off or around tickling.

1) I believe number 1 above all is there is a time and place for everything.
That being said it's okay to maybe do little playful tickles once and while but going straight for the sexual with someone who isn't ready for it might be too much. We shouldn't hide our fetish or feel it is wrong, but when and who we tell is very important as well. Hopefully this can catch on. As more people add to it, I will add other things i believe no one else says them first.

In the end, This is for every guy and girl who has been hurt by ruined relationships.

 

[FLBowler]

I was never hurt, and have never had problems, but it can't be such a close minded effect, it's not dumb. I agree everyone it will be different, that's what this can be for, to help in the different situations. Every situation has accepted norms regardless of who says it does or not.

 

[scorpionldr]

I think all of this "wait till this time" "Dont wait to long" "playful tickles is okay but not tortuous" "every now and again is alright" "slowly ease them into it" "blah blah" "etc. etc." is dumb. Everyone is different so in the end while your advice might be great for your particular situation with the person who you experienced it with, its probably not for them.

I think people should just learn to judge situations for themselves following their own gut, instead of quit relying on others for advice, then maybe they not have so many issue!

People are too shy with their kinks! Why? Because you will be afraid to be hurt if your partner doesnt like it? Well then why you wanna be with them anyways?

Its not necessarily stupid, but if your going to let someone else's guidelines get in the way, then your not having fun. My simple rule is this: if you stop hearing laughter, and it goes into silent or whining, your running down your lee. Running down the lee is not fun. And of course, no means no.

 

[3xPIN]

Sometimes you just don't wanna share things with other people. not because you are ashamed, you just don't want them to know. I feel most people don't care. So as for 'guidelines', I think it varies from person to person. And really, most of it is just good ol' fashion common sense.

People are too shy with their kinks! Why? Because you will be afraid to be hurt if your partner doesnt like it? Well then why you wanna be with them anyways?

Um...There are other reasons besides your kinks to want to be with someone. Not freaking them out because of a non-vanilla lifestyle can be unnerving. and getting them to accept it or get into it is a bonus.

I guess what I am saying is, It isn't all about the kinks.

 

[ticklemepls]

you cant make a set of 'guidelines' everyone and every relationship are different. you need to do whats best for you and your partner- period end of story. if they're not into it, dont push it. if they're willing to explore, start slow and work up to intense.... simple really.

 

[TJDoom]

I have to agree that situations vary and sometimes greatly. If you can make your partner or potential partner laugh and be comfortable without tickling, the tickling itself will go fine because you're in-tune and communicating. Not everyone goes into it with the same intentions or etiquette, though. Being considerate goes a long way and unfortunately there are quite a few fetishists who fail to be in their pursuit of gold (harassing ladies, talking smack on dudes who aren't into male stuff like they're prejudice, being greedy, etc.)

Those same people get into manipulative relationships and when it comes tickle time they go overboard, sometimes in an awkward way or silence. If you have no regard for your lady friend or dudefella, shit won't last. Occasionally it's because the non-fetishist isn't understanding enough or interested enough in the person to go to some places, but there are many reasons why it can go sour or both part amicably.

 

[Ishaanshah]

Well I don't see any problem with tickling. So far its going fine for us.

 

[TickleMyFancy]

you cant make a set of 'guidelines' everyone and every relationship are different. you need to do whats best for you and your partner- period end of story. if they're not into it, dont push it. if they're willing to explore, start slow and work up to intense.... simple really.

Yeaaaa this.

 

[scorpionldr]

you cant make a set of 'guidelines' everyone and every relationship are different. you need to do whats best for you and your partner- period end of story. if they're not into it, dont push it. if they're willing to explore, start slow and work up to intense.... simple really.

This s exactly why on several occasions I've heard girls tell me I'm prettymuch the nicest guy. Of course, they never fail to mention how they originally hated tickling, but suddenly through me not handling them like a board of wood, things mysteriously come out okay..... lol

 

[Ishaanshah]

It seems like an double edged weapon. So, enjoy it while it lasts or as long as you enjoy it.

 

[TickledToDeath]

I have mentioned this several times before in different threads about people wanting to take tickling to different levels and be tickled for longer periods of time and so on but are afraid of it going too far or maybe not being able to handle it or perhaps giving up too soon not really wanting to..... and my suggestion was the increased interval method of tickling for a set period........starting at 15 seconds non stop no matter what......then stopping for a few seconds or so then resuming for 30 seconds non stop no matter what the lee says.........then stopping......resuming for 45 seconds non stop no matter what etc etc and so on increasing by 15 seconds every time and not stopping for that interval of time each time started....gradually extending ones endurance. 15 seconds may not seem like alot however when it is increased and is non stop regardless....eventually, when it gets to the longer periods.......4 minutes 5 minutes 6-7-8 minutes and more and it is non stop no matter what the subject says.......it can be quite intense..............

 

[rhiannon]

and more and it is non stop no matter what the subject says.......

I still think a safeword is absolutely necessary unless the lee does not want one.

 

[TickledToDeath]

I still think a safeword is absolutely necessary unless the lee does not want one.

IF the lee absolutely insists on one yes but if the lee wants to take the tickling up a level and experiment with no mercy play yet still playing with a "safety net" as it were with the method I described, then one can have the best of both worlds.

 

[rhiannon]

IF the lee absolutely insists on one yes but if the lee wants to take the tickling up a level and experiment with no mercy play

As I said, yes, if it comes from the lee. It should never be pushed onto the lee by the ler. 🙂

 

[TickleNightmare]

I have mentioned this several times before in different threads about people wanting to take tickling to different levels and be tickled for longer periods of time and so on but are afraid of it going too far or maybe not being able to handle it or perhaps giving up too soon not really wanting to..... and my suggestion was the increased interval method of tickling for a set period........starting at 15 seconds non stop no matter what......then stopping for a few seconds or so then resuming for 30 seconds non stop no matter what the lee says.........then stopping......resuming for 45 seconds non stop no matter what etc etc and so on increasing by 15 seconds every time and not stopping for that interval of time each time started....gradually extending ones endurance. 15 seconds may not seem like alot however when it is increased and is non stop regardless....eventually, when it gets to the longer periods.......4 minutes 5 minutes 6-7-8 minutes and more and it is non stop no matter what the subject says.......it can be quite intense..............

I really like your method. I'm gonna try that. I'm not a big fan of safewords either. I really enjoy when I get the opportunity to tickle without safeword.