why aren't females good at tickle torture

[ticklemesilly]

I have a had a pretty serious tickling fetish for a while now.First of all I am 100% male ticklee. Everytime I find a female friend who is willing to try tying me up and tickling they never fail to disapoint me with their tickling skills.Do you think it may be because women aren't as naturally as aggresive as men? Or maybe they just aren't into tickling? Just once I'd like to find a female who would tie me down to a bed and finger tickle my ribs and feet until I was on the verge of passing out then let me catch my breath and start all over.Is it just me or is this the case with everyone else.I am 25 years old and have never met a woman who could tickle me into submission.

 

[BlackRose21]

I am a female, and I love tickling men. I used to tickle my ex boyfriend all the time, and he was unbelieveably ticklish. Though, I never said anything to him about maybe tying him up. I've had so many fantasies, I'm just very shy about it. I'm very aggressive at it as well, so I don't think I'd be too bad at it. I would love to find someone who would let me tie them up and tickle them, but I feel as though I may weird someone out.

 

[starfires]

Maybe you aren't looking in the right places? I know at least one woman who is very good, and she is not even into tickling (though she knows that I am). She is moderately wild and kinky in other ways, though. So far I have found it a good policy to leave the mundanes to their own devices when it comes to looking for playmates.

 

[TicklishSinner]

I tihnk you just arent running into the right female LERS cuz damn i am a LEE but i have come across some serious dominate female LERS

 

[AffectionateDan]

Dude, you SERIOUSLY haven't been meeting the right female ticklers...

EVERY woman I've ever met in the tickling community, regardless of whether they profess to being a 'Lee or a 'Ler, has been not only devastatingly skilled at tickling, but naturally merciless as well. I've got to disagree with you. Women are outstanding ticklers, and I'm 95% tickler myself, so it's not like I won't recognize talent when I see it. Some of them are scary good at it, too. Always a sign of someone who enjoys what they're doing, eh ladies?

 

[angie]

I am female and consider myself to be a good tickle torturer though I have not yet had the chance to tickle someone to their limit or beyond ......If I had the chance I would be in heaven 😀

 

[BellaRisa]

EVERY woman I've ever met in the tickling community, regardless of whether they profess to being a 'Lee or a 'Ler, has been not only devastatingly skilled at tickling, but naturally merciless as well.

This is right on the money, but I can see where Ticklemesilly is comin' from. I rarely meet a girl (or guy, for that matter) outside the Tickling and/or BDSM Lifestyle that knows what the heck they're doing. There are definitely some yummy exceptions (please no cards and letters about your 'nilla girlfriend who ties you up and makes you see God), but for the most part vanillas are clueless; too light or too hard and always too brief. Usually they can be taught by example; that can kill some of the fun if you feel weird about programming your own tickler(kinda like setting up your own surprise party) but it's worth it if they can pick up the ball and run with it. There's a slightly sadistic thug hiding inside most people in my opinion, ya just gotta tap into it

Bella

 

[milagros317]

I can assure you that many women, both amateur and professional, are quite skilled at tickling and quite merciless. 😀

Here is a true story about my experience with two professional Dommes:

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=28953

 

[Jason_F/M]

They are out there...

 

[funny852]

Angie

Where in NJ do you live and do you liked to be tickled as well.
Eric

 

[angie]

hi funny

I am in Hudson County (JC) and yes I love to be tickled

 

[Em Es]

Maybe you body's defense mechanism is the problem

As others in this thread have stated, you don't have to be male to be a good tickler. Maybe women aren't as good at sports, but plenty of females have tickled me well. I've seen many girls tickling others with passion that matches or exceeds mine.

Maybe it's being tied down that's the problem, Ticklemesilly. When girls have tickled me by surprise, I've crumbled like a house of cards. But women who have tied me down had to work harder to tickle me; I guess that's because when I know I'm about to be tickled, the body's defense mechanism may take over, especially since I'm helpless, tied to a bed.

On a 1 to 10 ticklishness scale (1 being not ticklish, 10 being jumping high as the treetops), I'm a 7 or 8 if caught off guard but only a 4 or 5 if the woman first ties me down. Maybe you are the same?

One thing I have not tried is being blindfolded when tied and tickled. Perhaps if you can't see where she's going to tickle you, it could increase your sensitivity. I have not tried being blindfolded only because I like to see what a good time my tickler is having as she goes crazy on me plus because she's wearing just a g-string.

