Why do girls overrate their ticklishness?

[method11236]

How many times have you heard a lady in your life say, "Oh my God, I am soooo ticklish!". Delighted, you start to poke and tickle away only to find out she's about as ticklish as a brick. Why, dear friends, do young ladies seem to think that their slight compulsion to squirm and giggle when tickled constitutes "soooo ticklish".


My theory is that most girls, like most people, are retarded.

Discuss.

Meth.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

It actually had that happen to me once..Her name was Tammy Brown, no place on her was ticklish it was a major bummer sadly earlier in the week she had said she was

 

[SteveyB]

Easy one this.

How many other experiences of ticklishness have you ever felt but your own? No matter how ticklish you think you are, can you really consider your own reaction or is it just a pure reaction that overwhelms?

So, unless you tickle other people a lot - and some people don't believe it or not - you will probably think you're very ticklish...

*Nod*

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Not all girls, mind you.

I know women on this forum of whom it could be said that there's no way in hell they could possibly overstate this state of affairs... 😛

But I know what you're talking about. I worked with a girl recently, who, in a vanilla conversation, let me know in uncertain terms how ticklish she was, for whatever reason. When I found out that this was complete and utter bullshit, she pretty much became vapor in my eyes.

Knockadoo gets very upset when you try to bullshit him about things like THAT.

 

[theObsessed1]

some things to consider before leaping to judgments....

People can be talking about the exact same thing (i.e.- a statement that, "I'm ungodly ticklish!") and be at polar opposites with the related expectations that go with it.

Some ticklers think there's only one way/place to tickle. If that doesn't get them the results they want, they blame it on the ticklee rather than expanding their own arsenal.

Some ticklees only allow themselves to react fully and openly if they know and like their tickler. Comfort levels can have a big effect on reaction even within the ticklee.

Keeping an open mind is always a good idea.

 

[theniteavenger]

My ex was hot and cold, sometimes she was ticklish, other times not so much.
It was the most maddening thing in the world. I didnt stick to one spot either,i search her whole body, hard, soft, fast, slow none of it mattered.

 

[Helena]

Hello Meth,
I am 100% lee, and I consider myself really ticklish. A motivated ler with the right touches and patience is truly a wonderful thing. I enjoy being tickled.
I think I would find it impossible to accurately rate my ticklish body against another lee because not every person reacts the same way to tickling. You should know that.
If someone deliberately misled you into thinking she was ticklish...and you are certain that your skills as a ler are impeccable...then that's a bad experience.
I cannot comment any farther without knowing more about the situation.

How many times have you heard a lady in your life say, "Oh my God, I am soooo ticklish!". Delighted, you start to poke and tickle away only to find out she's about as ticklish as a brick. Why, dear friends, do young ladies seem to think that their slight compulsion to squirm and giggle when tickled constitutes "soooo ticklish".


My theory is that most girls, like most people, are retarded.

Discuss.

Meth.

 

[maniactickler]

Story of my life! ive had this happen more times than i care to say. this is why i dont get my hopes up anymore when a woman says shes really ticklish.

 

[BellaRisa]

A lot of people, especially women, have developed natural defense mechanisms against being tickled. They don't do it on purpose, it's just what happens over time. How ticklish a person is and what kind of reaction they display don't always correlate, trust me. Some of the most ticklish women I know will just freeze up and give very little reaction if they're not relaxed and comfortable enough to let go at that moment; keep in mind that freaking out and falling apart in giggles the way we like a 'lee to do is highly embarrassing for lots of folks, even in private they feel silly.

And there's always the possibility that they just aren't that ticklish for you 😎 ...

Bella

 

[Bugman]

A lot of people, especially women, have developed natural defense mechanisms against being tickled. They don't do it on purpose, it's just what happens over time. How ticklish a person is and what kind of reaction they display don't always correlate, trust me. Some of the most ticklish women I know will just freeze up and give very little reaction if they're not relaxed and comfortable enough to let go at that moment; keep in mind that freaking out and falling apart in giggles the way we like a 'lee to do is highly embarrassing for lots of folks, even in private they feel silly.

