You ever felt guilty for tickling someone too much?

[Doriansenigma]

You ever felt like you pushed someone too far by tickling them too much? Maybe to the point where they’ll never play/hangout with you again or have become somewhat wary of you to where tickling is completley forbidden after that? Has this been done to you? I’ve heard stories in the vanilla world about this but never in fetish circles. I knew a guy who completely wrote of a group of friends that tickled him until he threw up. Even after they tried to apologize he completely wrote them off, one of the girls who did it was really into him and kept making an effort to reach out to him and he wouldn’t talk to her. I’ve never experienced anything like this but I’m curious if anyone has a story.

 

[Soles_Scream]

I haven’t, but I do worry about the talent I work with being pushed too far. That’s why I refuse to do tickle torture content.

Ler’s who aren’t ticklish or don’t get tickled often tend to not have a clue what the person getting tickled is going through. Especially if they are using too much pressure, not letting the person being tickled recover or breath, etc.

Also. Most folks taps the mic are not into tickling at all.

Many of your favorite models from the past have retired from tickle content due to being pushed too far. Out of respect, I will not name them.

 

[brotherted]

I'd say this happened in both directions when I was a child, but not as an adult. I'm quite sure I'm not alone in that.

I would also point out some kind of distinction in my mind between where the tickling itself is the issue, in that the ler is spasming and jerking because they're being perfectly tickle-stimulated -- versus the more common problem when they're feeling like it hurts, in a way totally unrelated to the ticklish reflex. In my mind, for some reason, those are completely unrelated things. Not condoning either, but they're kind of different conversations to me.

 

[FFT32]

The very first attempt that Rachel and I explored a tickle torture session went off the rails a bit because we both missed communicated on the safe word.

Fortunately, we have perfected that portion of our tickle play.

 

[SugarSoaker]

I have a friend who loves CNC (almost to a dangerous point but that’s another’s convo). Whenever we’re tickling her, I feel bad, but I know she’s okay and (not so secretly) Loves it.

 

[natscott6282]

a bit

 

[TickleTortureGuy]

No

 

[Doriansenigma]

No

Does that mean you just never have tickled someone that hard, it’s never been done to you or you didn’t feel guilty about pushing that person too hard?

 

[TickleTortureGuy]

Does that mean you just never have tickled someone that hard, it’s never been done to you or you genuinly or you didn’t feel guilty about pushing that person too hard?

It means I have never felt guilty about it.
I have had many, many tickle sessions with my wife…usually 2x-3x a week… both as the LER and as the LEE.
We use a lot of bondage and no limits, no safewords because we trust each other completely. I have tickled the hell out of her many times, and she has totally tickled the hell out of me and completely wrecked me.
But absolutely no feelings of guilt from either one of us. It’s want we want in our sessions.

 

[Cave In]

I've tickled someone before that had a very negative reaction to being tickled, I found out afterwards that she had a major fear of it, I didn't ask the reasons as to why she was scared of it.

I felt guilty since tickling is meant to be fun, had I known about her fear of it beforehand I would never have done it.

 

[Wade]

My friend Sarah -- who's one of the handful of people who periodically tickles me at this point in my life -- definitely does it to make me suffer, albeit in a playful context, and there have definitely been times when she's kind of gotten lost in the fun of torturing me into peals of helpless giggles and went a bit longer than she later evidently thought she should have. She never quite said as much but often when she kind of pushes my limits further than she meant to, she releases me with a note of a sullen reflectiveness and there ensues a period of weeks or months -- or in one case even longer -- when she refrains from tickling me at all. Clearly the guilt clears up though because she always eventually comes back around to it.

 

[milagros317]

My friend Sarah -- who's one of the handful of people who periodically tickles me at this point in my life -- definitely does it to make me suffer, albeit in a playful context, and there have definitely been times when she's kind of gotten lost in the fun of torturing me into peals of helpless giggles and went a bit longer than she later evidently thought she should have. She never quite said as much but often when she kind of pushes my limits further than she meant to, she releases me with a note of a sullen reflectiveness and there ensues a period of weeks or months -- or in one case even longer -- when she refrains from tickling me at all. Clearly the guilt clears up though because she always eventually comes back around to it.

