Wife lost her ticklishness

[nightdragon]

Been here for the majority of my adult life, one of the few things I've written over the years.
I live here in the South Florida area and been married for like 10 years now.

Due to my wife's multiple sclerosis, the ticklishness response is mostly gone or is an uncomfortable feeling for her.
Just depends on how she is doing on that day. She was hiding it for a while, till it became an issue in our marriage.
Now that we have worked past it, our sex life has gotten better. We have always been adventuress in our lives, and she has dated women in her past.
Being relatively young still, wondering if I'm ready to go the next 40 years without a big part of my sexuality.
Not saying I'm going to leave her, I'm still just processes it.

This is part venting, part wondering if anyone else has similar situations. Or better ideas on outlets.
Spending large amounts of money at strip clubs or other places isn't me either.
I don't think it's realistic, to think I'll be able to turn off or rewire parts of my sexuality.

 

[Soles_Scream]

First off, I'm sorry that your wife is going through the health issues. Since she is adventurous, it's possible that you can incorporate tickling where possible even with her present. The key with exploring that is to make it clear through actions as well as words that you are committed to her.

Tickle sessions - though they cost money - tend to be a safe way to indulge without the concern of either side catching feelings i.e. no strings. Anecdotally I'd say most session customers are married or in some form of long-term relationship (granted their SOs typically don't know).

Should you decide to go this route, you need make your partner feel like they aren't losing you in the process. Regardless of what you decide to do, you will need to have open dialogue with her, and have her be part of that process as much as she can be.

I can't give you advice on how to rewire yourself unfortunately. Unless you decide to use shame as the weapon against your fetish.

 

[Ghostwriter727]

Been here for the majority of my adult life, one of the few things I've written over the years.
I live here in the South Florida area and been married for like 10 years now.

Due to my wife's multiple sclerosis, the ticklishness response is mostly gone or is an uncomfortable feeling for her.
Just depends on how she is doing on that day. She was hiding it for a while, till it became an issue in our marriage.
Now that we have worked past it, our sex life has gotten better. We have always been adventuress in our lives, and she has dated women in her past.
Being relatively young still, wondering if I'm ready to go the next 40 years without a big part of my sexuality.
Not saying I'm going to leave her, I'm still just processes it.

This is part venting, part wondering if anyone else has similar situations. Or better ideas on outlets.
Spending large amounts of money at strip clubs or other places isn't me either.
I don't think it's realistic, to think I'll be able to turn off or rewire parts of my sexuality.

Sorry that you, and your wife are going through this. MS has made many improvements over the years, and is much more treatable now than it was decades ago. (Sidenote; I lost my mom to MS over 30 years ago)

I think open, and honest communication with the wife is the only way to handle the sexual preferences as far as tickling, and other kinks are concerned.
She knows you well enough to know what is important to you I'm sure.

The mind can be innovative during times like these and you will find that there are ways to suppress these urges when they need to be put away for a season.

The kinks are never really gone, but we find ways to focus on the more important medical matters and prioritize what matters most during this season of difficulty.

If foot play, laughter, or some other lesser fetish you might have that coincides with tickling is still a possibility than perhaps shifting your focus from tickle play to some other type of play temporarily is an option. That kind of depends on your mindset or desires.

Its a tough question, but I commend you for reaching out for help and direction during this difficult time period.

I wish I lived closer to be able to help you brainstorm for ideas (south Florida does sound nice this time of year) but feel free to dm if you need to vent, or gain better insights.

I know its uncharted territory, but you will get through it, and it will strengthen your relationship in amazing ways.

Take care of yourself friend.
Glad she has a great husband to help her get through her medical problems.
Let me know if I can help in any other ways.🤜🤛

 

[tickle_prince]

Yeah I’m sorry to hear this for you and your partner,

I think both messages above mine have offered you some really good advice.

The only thing I can add about finding another outlet is maybe looking into something creative, like art or writing. I don’t get to tickle a lot in person myself, given I don’t have anyone close by etc, so I write a lot of tickle fiction with my online friends on this forum or rp it’s not the same as in person, nothing can really beat that physical connection but I really enjoy using my imagination and characters. But I’ve done tickle writing for like (20+) years now and I still find I am able to indulge my tickle kink and desires via when I do that so it’s an excellent outlet for me!

A lot of the time it’s about finding someone you have a good chemistry with even in writing(and I have being lucky enough to find that on here over my years of chatting with reaching out to members). Again communication is Important part of that even if you explore rp or writing with other members on here, and you should be honest with your wife to if you decide to do that, you might even find she can help you so you get to both indulge in your tickle kink without touching. It’s just a suggestion, and it works for me

I am sure you both we get thru this!

 

[nightdragon]

Thank you all for your reply's means a lot.