wife losing sensitivity

[Grolsch]

Hi, I wonder if anybody has had this occur, or has any insight.

I've posted a couple of true descriptions of tickling my wife. She is, or at least was, a very ticklish person. Her worst area is her feet, but she's generally ticklish everywhere.

Well, over the last, maybe, 6 momths or so, there's been a marked reduction in her sensitivity. Whereas in the past a poke or squeeze to her belly could have her in stitches, now it's very rare she even laughs. Her sides, from her hips to her underarms, used to really crack her up, but now it's more just a wiggle. Her feet are still pretty ticklish, but a couple of years ago if they even got touched, she'd scream. If tickled for a few seconds, she'd go into hysterics. Now even her feet seem less sensitive.

Anybody have a clue why this might happen? For reference, she's in her late 20's, which seems kind of late to lose ticklishness. I know in the past she wasn't pretending to be ticklish, because (she's been very open to the whole tickling thing) she said how she used to be very ticklish, I've seen other people tickle her, how she's sure she got it from her mother, etc.

Anyway, just curious to hear some people's opinion and insight.

Thanks,

Grolsch

 

[steph]

hmmmm

Intriguing dilemma...Any change in her physical or emotional health at all lately that might coincide (like maybe she's on a new prescription) has a new job, had a baby, etc?

 

[Grolsch]

I should point out I love my wife whether ticklish or not, but it is a curiousity.

Good point, but nothing beyond typical life. No illnesses, no overtly physical things like loss of feeling of touch overall, no change of job, no baby, nothing!

Quick question: why would having a baby change sensitivity? Pardon me if I'm just ignorant on the topic.

I know people tend to lose ticklishness over time, but it just seems odd that a person would at her age. But, maybe it's more common than I thought and I'm just wrong?

 

[steph]

hmmm again...

So much for my stint as a rocket scientist! <gg>

Well, having a baby has the potential to change a woman's body in about a hundred different ways, but it's different for every woman--sometimes it's a chemical change, making them more prone to mood swings, there's the infamous slowing of metabolism, etc., it could manifest itself in many different ways. for example, my best friend who's had 2 kids notices her pain tolerance is WAY greater than it was pre-baby. My sister, who used to practically live on the family's boat, discovered after her first that she suddenly gets seasick even LOOKING at a boat now....

 

[johnjo]

your wife

do you think she may have just built an immunity to being tickled in certain places due to regular tickling. someone who i know who was tickled on her feet regularly started to build up an immunity. after 6 months of a break, a sudden tickle attack proved that the immunity had gone again. just a thought. j.j.

 

[Mitchell]

I once heard this from a pen pal of mine who was in her early-mid 20s. She told me that at the time she talked with me about tickling, she wasnt ticklish, but that up until a couple of years earlier, she had been incredibly ticklish, especially on her feet. Of course, none of this can be proven for sure, because she was just a pen pal. My main ex girlfriend was 19 when I met her, 22 when we broke up, and she wasnt ticklish at all. I do believe my ex gf may have been ticklish when she was younger too, but again, she lost it. It's too bad as a tickler about your formerly very ticklish wife losing her ticklishness, but it sounds like she has other great qualities, and its the substance of the relationship thats important. From your post, it sounds like you have that with her, so you are a very lucky man, my friend, whether shes ticklish or not.

Mitch

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Look, I can vouch that this actually happens...
I was insanely ticklish when I was a little boy, and lost ALL sensitivity when I was in my teens, and it came back very slowly. It's incredible to me, but now I'm more sensitive than I've ever been. The Miz and I had a very leisurely tickle fight recently, and I couldn't get a hang on what I was doing, every time she touched me, it turned me into jelly. I don't know, go figure, shit happens.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

my usual suggestion

hi grolsh (good beer btw). i had a similar experience.
my wife lost about 75% of her ticklishness. as a result our life got real boring! she eventually went to a hypnotist, and man, what a re-birth!
she's now more ticklish, and in new places, then when i first met her.
if your wife wants to regain her old level of ticklishness, talk to her about hypnosis.

steve

 

[steph]

Wow, that's trippy y'all...

I know for me, hitting the infamous female sexual peaky mid-30s sent my sensitivity thru the roof...I'm sure it's just temporary Grolsch.

 

[mgctouch]

Stress just may be the culprit.

If she is under a lot of stress, she might not want to cope with the joys of tickling and she may not even realize it - it could be totally subconscious.

If there are major stress factors in her life, try to deal with them and get past them and the sensitivity may return as the stress goes away.

In the mean time, maybe it is time to introduce baby oil to her belly, armpits, sides and feet.

It couldn't hurt and it might help.

I wish the best to both of you.

 

[steph]

i think

maybe mgctouch has a point (and may I just say for record--YUM?) <gg>

XOXO

 

[tommytikl]

Sure having a child could effect her ticklishness.
Did she have a C section or natural childbirth...if she had a C section, they cut through alot of nerves in the belly area that may not grow back the same.

She may just be getting "used" to your tickling.

I know a guy that was tickled so much he lost his ticklishness basically!!!

Yeah, try other things besides fingers,maybe try a blindfold??

 

[KoocheeKoo]

Sure having a child could effect her ticklishness.
Did she have a C section or natural childbirth...if she had a C section, they cut through alot of nerves in the belly area that may not grow back the same.

Possibly for some women, but my sis has four kids and my girlfriend Traci has three....both of them underwent a C-section during their first pregnancy, and are just as ticklish now in their late 30's as when they were teenagers (Traci seems even more ticklish than I remember back then, especially on her soles).

Ticklishness is a strange thing....some folks do seem to lose it as they age, while others don't ever seem less sensitive (my 88 yr old great aunt for example). I'm less ticklish on my neck and underarms than when I was 12, but can't tell any difference on my feet or around my waist....am still extremely ticklish there (and lordy does my girlfriend know it 😀

 

[natural tickler]

Tommytikl is right about the C section. My younger sister used to be really ticklish on the belly, but since she had her son, wasn't ticklish there anymore, but the funny thing is, with all my sisters after childbirth their feet were more ticklish than before!!!


I hope that's a good omen in the next 2 1/2 months!!!😀