Women who love to tickle and be tickled....

[apologetick]

I keep reading that women ticklers and ticklees are reticent in chat and discussion groups because we are in the minority when it comes to a tickling fetish. I do not feel this is strictly true. Nor do I in my opinion believe that the men asking for tickling really want a prelude to sex. In my experience tickling can lead into an erotic/sexual/sensual experience but sometimes tickling in itself is the behavior and the goal. As a female who loves tickling and being tickled (erotically and aggressively) I would like to hear how others feel about this and what your experiences have been. I am waiting...

 

[THEO]

It's me, Theo

Hi again. it's me, Theo, from the neighboring message (fantasy fulfillment).

When I mentioned what I did there about how women might not be as motivated to particiapte in these discussions, you certainly are the exception to the argument. That's great. My opinions were just my only solution as to why women don't seem to be plentyful or particiapte in these forums. What you've said not only sets me straight, but delights me. That is, now that you've stepped out, perhaps more will too. Thanks for your posting, and I hope to hear more from you on the other message posting. Also, feel free to email me directly with discussion topics.

 

[THEO]

Well, since you've asked about women who enjoy tickling experiences, and asked in general for everyone's experiences, I may be able to ask you how my fantasy would have turned out, had I gone through with it.
I posted this on the other message thread, but here is the jist of my fantasy:

TICKLING FANTASY

Actually, my tickling fantasy is quite simple, based on a scenario where tickling is used as an "interrogation" method against me, and the female is trying to get me to "talk". I imagine myself as a prisoner, tied helplessly spread eagled across a bed naked, and a female arrives to perform the interrogation on me.

There's a thrill in being completely helpless and vulnerable, knowing you're going to be given a merciless tickling. No control, no way to escape, just completely at her mercy.

The ideal way of fulfilling this fantasy, would be not knowing who the female is who's coming to interrogate me. For that matter, not knowing if there might be more than one female arriving to perform the tickle torture interrogation! That would be the ideal set up. However, to do this, one would have to use a trusted go-between, to make all the arrangements.

They say that anticpation is more than half the fun. Well, in this set up, it certainly would be a tense and anxious anticipation, laying there staked out across the bed, not knowing who or how many females will be walking through the door to "interrogate" me! But most of all, the "not knowing" what it's going to be like, having this fantasy finally fulfilled. Not knowing how it will feel to be mercilessly tickled, with no escape. The unknowns will intensify the anticipation, but then the actual tickling torture will be another thing!

So here I am, still behind that fine line that seperates fantasy from reality. Although I've come close to getting up the nerve to follow through on my fantasy, I never quite did (to my loss, especially when I had one opportunity in the past). Which is the lesser of two evils? Having to endure the frustration of not fulfilling one's fantasy, or cross that line of no return and risk disappointment (and forever destroying the mind's perception of the fantasy)?

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So, since you are a female who likes both tickling and being tickled, and has experienced it, what can you tell me? If I had gone through with it, would I have regretted it? Would I have enjoyed it? Would I have been better off not going to that risky extreme? I know these are general questions, and you can't answer me for that specific situation. However, based on your experience, and thinking as a woman, what would you say> I've often thought that women have a clearer and more realistic perspective on matters, including these. I thank you for your advice.

 

[TickledToDeath]

apologetick

I totally agree with you. As you have seen in my posts on this subject I said that there are definatly as many women into tickling and or being tickled as there are men.
I felt or feel that the only difference is that men are more OPEN with it then are the women for the most part.

Men in the tickle community expressing themselves is commonplace whereas if a woman comes out she is bombarded and pounced on only due to the rareity of their openness.
OF course there are exceptions to the rule and you gals know who you are(and so do we😉 😀 )but it is tougher for a woman to come out into the open and go as far as attending gatherings more freely than it is for us gentleman and for good reason.

The internet can be an UNSAFE place for a vunerable woman. NOT that I am saying that anyone in the tickling community is less than trustworthy but the ladies have to play it safer than the guys.
It's a matter of trust.
Men can afford to take more chances than women. Once bitten twice shy.

