YES, NO, MAYBE?????

[giggles0515]

It has been about a month since I’ve been introduced to tickling and tmf. Thank-you to all that have welcomed me here! I am enjoying myself immensely and with all the threads that I’ve read and the clips that I’ve viewed, I’ve learnt a whole lot!!!!

There have been many threads regarding dating – would you date a non-fetish person, would you let another individual tickle your partner, how open should you be….etc…etc...

I love this community; no one is judging you!! And there’s no need to be the ‘cool kid’ on the block. So may I ask, since a large part of me still lives with ‘vanilla’ perceptions…….

Does the term ‘CHEATING’ exist in the tickling world??

For instance if you are dating or married to a non-tickling/fetish individual:

Would you go else where to satisfy your ‘craving’ or would you be satisfied with what your partner can offer??

If you look else where for gratification would you be open about it with your partner??

How would it affect you if your partner went else where for tickling?? Would you open to the idea??

 

[sasaxrah]

I am really lucky to be dating an awesome guy from the TMF, so I clearly am tickle-satisfied.

Theoretically, if I were dating someone and they were unwilling to do tickling, I would think this could be a deal-breaker. If it weren't, I'd want to be able to honest about satisfying this need with someone else. If I didn't have permission from my theoretical significant other, I would consider it cheating. It's an intimate act, even if no sex is involved and it's only done with friends. I would never cheat. If my SO were not willing to either try it with me, or let me do it elsewhere, that's a major deal-breaker.

 

[dove]

Oh of course...definitely...it is so very much flirtation even if you were not a person with a fetish for it! It makes me think of cheating, it probably is. I would never do it if I had a boy, I think. It is very much too sexual for me as well...I would just ask him if he would tickle me anyway

 

[RavenMoon]

The term "cheating" refers to a partner participating in activities of sexual nature, or viewed as being sexual and/or intimate, without the knowledge or consent of the partner. "Cheating" exists here just as much as it does elsewhere and I loath it just the same. Consent is a basis of trust. If your vanilla partner doesn't tickle you, and they do not consent to you getting it elsewhere, but you do, you have cheated. And you seriously need to examine your relationship.

"Would you go else where to satisfy your ‘craving’ or would you be satisfied with what your partner can offer??"
~I personally would only go elsewhere if I had my partner's consent. If they did not consent to me finding what I need elsewhere, then we need to re-evaluate our relationship and our needs.

"If you look else where for gratification would you be open about it with your partner??"
~Absolutely. Openness and truthfulness is the key to a good relationship. If you need to hide things, need to lie, then you have serious issues.

"How would it affect you if your partner went else where for tickling?? Would you open to the idea?? "
~I would be sad that I could not satisfy him completely and would work together with him on that, but in the meantime, I would not keep him from obtaining his satisfaction if that is what he felt he truly needed to do. As long as I know, and I have met the person/people, then I trust him completely.

I have an open relationship with my Love. I play with submissives on occasion with his knowledge and consent. We play together with others in the tickling community. I know I am fortunate. But that openness is what will ensure we talk to each other. It is what will ensure our relationship stays strong. If you have to hide, lie or cheat, then what worth does your relationship have?

 

[Mitchell]

I would say, that yes, the term cheating does exist in the tickling world, especially considering the fact that tickling is a sexual fetish for most of us here.

Think of it this way: Imagine, if, for example, the members of this forum had breast fetishes, instead of a tickle fetish. If we arranged sessions to feel another person's breasts, that to me would be cheating.

I would let another individual tickle my partner, with several conditions, of course. One, my partner, myself, and the other individual involved, had clearly stated what would and wouldnt happen, beforehand. Two, I was present, while my partner was being tickled, by that other individual, and three, it didnt go any further than tickling.

As for going somewhere else to satisfy my craving: I could never do this, unless my partner was okay with it, and knew about everything that was going to happen. Say, for example, I met a perfectly wonderful woman, who was either not ticklish, or despised being tickled so much, that she just couldnt stand me tickling her, I might discuss the idea with her, of, for example, hiring a professional ticklee, or, getting a friend, to satisfy my tickling needs. Again, I would not do so, unless my partner was okay with it, and was likely present, while I tickled, so that my partner could see, it would just be tickling, and nothing else.

Tickling is very important to me, but it isnt the be all and end all. If I met someone, who had all the other qualities I loved, I would have to try to somehow, work within boundaries, of my relationship with that person, as that would be the primary concern, as opposed to what happens with tickling.

Mitch

 

[ViperGTS]

This all depends on you and your partners view of tickling. Sapphire and I do not consider tickling or being tickled by someone else to be cheating unless it ends up leading to other things, and we both have enough self control to keep it playful anyway.

 

[Musicroxmysox]

Cheating can exist in an facet.

For me, any tickling that happens is only with my SO. He is also a member of the forum and we have agreed to never let someone else tickle either of us, or tickle anyone else without each others permission. If either of us were to go and do that we would feel like we were cheating on the other.

Really it comes down to personal preferences between what is and what is not cheating between one and their SO. It is different for many people.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

It's gonna vary with every relationship. For me, I would never be involved with somebody who wasn't supportive of me being in the community and playing with others. I have too much fun here - It's a deal breaker for me.

 

[slap'n'ticklee]

Everybody is different and everyone has different views/ideas on love and relationships and what works for them.

For me/us if he went off and tickled someone without telling me, he would know beforehand, during and afterwards that I would be pissed and it would take a lot for us to get back on track if we ever could. Its a trust thing and we've said that if it came to it and others outside of 'us' were to be involved then we would be involved in it, being there when it was going on and knowing about it every step of the way.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I believe to a non-ticklephile it would be considered cheating or as dove said it is part of the flirting ritual but to those that are into tickling understand that its the love the action and not necessarily the people involved. When it comes to people into tickling like us....I feel out of respect the person should tell their partner they are dating or married to before they start tickling or getting tickled unless of course everyone is friends.

 

[dove]

The term "cheating" refers to a partner participating in activities of sexual, or viewed as being sexual, without the knowledge or consent of the partner. "Cheating" exists here just as much as it does elsewhere and I loath it just the same. Consent is a basis of trust. If your vanilla partner doesn't tickle you, and they do not consent to you getting it elsewhere, but you do, you have cheated. And you seriously need to examine your relationship.

True, this is the most important part of what Ravenmoon said! It is a 'fetish' for you, because it is bringing a certain kind of pleasure that anyone could equate with cheating. If your partner is not ok with it, I would not advise it 🙁