Whoops...I've been busted!

[SmashTV]

So, I got home from a driving lesson earlier today, and commented how cold it was to my gf. She said maybe I was in need of a good tickling. Hmmm. She then repeated it, then saying 'As you've been on tickling websites...'

And I thought I'd been so careful...my gf doesn't seem too bothered, but she's not overly keen. She knows of my tickle and foot fetish, but not this.

Has anyone else ever been in this postion. What do you reckon I should do? Just ride it out and accept the digs, or try to make amends? It's not THAT bad, eh?

Eh?

Cheers, everybody,
SmashTV

 

[john getty]

When I used to live with my mother, I used to use her computer, one day I walked past her office and she shouted from the room "TICKLING TICKLING TICKLING??? IS THERE SOMETHING FUCKIN WRONG WITH YOU??!!"

Thankfully over the years a lot more family problems have come about, we've never spoken of it since.

 

[fygar]

If that ever happened to me, I'd be speechless! Just say something smart and challenging like "You tickle me?? You couldn't tickle me if blah, blah, blah..." make something up.

 

[Wildtime]

I'd just go with it. It's just one less obstacle you have to worry about in having an open and trusting relationship. Besides, she might accommodate your tickling now that she knows about it.

 

[mart]

I should just try to brazen it out: "you've no idea of all that's on the Internet. Just put in tickling and you get all this stuff..."

 

[Gadilici]

When I was 13....and 15....and 17, I got sat down, talked to, and grounded.

Apparently everyone was afraid I was some sort of perv or had crushes on my teachers (well, ok, one, but she was 23, taught history, and was a cheerleading instructor...every straight male at the school had a crush on her). Now, considering that my parents would probably have been advised by "counselors" on the state payroll, they were probably told it was a form of sexual deviancy, and that I was a prime candidate to be a rapist or something when I grew up. You know, make it sound as sordid and vile as possible.

The irony is, I didn't understand why people thought I had a crush on these women (still don't for a few of them...yech). It didn't become a "fetish" (properly, still isn't) until I was 20. No sexual thoughts related to tickling at all until well after high school.

So, yeah, being "busted" (not that there's anything wrong) by people who have no idea what's going on, and who are getting advice from the Brain Police, sucks. Bad.

Christopher

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

If she already knew about your tickling fetish, are you saying that she's only unhappy that you've been visiting sites about it? What it is about that that bothers her?

Regardless, you shouldn't have to put up with "digs" about your interest. She shouldn't be insulting you or teasing you about it (in a mean way - we all tease playfully). What would you do to make amends? Stop visiting the sites? I guess I don't really understand what her problem is with it.

 

[Gemini_Tickle]

I think maybe you should just explain what the TMF is all about...tell her something like "as you know I'm into tickling and since it's not that common I enjoy communicating with others that share my interest." Maybe you should even let her look through some threads...if she already knows of your foot and tickle fetish I would bet that what really bothers her is that you were keeping this a secret...and she may feel a bit left out...even if she isn't "into" the same things as you, being your girlfriend she wants to be the one that you talk to, find pleasure in, etc. So I'm guessing that if you reassure her that you love her, are attracted to her regardless of tickling, etc. and tell her that the websites are a way for you to network with others who have similar interests...not a way to replace her or get your kicks behind her back...

my two cents...hope it helps!

XOXO
~Gem

 

[MrTicklefeet]

Well it depends. If it's just going to turn into a teasing thing, that's no good. I've been there. Next time she says something like that, say yes, and see what she does when you land the ball back in her court for a reaction.

 

[Authorsfreedom]

If she already knows about you liking tickling, I'd say you're in the clear. Now you can say "yeah, and all these people like it too!"

 

[TropicThunder]

What would you be making amends for? You technically didn't do anything wrong...

 

[Sandisk444]

i dunno what i would do, it would sure as hell be awkward though lol

 

[DJ Tickler]

I always love these threads 😉

Be proud of who you are and if she has a problem with it, every time she begins to talk about it change subjects and don't let her bring it up again.

That being said...being proud is one thing, shouting "I HAVE A TICKLING FETISH" out the window of your car may not be the best way to go LOL 😛

DJ Tickler

 

[SmashTV]

Thanks one and all!

When I was caught, I explained what the site was about, calling it an 'outlet', where I comment on people's experiences (I didn't think it would be wise to say I watch clips!). She seemed taken aback, and can be quite...not old fashioned, but old before her time every so often. I rationalised it by saying that there are lots of worse sites I could look at, and it's not as if I look at out and out porn (which is true).