Once they do establish trust, you can expect the same intensity and gusto from them as you do from any man here.

They are indeed out there. I have met with some of them and they are as into tickling and tickle torture both giving and or receiving as anyone.
At my Hyenas Gatherings, when I open the invites to the ladies, I state that I PERSONALLY guarantee their and everyones' saftey.
That has indeed helped as a few have come to the Hyenas Club Gatherings that have not gone to any other open gathering before and all have left happy and satisfied as well as glad they attended.

I am sure there are others who host and have hosted gatherings that have had the same results.

Time, apprieciation,respect and patience is all that they ask.

Sex really for the most part does not even come into the picture. IN fact for alot, tickling is sex enough in some ways and in some ways BETTER!
For couples, tickling may be a prelude to making love and even used as foreplay making the whole experience that much more INTENSE and satisfying.
That is NOT the case every time and certainly NOT the case at a general tickle gathering.
Tickling is a fun and playfully intense experience that makes us feel GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD!
That is all that matters.
I have not seen more closer friends and genuine people in my life then those who share what we have in common and when we get together!


TTD

 

[MN Tikl]

Apologetick-

The fact that *only* men have responded to your post speaks volumes, don't it?

 

[MistressMia]

No it 'don't'...

This post has only been up a couple of hours for christ's sake. Only four responses and now mine makes a wopping five!. This doesn't mean that Female ticklefans aren't reading it or don't care.🙄 Give it some time, folks.

To answer your question, Apologetick...

I feel that in my experience tickling of any form does not have to lead to sex. If it does and that's what you want then that's jsut the icing on the cake!

I tickle play with my Husband everyday! Sometimes we get worked up and it leads to sex, other times it leads to more aggressive tickling until one of us caves in. It's all great to me! Happy Tickling!😀

 

[QBWeaver]

When I first got online and got into the chatroom in AOL I was bombarded with im's, at time trying to juggle 8-10 at a time. Not only was it frustrating but I wasn't able to do what I truly wanted to do which was to join in the chat. I'd try to politely ask that we chat later and too keep our chat in the room and some of the guys would actually get hostile. I even had a few accuse me of being a guy since I wouldn't chat with them. That was ok. Didn't matter what they thought. There were enough folks who had actually met me who knew. I just laugh when the guys say they won't believe I'm a woman unless they get to call me on the phone. Oh sure, I know there are guys online who seem to enjoy mascarading as a woman but I'd be crazy to give out my phone number to every guy who thought of me as a guy. All they need to do is talk to some of the other folks online to find out. But they sure aren't getting my phone number unless I REALLY want to give it to them for my own reasons.

We had some gatherings locally with DVNC and some of the folks who are regulars now. That made it this whole thing even MORE fun.

When I went to my first NEST, I was so scared at first. I didn't really know what I was getting into and the guest list was a ratio of about 4-1 guys to women. The best thing about going to NEST, besides getting to meet SO many of my online friends, was that lots more women attended when they found out that I was going. Safety in numbers I suppose.

Each and every woman there was treated with respect. The guys were really awesome that way. But it's just like in real life. This was MORE real life than the online conversations. Now we were face to face. I had an absolute blast and from that first NEST, and the subsequent ones, I've made what I would call many Life Long friends.

What I've found is that the people who are into REAL tickling are into it for the tickling only, not necessarily the sexual aspect of it. The guys who are only going for sex really aren't into tickling. And I'd certainly not put myself into a situation like that especially with bondage involved unless I felt 100% comfortable. Even so when I do meet someone for the first time to play I get a Tickle Buddy to call and check on me. We have a code word I can easily work into the conversation that tells my Tickle Buddy that I don't feel safe and I need help. That way he can get to me quickly and help out. I've not had to use that yet. I like to think that it's because I'm careful who I play with and that the guys I play with are indeed gentlemen who are into the same "sport" of tickling that I am. We meet for the fun and the enjoyment and living out the fantasy.