And there's always the possibility that they just aren't that ticklish for you 😎 ...

Bella

Great points all.Last year i had the privalige of meeting one of our lovely lady members.We were both rather nervous,and she was ticklish but not quite what i expected.The second day we were both more relaxed,and she was much more ticklish.I have always wonderd what might have happened had there been a third day,but that was not to be sigh.

 

[isabeau]

Great points all.Last year i had the privalige of meeting one of our lovely lady members.We were both rather nervous,and she was ticklish but not quite what i expected.The second day we were both more relaxed,and she was much more ticklish.I have always wonderd what might have happened had there been a third day,but that was not to be sigh.

what a very lucky lady to have met you buggy...

i never claim to be all that ticklish...and when you are nervous your sensations are diminished..

i agree with my good friend 1Obsessed...it all can depend on the type of tickles being administered.. and the ler😉

 

[Bugman]

what a very lucky lady to have met you buggy...

i never claim to be all that ticklish...and when you are nervous your sensations are diminished..

i agree with my good friend 1Obsessed...it all can depend on the type of tickles being administered.. and the ler😉

Indeed,i was the lucky one.😀 An experience i hope to repeat with this young lady,if it should come to pass.

And i misspoke in my first post,it was earlier this year hehe.I guess i'm ready for 2007 to be here.

 

[Edge]

All I know is the girl I met this summer to try tickling on thought she was only ticklish on her back...boy did I prove her wrong lol...she kept saying she could not believe how ticklish she was...she'd make a good video for sure.

 

[indivision]

I think a lot of girls, especially young girls, see extreme ticklishness as a sign of femininity and therefore exaggerate it for said reason.

And while I can see that it was just a tongue-in-cheek comment, the retarded comment is a just a tad harsh. Some girls may be describing their ticklishness as it was when they were little kids, because that may have been the last time anyone tickled them. I'm sure it's possible that ticklishness can diminish over time.

Also, the fact that they're expecting to be tickled might have something to do with it, too.

Just my .02 worth. 😉

 

[Mitchell]

While it may be true that some girls do overrate their ticklishness, I don't think all of them do. Since I've been on here, and before I joined the forum, when I was asking tickling questions to female letter pen pals, I have had plenty of girls tell me that they were not that ticklish, or that they were sometimes ticklish, and sometimes not.
As to the question of why at least some girls do overrate their ticklishness, I think the reason might be to increase their attractiveness, sex appeal, and physical vulnerability to men. While I was not as into tickling before 1997, when I realized this was a fetish for me, I always, for some reason, found very or extremely ticklish girls, more desirable and sexy, then ones who weren't ticklish, even if the girls who weren't ticklish, were the hottest girls in the world, and the ones who were ticklish, weren't so hot. Personally, for myself, I would rather be with a mega ticklish girl who was a 5 or 6 in the looks department, rather than a knockout 10 in looks, who wasnt ticklish at all. Then again, I have a tickling fetish, so maybe I am looking at it from a biased point of view.

Mitch

 

[simulated]

It depends entirely on what works on that specific person. I know one woman who's very, very ticklish, but only to an incredibly light touch. On the other hand, a light touch does nothing for another lee friend of mine, but a firmer approach gets her going.

So perhaps these people weren't lying to you guys after all?

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

As bugman pointed out. It may be because the lee isn't used to the touch of the ler and his technique may work on one lee but not on another lee. Ive heard that some lees find scratching hurts while others find it tickles.

Ive noticed on some vids that the lers usually tickle the same way to every lee they have. Never changing their technique. That might be it also.