 

[funny852]

angie

Are you interested in hooking up and sharing our tickling fantasies.
You could tickle me and then i could tickle you.
No pressure, you can set the style and speed.
How old are you and where are you most ticklish.
Eric

 

[angie]

hey funny

E-mail me at [email protected] and lets talk 😀

 

[MrPartickler]

angie, you rock!

Please send clones out west at your earliest convenience. 😉

 

[angie]

Mr P.

I will get on that for you right away *giggles*

 

[AffectionateDan]

MrPartickler, your sig line quote is funny!

Maybe it's being tied down that's the problem, Ticklemesilly. When girls have tickled me by surprise, I've crumbled like a house of cards. But women who have tied me down had to work harder to tickle me; I guess that's because when I know I'm about to be tickled, the body's defense mechanism may take over, especially since I'm helpless, tied to a bed.

This too, is right on target, at least for some. I am, for the most part, strictly a tickler, but I've bottomed a few times, and it's been my experience that when I'm restrained, I'm simply not as ticklish--it "goes away" for some reason. It's about "head-space", really. I don't understand it, and frankly, don't care to. All's I know for sure is that if I'm tickled while I'm free, it tickles, and if I'm tied up, it doesn't. Bizarre.

 

[drew70]

I think women are way better at tickling than men. Perhaps you just haven't met the right women.

 

[magic fingers]

Personally I don't like it when a woman uses long nails. Nails tickle for a minute or two, then they just scratch. Fingertips(w/o nails), tongues, lotion, etc. are all much more effective on me

 

[terorizer]

Re: Dude, you SERIOUSLY haven't been meeting the right female ticklers...

Some of them are scary good at it, too. Always a sign of someone who enjoys what they're doing, eh ladies?

Good gawd do I have to agree! ESPECIALLY the ones who are professed 'lees!! *shudder*

 

[AffectionateDan]

No surprise, really, if ya think about it...

Good gawd do I have to agree! ESPECIALLY the ones who are professed 'lees!! *shudder*

Those 'Lees know exactly what makes THEM go ballistickle 🙄 , so it makes sense that they'd know the right touch and where to go for the best effect with it.

 

[chrisheaven]

women are really great ticklers

I ahve found women to be outstandingly great ticklers.
I have met many who really KNOW how to torture

 

[ericr]

I suspect it's because the women you have tickle you are gentle persons. I am a very ticklish guy (an eight or nine on a ten point scale) whether I am tied or not. My wife (who is a gentle person and I generally love that trait in her) has slowly learned to tickle me silly. In the beginning she was always pausing to ask if I am alright. The pauses detracted from the the ticklish experience. She has learned to pause less often. Initially she was too gentle but she has learned to tickle the heck out of me, altough she is not willing to take me over the edge.

As others have mentioned in this thread. There are some women who are very aggressive ticklers and some that are such aggressive ticklers that they are scary. I have to admit that altough I would like to be tickled until I was over the edge, that I would be scared of being in bondage at the mercy of the dominatrix types.

For male ticklees who are not attracted to the more aggressive female ticklers, I suggest that you work with your gentler female ticklers in order for them to learn how you want to be tickled. For instance, tell them that you would like to be tickled non-stop in a very ticklish spot for a certain number of minutes no matter what(for a lot of us that might include both armpits or both soles.) Have them use a tool non-stop that you cannot stand (for me scribling on the oiled soles and under the toes with a dull pointed object such as an out-ink ballpoint pen.) Have them tickle in order to elicit a certain quality of laughter (for me my laughter becomes high pitched [falsetto], screaming and hysterical when I am intensely tickled but is an essier ah ha ha ha in my baritone speaking voice when I am mildly tickled.) The key to having her learn to tickle you the way you want is for you to learn to do something for her that she wants; in an ideal world, it would be learning to tickle her the way she wants. Few of us guys are that lucky. In the real world, it is likely to be something else; it could be learning to give her a full body massage, learning how to maintain a rose garden for her...the sky is the limit. This is, however, an essential element for her to learn how to tickle you and for her to enjoy tickling the daylights out of you.

 

[magic fingers]

Another theory is that most women(especially white women)are too uptight, and simply aren't into tickling. Think about it. How many times do you see m/f tickling in public, but you NEVER see f/m tickling. So when the vanilla ladies are asked to tickle, their hearts(or fingers) really aren't into it, and they usually give a half-assed effort.

 

[chrisheaven]

f/m in public

I've seen f/m tickling in public- been on the RECEIVING end of it too- and it's really great