Why do you think...

[Kitchy-Kitten]

Why do you think that other people think tickling fetishists are so weird? I mean, really, I know a lot of people find us weirder than the people who like to staple their penises to their stomachs Really, why do you think people find tickling fetishes so weird? We're not hurting anyone and we're all a pretty friendly bunch. I don't understand! 🙁

 

[ChosenofMystra]

Social norms and mores is my guess?

It doesn't fit in with society's expectations of what is to be accepted as standard practice and is such labeled as deviant behavior. Just as many other kinks and fetishes are labeled as "weird" or deviant as well because they challenge what is considered the norm in our culture/society.

And who knows? Maybe they're just afraid to try it 😉

 

[drew70]

I think it's all in how you present your interest in tickling. When you say "I have a tickling fetish," that probably raises a lot of flags with "normal" people. I personally tell people I dig being tickled, and leave it at that. And if anybody into pain tells you you're weird for being into tickling, that would be like an Alchaeda terrorist calling a Southern Baptist a religious zealot.

 

[911]

I have this fetish and I think it's wearid simpley because it's not very common.
Anything that's not common is strange and maybe misunderstood or others just can't relate to it.

 

[tickles]

OOOOWWWWWEEEEE!.....stapling a penis to a stomach....OMG...tell me it isn't so.............

anyway, I agree...I think it is how you present it...although I haven't shared this either...."BAWK"...BAWK.....I'm not sure I would come out and announce this as my fetish...rather....something I like to do beause it is fun...should the conversation turn a bit sexual.....well, its something that can get you turned on too....by BDSM standards...this is totally vanilla...and when I told my husband....he didn't ANYTHING of it...he thought is was cute...I think we are reluctant because it is very personal........I feel vulnerable when I share anything about tickling with anyone....

 

[4Pawz]

I agree that it is partly in how you approach it. It also depends upon the people. If they are so uptight and worried about being "normal" or socially accepted, anything that deviates from the "norm" will be taken negatively.

Personally, I'm not normal, and never care to be. So if someone tells me they have a fetish, or they enjoy abnormal things, I only care that no one is hurt against their will. So long as they enjoy it and no one gets hurt (this includes animals, freakin nasties), I say more power to them.

 

[milagros317]

Some people live in a narrow little world and condemn everything that isn't exactly what they consider normal. It is best to ignore such people.

 

[Strider]

After 25 years, I've come to the conclusion that there's a lot of jackasses in the world. I generally try to ignore them rather than concerning myself with why they think what they do.

 

[Mike3355]

i know i've got a few off the walls comments about my fetish after i told a lady friend of mine, i think mainly it's because they don't understand what would draw you to that, some come around and others well, others don't, just one of them obstacles of life..

 

[Luv2Tickle69]

Lemme tell ya something.....I stopped feeling weird about my interest in feet/tickling once I leafed through that first issue of LEG SHOW some 18 years ago. If anything, realizing I was far from alone in my interests served to open me up about it more than I ever had!! I did have the fortune of knowing a few female friends that were already cool with the idea of me tickling/fondling their feet, and even relished in being able to do it back to me (hell..I WANTED them to!)...but I felt less....INHIBITED....than I might've prior to my discovery of LEG SHOW. That magazine provided a lotta inspiration.

Not to mention....all the OTHER fetishes of the world.....(some of which, I just SHAN'T elaborate...I don't have the stomach for it...honest).....kinda makes my (or anyone ELSE'S) appetite for feet/tickling seem tame and innocent in comparison....BELIEVE ME....