Just my $.02

Jan

 

[JPie1]

We females are out here

I have been in and out of tickling chats and forums going on about 4 years now and I can honestly state that this has been the most comfortable and well organized of the bunch which is to the credit of the moderators. I do agree with QB it can be very intimidating to a woman to fess up to how she feels about tickling in a chat and then get bombarded with IM's because of it. You try to be polite and sensitive to these men but sometimes they are quite determined to interupt you no matter how politely you try to dissuade them. I believe if more men used a more "gentlemenly" approach in the chatroom then you would have women that are more forward here. Now I am not speaking about all the guys, I personally know a whole bunch here that are wonderful and sensative. I truly believe there are more woman interesting in tickling then you think.

JPie

 

[TickledToDeath]

Valid points are made here.

I know for a fact that there are many women out there/here who are just as into tickling as there are men.
I have chatted with many both in chat rooms and on the phone and I have met some as well.

I made a point in an earlier post in this thread that they are out there but are not as OPEN and vocal as most men.

A problem is that they seem to be a rare find and are bombarded with private messages by some.

Aside from the obvious differences😀 between the lovely ladies and the guys, they are no different in their love of tickling and or being tickled.

All it takes for them to open up more and share their feelings is respect and kindness.

Then again, we could ALL use that, no?

TTD😉 😀

 

[qjakal]

Chat rooms...

The equivalent of a cigar smoke filled bar playing scratchy bad music too loudly while I try to shoot pool on a tilted table with the ghost of Minnesota Fats, and see Joey Heatherton walk by singing my favorite (unfortunately barley audible) song and winking at me....but, that's just me. Q

 

[elaah]

Re: Chat rooms...

The equivalent of a cigar smoke filled bar playing scratchy bad music too loudly while I try to shoot pool on a tilted table with the ghost of Minnesota Fats, and see Joey Heatherton walk by singing my favorite (unfortunately barley audible) song and winking at me....but, that's just me. Q

but Q...

How else will I ever get to have a conversation in real time with you???? There are so many things you say that I just want to respond to and get a quicker reply and maybe a more private reply.....
Come in and test the waters... The chat room is a non smoking place ya know! : ) Pop in a Heatherton CD, some headphones and all will be fine. Not sure there are pool tables in there though. I will talk to Myr : ), see what I can do.

~Donna

 

[qjakal]

Impressive!

See, Donna always surprises me,..lol! I'm happy you knew who Joey was (what a crush I had on her when I was but a youth!)...as for those private chats...how can that be when you're getting spammed by a/s/l morons every minute? Chat rooms are SUCH a great idea...in theory, but then again so is flying off the roof while flapping my arms (and gums)... 😉 Q

 

[TickledToDeath]

elaah

Actually the racks flip over and turn into Pool Tables in case there is a raid. There is a big red button on the wall behind the bar!😉 😀


TTD

 

[elaah]

Re: elaah

Actually the racks flip over and turn into Pool Tables in case there is a raid. There is a big red button on the wall behind the bar!😉 😀


TTD

TTD,
I thought that button was for mod alert! Guess I will be well aware of it from now on. Not that I would ever get on that rack at the risk of being flipped in case of such a raid. lol

~Donna

 

[TicklingDuo]

The only problem they have is stifling the gasps and giggles of the victims so the cops don't look under the pool tables and find them!

Ann

 

[mysterytic]

Women and chat rooms

Just love this thread. My impressions of women, tickling, and chat go directly to openness. I have seen lots of women hanging out waiting to discuss tickling in chat rooms, but they are always f/f. A few others are married/partnered, etc. The problem for the male tickler is as follows: How many available, unattached, women/girls are in tickle chat rooms, posting messages, etc. I know of none. The available tickle females act like the majority of the tickle guys, they keep their desires secret. This post is not meant to blame them, they all have their reasons on a very dangerous net, but that is reality.