 

[Redmage]

I think you might be seizing just one of several possibilities and running with it. It's possible that a woman might overestimate her ticklishness. Of course that's not something that only a woman can do. It's also possible that the person tickling her just isn't very good at it. Or it could be a style thing - the way the 'ler prefers to tickle isn't the way that she prefers to be tickled. Or it could just be mood.

 

[method11236]

I think a lot of girls, especially young girls, see extreme ticklishness as a sign of femininity and therefore exaggerate it for said reason.

And while I can see that it was just a tongue-in-cheek comment, the retarded comment is a just a tad harsh. Some girls may be describing their ticklishness as it was when they were little kids, because that may have been the last time anyone tickled them. I'm sure it's possible that ticklishness can diminish over time.

Also, the fact that they're expecting to be tickled might have something to do with it, too.

Just my .02 worth. 😉

yes! bingo. that's the correct answer.

 

[Peace_sign]

From personal experience, it can be a comfort-level thing.

I actually don't know what to answer when people ask me "are you ticklish?"

That's because, if I say yes, then they'll try to tickle me. If I say no, they'll try to tickle me. And most of the time, they try to do it in public or the 'ler is someone I don't know very well. When I'm not comfortable, my ticklishness freezes and the only reaction they get from me is a cold stare.

But in private and with friends, I found out that I can be very ticklish and giggly.

That's just me, though. I don't know for sure what's with the people you talked to.

 

[Dancer]

How many times have you heard a lady in your life say, "Oh my God, I am soooo ticklish!". Delighted, you start to poke and tickle away only to find out she's about as ticklish as a brick. Why, dear friends, do young ladies seem to think that their slight compulsion to squirm and giggle when tickled constitutes "soooo ticklish".


My theory is that most girls, like most people, are retarded.

Discuss.

Meth.

Hey Meth - you better be a little careful about calling most girls "retarded" You don't know who you're dealing with on this site. CALLING ALL GIRLS ON THIS SITE.......ARE WE GOING TO TAKE THIS SITTING DOWN FROM THIS GUY!!!!!!!!111

 

[marcusb]

I think it's because it's a sensation they often can't control and even to someone who some might consider mildly ticklish, that feeling that jolts through their body when someone pokes them in the side or runs a finger up their foot is shocking. To them, they are ticklish. Perception from their side how much it tickles and how you see their response may not match... but that doesn't mean they're not ticklish.

 

[tickles]

Interesting post.....Meth...but I agree with dancer...if you are possibly looking to meet a female lee here.....I'm not sure name calling is a good strategy...

having said that, it sounds as if you believe that you already "know" what is happening with your lees...but I'll contribute..

I know that my first experience with a tickler that I didn't know took a while for me to loosen up. If I had detected that he was disappointed with me from th get go....I likely would not have gotten past a giggle and a squirm....Some new lees feel vulneralble and a bit awkward until they feel safe...in all aspects. Another thought is if they do exaggerate, they may just want to impress youor attract your attention.....not necessarily a deceptive motive.

 

[Iggy pop]

I find that many girls usually underestimate or overestimate their ticklishness. The most common responses you hear are "I am not ticklish" or "I am very ticklish" You do not hear these as often, "I am moderately ticklish" or "I am only slightly ticklish", or "I am average ticklishness"

I know in some cases, especially in the cases of "I am not ticklish", they are being deliberately deceptive, however, the majority of time I think the average person does not know how ticklish they really are. It is not something they put deep thought into, so their responses are often less than accurate.

 

[4Pawz]

Obsessed made a great point, as did Bella, but there is also one missing. Not all people react the same to being tickled. Some don't laugh at all, some giggle, some will blow your ears off with their laugh. Some scream, some squirm, and some people become paralyzed. For someone to think they understand what another is feeling physically is a little unreasonable, unless of course the person tells you. All senses are necessary, as is discussion to find out what they like and how comfy they are with you.

Personally, I do have that mechanism. I can turn off all feeling if need be. Some wacko guy tries to poke at me, it won't work.