 

[b0xr]

I have always hid my interest in tickling to everyone. It isn't exactly mainstream and I doubt it would go over real well with some of my closer friends who are all vanilla (at least I think they are) A few years back I attended my first and only Tickling get together at a fetish club in NYC. Some of the attendees were from the tickling community and some were people that belonged to the club and were into other forms of S&M...B&D...whatever. These people thought tickling was a strange activity!! I couldn't believe some of the input from men and women club members about tickling. One girl said that her Master would tickle her just to make her beg him to whip her...and she hated being tickled. Most of the others never even thought to use tickling as a play activity...virtually non-existant to them. At that point I thought to myself...if THEY don't get it then I doubt many other people would "get it" and I kept my fetish to myself so to say. 😎

 

[jimmy224]

yeah, what 911 said. its just not common. i mean, a friend was telling me how some ppl are have a fetish for amputations?? me and some other ppl thought that was kinda weird because its not common and it just sounded weird to us. anyway, i like tickling but even i think its a little weird.

and also, when "vanillas" (huh?) think of tickling, i bet they think of feet. just because mostly foot tickling is on tv and stuff. so when they think "you have a tickle fetish" they think u like feet, and feet are smelly.. ewwww. lol

 

[alex]

Other people don't think tickling fetishists are weird. Other people don't know we exist. Any thoughts that we're weird are all in our minds.

 

[terorizer]

I think it's because tickling is such a generic thing for most people, they can't make sense out of an above average fascination. I think though, it's generally people who have that "tickling is what you do when you see a baby" kinda association. Many folks who are say into massage or dance, or who tend to be in touch with their sensuality don't think of it as all that weird.

 

[Speedbump]

Other people don't think tickling fetishists are weird. Other people don't know we exist. Any thoughts that we're weird are all in our minds.

I agree. Most of what we think the 'normies' think of us, is most likely in our minds. Still, I am sure more people now than ever before know we exist. Hopefully eventually people can see it as being normal like a fixation on breasts, etc.

We'll see what the future holds. 😉

 

[chrisheaven]

Some people live in a narrow little world and condemn everything that isn't exactly what they consider normal. It is best to ignore such people.

Absolutely, Milagros-- you are 100% correct, pal
great to be back here

 

[tommytikl]

Lemme tell ya something.....I stopped feeling weird about my interest in feet/tickling once I leafed through that first issue of LEG SHOW some 18 years ago. If anything, realizing I was far from alone in my interests served to open me up about it more than I ever had!! (hell..I WANTED them to!)...but I felt less....INHIBITED....than I might've prior to my discovery of LEG SHOW. That magazine provided a lotta inspiration.

I was the same way Luv2T...I saw that Leg Show mag and everything just clicked, I didn't even open the mag and I knew that I was not the only one in the world that liked the body parts below the hips...
And then they had a few tickling segments and WOW did that change everything for me!!!

Also to the original thread point...think about how far spanking has come in the mainstream..a few years ago spanking wasn't really in the mainstream but now every normal porn has a girls ass being slapped and you see it suggested in many of the mainstream mags around to "spice things up" so it just takes time for "odd" things to become mainstream and who knows if tickling will ever be mainstream but hey are any of us normal...

 

[Adam]

Why do you think that other people think tickling fetishists are so weird? I mean, really, I know a lot of people find us weirder than the people who like to staple their penises to their stomachs Really, why do you think people find tickling fetishes so weird? We're not hurting anyone and we're all a pretty friendly bunch. I don't understand! 🙁

I know what you mean. There are, after all, folks who enjoy having urine or feces deposited on them. Now, that is one fetish I cannot understand.

 

[David.s]

I agree. Most of what we think the 'normies' think of us, is most likely in our minds. Still, I am sure more people now than ever before know we exist. Hopefully eventually people can see it as being normal like a fixation on breasts, etc.

We'll see what the future holds. 😉

You know, I think I'd hate to see tickling truly normalised. Can you imagine it being a really common thing with loads of people liking it like we do? There's a certain charm about it being so private and weird. Hmm, that said I'd probably change my mind on that if tickling being mainstream meant I actually had someone to tickle, lol. I think most of any feelings we have of being ostracised by others for having this particular kink are imaginary - I mean, how many people have even heard of this niche? It's not like a foot fetish or something. Sure, I imagine the vast majority of people would find it totally crazy and weird, but so what, that hardly means they'd take offence to it or find it disgusting. A lot of people find Japanese culture crazy and weird, but they obviously don't actually think it's wrong or have any kind of problem with it.