You should reassure Sarah that you bear her no ill will, that she didn't push it too far, and that she shouldn't refrain even for weeks from tickling the crap out of you. 😀

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Sigh.... Yes.
Younger me has been guilty of crossing the line more than once (and it has gotten me into trouble). This is well before I learned about the rules of negotiation/ consent and well before I knew what a fetish even was. As I have said in a couple of prior posts, I have run into those people in later years, and the first thing they say is, "Do you remember when you used to tickle the hell out of me?" It is pretty embarrassing, and I do feel guilty about it, still. I usually change the subject immediately to something they are genuinely excited about telling me. Thank goodness, they chatter along and don't circle back to the times when I was a known tickle monster.

Sometimes, I can sense when one or two of them want to ask if I still do that- Tickle people relentlessly. But they are too shy to ask, and I am not about to prompt them. (Although one guy pestered me so much that I almost said, "SAY IT! ASK YOUR QUESTION!!!" 😅) He never was brave enough to ask, and I was never brave enough to get him to ask. He was an "ex-boyfriend" of mine. Lawd- I tickled him so, so, so, so much.

I don't do that now- tickle torture without expressed permission. And it is actually difficult for me to truly unleash that side of myself even when allowed. It is very hard to rein her back in.

On the other hand.... When operating as a lee and with careful negotiation, I do enjoy being taken past all of my ticklish limits (CNC). I don't ask for this or expect it in most sessions as I know that it does mess with the tickler. And I have learned to respect that fact that this is not everyone's cup of tea. Not every tickler desires to "break" a ticklee into pieces. Most enjoy the playful side. So... I play in a way that makes them most comfortable.

It is always nice to run into that rare tickler who gives me the tickle karma that I desire and deserve.

 

[natscott6282]

Sigh.... Yes.
Younger me has been guilty of crossing the line more than once (and it has gotten me into trouble). This is well before I learned about the rules of negotiation/ consent and well before I knew what a fetish even was. As I have said in a couple of prior posts, I have run into those people in later years, and the first thing they say is, "Do you remember when you used to tickle the hell out of me?" It is pretty embarrassing, and I do feel guilty about it, still. I usually change the subject immediately to something they are genuinely excited about telling me. Thank goodness, they chatter along and don't circle back to the times when I was a known tickle monster.

Sometimes, I can sense when one or two of them want to ask if I still do that- Tickle people relentlessly. But they are too shy to ask, and I am not about to prompt them. (Although one guy pestered me so much that I almost said, "SAY IT! ASK YOUR QUESTION!!!" 😅) He never was brave enough to ask, and I was never brave enough to get him to ask. He was an "ex-boyfriend" of mine. Lawd- I tickled him so, so, so, so much.

I don't do that now- tickle torture without expressed permission. And it is actually difficult for me to truly unleash that side of myself even when allowed. It is very hard to rein her back in.

On the other hand.... When operating as a lee and with careful negotiation, I do enjoy being taken past all of my ticklish limits (CNC). I don't ask for this or expect it in most sessions as I know that it does mess with the tickler. And I have learned to respect that fact that this is not everyone's cup of tea. Not every tickler desires to "break" a ticklee into pieces. Most enjoy the playful side. So... I play in a way that makes them most comfortable.

It is always nice to run into that rare tickler who gives me the tickle karma that I desire and deserve.

relatable about the bit tickling past limits before we learnt about consent and limits

 

[Morning Scifi]

I can't say I've ever felt guilty about it. I've done a fair amount of tickling girlfriends over the years and a few friends in general, but as far as I can tell, I never crossed the line.