Things seem back to normal today, so if there was any blow-up it probably would have happened by now. I think it's more the fact that I've been on a site that bothers her more than anything else. It's not as if I'm a newbie, it's only now she's found out about it. However, my talking to people on other sites (music sites, mainly) has niggled her. The difference there is that some people on music sites have become close friends in the flesh, whereas I've only met one person on here in real life. Also, music isn't a fetish!

On the plus side, it's out in the open now, so I don't need to worry about hiding the TMF links. I will, of course (!), but she knows I use the site. So be it...I'm a tickle lover, and proud of it!

Thanks again, guys, it's nice to have other people's perspectives on things.

Cheers, everybody,
SmashTV

 

[rhiannon]

Some people really need to come into today's world! Even if you were watching porn, so what!? Just about every guy does it! And why would you say "there are worse sites I could look at"? Why is this site so bad at all?

My husband is totally aware I'm on here - doesn't bother him at all, and why should it?

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Some people really need to come into today's world! Even if you were watching porn, so what!? Just about every guy does it! And why would you say "there are worse sites I could look at"? Why is this site so bad at all?

My husband is totally aware I'm on here - doesn't bother him at all, and why should it?

Some people feel threatened at the idea of their S.O. talking to other people, specifically of the preferred sex, about something that turns them on. It can be frightening to see that person talking with a bunch of people who understand an aspect of their sexuality the way you never will.

 

[Adam]

Some people feel threatened at the idea of their S.O. talking to other people, specifically of the preferred sex, about something that turns them on. It can be frightening to see that person talking with a bunch of people who understand an aspect of their sexuality the way you never will.

I agree. In fact, for me, something like this would be a deal breaker as far as relationships go. Hopefully, in the OP's case, his significant other has kept this between the two of them.

 

[sole seeker]

Hey Smash, I just ran across this today. I don't know who this quote is from, but it seems an appropriate response to your question:

It's natural to compare yourself to other people, but there really is no comparison. You have your own, unique personality. So what if you're not every person's cup of tea? All that matters is that the people who get you are the people you want to be around. So please, stop wasting your energy trying to impress someone who just isn't worth it. Watch out for others who want to change you!

Hang in there, my man. You're too good a dude to let some chick give you crap about something this basic to your nature. Besides, those who sneak around checking up on their mates have no respect for their privacy.

 

[rhiannon]

Some people feel threatened at the idea of their S.O. talking to other people, specifically of the preferred sex, about something that turns them on. It can be frightening to see that person talking with a bunch of people who understand an aspect of their sexuality the way you never will.

I guess that can be understandable. I just think as long as it is only online and talking, where's the problem. 🙂

 

[SmashTV]

All seems well now, people, and I don't think she's going to say anything to anyone. It's just the fact that my 'secret visits' have been found out. I'm certainly not ashamed of my fetish (though wouldn't shout about it!), but it's the fact she knows I visit the sites. Does that make sense?

I'll still come on here, though - I've been here for nearly a decade, so why stop now?

Thanks again for the positive feedback, guys - I didn't expect my thread to get so much feedback!

Cheers, everybody,
SmashTV

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I guess that can be understandable. I just think as long as it is only online and talking, where's the problem. 🙂

I agree - but not everyone thinks like we do 🙂 Some people are far to insecure to allow their significant other to get close to others of the preferred sex, particularly when it comes to discussing a fetish.

 

[rhiannon]

Sometimes I wonder if it is just the secrecy that creates the problems...when people hide something they do from their partner, it makes it look like it is wrong, like they themselves feel it is wrong.

Another example: Let's say a female colleague called my husband, or his ex called my husband. If he stayed around me talking to her - no problem. If he left the room - I would be suspicious!

So if people didn't try to hide that they visit the site, maybe there would not be a problem!

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Sometimes I wonder if it is just the secrecy that creates the problems...when people hide something they do from their partner, it makes it look like it is wrong, like they themselves feel it is wrong.

Another example: Let's say a female colleague called my husband, or his ex called my husband. If he stayed around me talking to her - no problem. If he left the room - I would be suspicious!

So if people didn't try to hide that they visit the site, maybe there would not be a problem!

In some cases, you're probably right. But I don't think that would apply across the board.

 

[rhiannon]

Of course, there are always people who are over-the-top jealous!

 

[Rectangle]

Dude, if it's your girl. just be honest about it.

Girls dont mind tickling dudes. It's easy as mess to get "tickled" as a guy.
They think it's cute and it makes you seem vulnerable and a softy, they eat it up.

I've never had any probs getting my various GF's to tickle me bro.

The only prob comes in tickling them.


But as a dude wanting to be tickled, you've got it easy bro.