 

[ManOMann100]

I think its because most people think of tickling as a child's game, and therefore as nothing that could ever be sexual or anything fun between adults. I for one take the complete opposite view. I will never tickle my own future children or my young relatives simply because I don't see it as appropriate. It's odd because when I see a parent tickle their kid to me it just seems....wrong because of how I view tickling, just like they don't understand how we can enjoy and many of us can be turned on by tickling other adults.

 

[Amanda]

For the same reason they think Gay people are "disgusting," Mentally Retarded are "stupid," and teenagers are "jackasses"

Prejudgement.

This world sucks sometimes lol

 

[alchemy]

What I have always run into is that they simply don't see the appeal of it. Even people into BDSM don't understand it. It's a combination of something that is outside of the social norms and something that most people wouldn't even think to put a sexual conotation behind. It's simply a situation where everyone thinks that everyone else is odd. When you are dealing with a sexual fetish, a particular deviance like that, unless you are into it, it will not be understood. It's unfortunate that human beings have to be so preoccupied with the social grid of what is normal, but it's simply human nature to be wary of anything they don't practice or understand. I can say that there's a better chance that we will be accepted more quickly than the penis staplers will simply because tickling is fairly uniform and non-threatening.
But then again, who cares. We like what we like and if others don't get it, oh well.

 

[Luv2Tickle69]

I don't really know Kitchy-Kitten......when you consider what else there is that people are getting turned on by these days, foot-fetishism, tickling and other related things that bring us all here is comparitively mainstream.

....but there'll always be someone who thinks it unusual.....can't help those that don't know....at least, not all the time.

 

[Capnmad]

I think it's all in how you present your interest in tickling. When you say "I have a tickling fetish," that probably raises a lot of flags with "normal" people. I personally tell people I dig being tickled, and leave it at that. And if anybody into pain tells you you're weird for being into tickling, that would be like an Alchaeda terrorist calling a Southern Baptist a religious zealot.

Good point, Drew. It's also in how you present yourself with it. If you're timid and hesitant, and don't speak from a position of confidence, recognizing it as a natural if somewhat non-mainstream human behavior, others will pick up on that, and sensing weakness or even what they perceive as guilt or shame in its admittance, they will treat it and you as weird. It's self-fulfilling prophecy: If you are unsure of yourself and think they'll think it's weird, you'll embody outward manifestations of these insecurities, and open yourself and your way of thinking/way of life to attack. Showing insecurity often just invites attack.

Now, they may do this anyway, but they're less likely to do so if you're confident in yourself and with your desires. Be a top of the line showman lawyer with this stuff -- like you've got the easiest case in the world to defend (because you do) -- show that confidence, and be forthright and honest (provided it's the proper setting and time to disclose it). If you're rejected just because you like something, keep in mind that the person rejecting you is a close-minded idiot who likely isn't even honest with themselves about their own wants for fear that they're weird.

I've been forthright and secure in expressing my interests, because I know there's nothing to be ashamed of, and I have yet to have someone reject me or think I'm weird for the fact that I like tickling.

 

[LeeAllure]

I think that it has something to do with the way it's presented.
If someone said to me that they had a "insert word here" fetish,
and it was obvious that they weren't joking, then depending on
how well I knew them, I might be either repulsed or attracted
by that and them.

I don't particularly care to hear relative strangers talk with me
about their sex lives, unless it's that kind of environment, and
the word fetish means sex life to me. If someone says "I like
tickling/being tickled" then that has a completely different
connotation, whether or not they incorporate it into their sex life.

I'm far more open when someone talks about something in an
innocuous and uncharged way, than if they just jump in with
what might be considered an extreme viewpoint.

Lee