Why do girls tickle each other more than guys?

[drummer_punk]

I was just reading the thread, "College tickles". I believe a girl wrote it and was talking about tickling between girls. She seemed to really enjoy being tickled by other girls and tickling other girls. It made me realize that when I do see tickling going on, I only see girls tickle each other. I've never seen a guy tickle another guy. This is FINE by me, it would gross me out to see a guy tickle another guy. Girls tickling girls is a major excitement to me. Just a weird observation I guess, what do you all think?

 

[4Pawz]

I see more of the m/f instead of the f/f, but considering most of my friends are guys that might be why. Tiff's a great person, I have seen her have a lot of fun in the chatroom. Personally, I do not allow females to tickle me, but that is personal preference, and I know that many of the members do like f/f, which is great for them. Preferences vary here just as the people do, that is what makes us interesting😉

Pawz

 

[Ticklebell]

It's all about socialization..

Society these days sees male/male affection as wrong and embarrassing, which is, of course, ridiculous. Girls don't have to worry that if they hug, kiss on the cheek, or tickle eachother that people will think ill of them or that they are gay . Guys have been socialized to think that showing affection for one another is a sign of weakness, homosexuality, or just plain unmasculine. They've been made self-conscious about it. Girls, are also, I think, naturally more warm and open about that sort of thing anyway. Hope I made some sense. Mwah!
-Cait

 

[ITickleGuysAlot]

why not alot of guys tickling guys?

Yeah, its some kind of social stigma..."guys should NOT tickle guys!"

I don't know what the percentage is, but alot of people consider tickling as a sexual thing...so if most guys feel that tickling is a sexual thing, of course they're not going to tickle each other.

I, for one, don't do tickling as foreplay, rather mostly in a bondage/control scene. So I tie and tickle guys alot.

If you're a guy and want to try gettin tickled like crazy, you can visit my webpage below to see how to contact me....later.

http://www.hometown.aol.com/cooltguy10000

 

[mabus]

ticklish_faerie, you took the words right out of my mouth....now I can't talk, AHHHH! Buy, that was a bad joke, but don't worry, I have worse ones 🙂.

To add to that, hell, many guys won't buy a video that has a guy tickling a girl, or are reluctant to if they do. I say this, because I am that way. On that aspect, you usually end up with a guy who is like "Wow, I'm tickling this girl!" and starts talking..and talking...and talking, and you can't even hear the girl laughing over his talking!

In real life, sure, you don't want guys hugging you or getting close, but we guys will let a girl. When I meet good friends, I will hug the girl, but only shake the guy's hand. But you must understand, this is not mild homophobia, but a defense against homophobes! If you are a guy and seem the least bit gay, you will be at the least, ostracized, and at the worst, tortured and killed. Gay males get a lot more violence directed at them than lesbians, since guys are more aggressive. Conversely, if a guy beat up a lesbian, well, that would be a big mean man beating up on a poor defenseless woman, and that guy would be the one ostracized by other guys for beating up a girl. I'm a heterosexual through and through, but I have defended the rights of gay people to friends, and seeing their violent reaction, I usually step back before they start punching. They have gotten close. I was having a conversation with a catholic guy once, you know, catholics, christians, love thy neighbor, don't cast that stone, to be humble is to be in God's favor...and he was pounding hs fist in his palm violently to make his point by the end of the conversation, so I backed off before he started beating on me to finish his thought, and left him in his hatred. Hatred for people he didn't even know. And that was only one example. That is why guys will NOT tickle other guys. For our own safety, mainly.

 

[Maria_Rose]

Mabus that is a good point. I can understand how guys would fear that sort of affection between two of their own sex, and become violent in reaction to it. While homophobia takes it's toll on gays and lesbians both, it certainly results in violence more often directed towards gay men. For one thing, two girls tickling or holding hands or otherwise touching one another are not always assumed to be lesbians in the first place. My hetero female friend will link arms with me and we will walk down the street with no one so much as looking at us. Whereas with two men doing that...well, most of the time male friends don't feel comfortable doing that, so people notice it right away. It's really sad, because men need friendly touch and affection just as much as women do, regardless of sexual preference. It is a pity that there are people filled with so much blind hate in this world. I believe they must be very insecure individuals.

 

[toyou444]

Everyone here really hit it on the head with society's view of men touching other men. MY best male friend I will give a big bear hug too occasionally (even in public) but no one else. Meanwhile we have one male friend who will tickle anyone (male or female) and never think anything of it. I have tickled my male friends in the past, but not so much lately...maybe the closeness of college allowed for more of that where the occasional visit doesn't now. I dunno? I also think many people automatically link tickling and sex around here. Maybe that keeps them from doing it to.

~ toyou

 

[Texas_Tickle]

Re: It's all about socialization..

Society these days sees male/male affection as wrong and embarrassing, which is, of course, ridiculous. Girls don't have to worry that if they hug, kiss on the cheek, or tickle eachother that people will think ill of them or that they are gay . Guys have been socialized to think that showing affection for one another is a sign of weakness, homosexuality, or just plain unmasculine. They've been made self-conscious about it. Girls, are also, I think, naturally more warm and open about that sort of thing anyway. Hope I made some sense. Mwah!
-Cait

I know what you mean and it's amazing how hypocritical people can be. The same guys who down M/M are the same ones who praise F/F.

They call M/M homosexuality while calling F/F "ok".

Is it not the same thing?

 

[drummer_punk]

THANK YOU all for your help. This is the greatest tickling forum in the world. (I don't know how many there are, probably very few, but still!🙂 ) You all made a lot of sense, I really agree with what ticklish_faerie said. It seems to be mostly about society and guys tending to be more aggressive. Another thing someone pointed was that if you consider tickling as sexual, you won't usually want to be tickled by the same sex. Of course this all depends, but you get my point. But some just think of it as fun and humorous. Great points by everyone, thanks for the help. 🙂

 

[omega]

If you are a guy and seem the least bit gay, you will be at the least, ostracized, and at the worst, tortured and killed. Gay males get a lot more violence directed at them than lesbians, since guys are more aggressive.

I agree that homosexual men have suffered terrible things at the hands of "homophopes". I guess I would just call them "scum of the earth criminals".

What I don't understand is why we don't hear anything about homosexual violence against each other and against hetrosexuals. For example, law enforcement has known for some time now that some of the worst domestic violence occurs in homosexual relationships. Also what about the case where two homosexual men beat and killed a teenage boy because he refused to have sex with them. When two scum of the earth criminals beat and tie a homosexual to pole then leave him to die it makes national news. But make it the other way round and nobody seems to care. What's up with that?

 

[BellaRisa]

...maybe the closeness of college allowed for more of that where the occasional visit doesn't now. I dunno? I also think many people automatically link tickling and sex around here. Maybe that keeps them from doing it to.

~ toyou

I think you hit it on the head regarding college days, Toyou. I had an extremely closeknit group of mostly guy friends in college, in fact some of us lived together for a few years after graduation (heck, I even married the really cute one 😎 ). There was actually quite a bit of M/M tickling, and there was nothing remotely homosexual about it; it was just a 'goofy' yet very efficient and sadistic way to torture another guy. We had one friend in particular who had a big mouth and was insanely ticklish, he was held down and tickled half to death on several occasions. He was a big guy and heavy into TaeKwonDo (sp?), destroying him in such a 'silly' and humiliating way was hysterical to the other guys. To this day I enjoy M/M tickling because of those times, it's very cool to see the look of sheer ruthlessness on the ticklers' faces and the tormented and helpless laughter from the guy being tickled in the same video or situation. I think that's why I can appreciate F/F, btw 🙂

Bella

 

[BuggieBoo]

Re: Re: It's all about socialization..

I know what you mean and it's amazing how hypocritical people can be. The same guys who down M/M are the same ones who praise F/F.

They call M/M homosexuality while calling F/F "ok".

Is it not the same thing?

I'm not so sure about that. It seems to me that society thinks that male homosexuality is the norm, while women are excluded.

Although, I am a theater person, so that could be part of it...

 

[46and2]

I'm very heterosexual and I give a hug to alot of guy friends, usually if I haven't seen them in awhile. I'll hug women everytime I see them because like most guys I like touching the opposite sex. I stopped having issues about gay people and worrying if someone would think I was gay if I hugged them when I was 17. As far as tickling guys go I can't do it. To me it's like a guy rubbing up against you in a sexual way or somthing. I don't even like watching other guys tickled by women (no it's not a threat to my masculinity, it's just like I wouldn't want to see a guy have an orgasm). Eeew....bad mental pictures ....back!back!😛

-Phil