Of course, there are certain friends I've had that have made it clear that they hate being tickled so much that I wouldn't tickle them. One of the more amusing times this happened was when I saw a friend tickle his wife very briefly, and she let out a way louder scream than I think anyone expected. I'm assuming he probably didn't tickle her again.

 

[Wade]

You should reassure Sarah that you bear her no ill will, that she didn't push it too far, and that she shouldn't refrain even for weeks from tickling the crap out of you. 😀

Ha, you'd like that. She knows I bear her no ill will; that's why she always comes after me again! I think the times she goes too far it's entirely unintentional on her part and then she just feels kind of bad about herself a little bit. In the incident I narrated here, for instance, when she had me pinned and went after my armpits -- she had me in a very vulnerable position, and the spots she was targeting are extremely susceptible ones for me (as she well knew) -- I can't bear being tickled there for five seconds, let alone five minutes. I think her intention was just to make me shriek for a few seconds and then let me go, but once I dissolved into wild giddy giggles she kind of lost herself in the spectacle and totally lost sight of the fact that she should probably stop torturing me at some point. It was almost too easy to keep tickling -- how could she stop? And indeed the only reason she did stop was because my wife swooped in and rescued me; who knows how long she would have gone otherwise. But then once the laughing's stopped and she's outside of that moment, she's no longer that person enjoying the tickling; she's a person who knows humans are supposed to be compassionate to one another.

 

[Wade]

As I have said in a couple of prior posts, I have run into those people in later years, and the first thing they say is, "Do you remember when you used to tickle the hell out of me?" It is pretty embarrassing, and I do feel guilty about it, still. I usually change the subject immediately to something they are genuinely excited about telling me. Thank goodness, they chatter along and don't circle back to the times when I was a known tickle monster.

This is interesting to me because I've been on the other side of that conversation -- crossing paths again with an old friend or ex-girlfriend or former coworker or whoever, and asking them "Remember when you used to tickle the daylights out of me?" And their response is almost always very similar -- they hand-wave it away, minimize it or just say something like "Yeah that was funny" or "Yep, good times," end of topic.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

This is interesting to me because I've been on the other side of that conversation -- crossing paths again with an old friend or ex-girlfriend or former coworker or whoever, and asking them "Remember when you used to tickle the daylights out of me?" And their response is almost always very similar -- they hand-wave it away, minimize it or just say something like "Yeah that was funny" or "Yep, good times," end of topic.

Oh... so you chose violence, didn't you? 😅
LOL- It is so embarrassing and shocking to get that question in public. It's always, "You're the sister that wouldn't stop tickling me!"

It's never... "Hey! You're the one who got a basketball scholarship!" or "You're the one who was quiet and sweet." or "You're the one who was always reading." 😜

 

[maniactickler]

Absolutely not!

 

[Wade]

Oh... so you chose violence, didn't you? 😅
LOL- It is so embarrassing and shocking to get that question in public. It's always, "You're the sister that wouldn't stop tickling me!"

It's never... "Hey! You're the one who got a basketball scholarship!" or "You're the one who was quiet and sweet." or "You're the one who was always reading." 😜

Yeah, heard. Though to be fair these conversations haven't typically taken place with an audience. But it would be ONLY FAIR AND JUST if they did, because many of the TICKLINGS, in which I was reduced to an embarrassing heap of helpless flailing giggles, often happened with an audience, so, y'know, KARMA.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Yeah, heard. Though to be fair these conversations haven't typically taken place with an audience. But it would be ONLY FAIR AND JUST if they did, because many of the TICKLINGS, in which I was reduced to an embarrassing heap of helpless flailing giggles, often happened with an audience, so, y'know, KARMA.

Sigh... When you put it that way... I suppose it is fair. Sometimes it was a private wrecking, and sometimes it was very public.

I guess I'll have to just endure the embarrassment. 😖😏 LOL

 

[Wade]

Lawd- I tickled him so, so, so, so much.

I love this part of your recollection 'cause it made me wonder if anyone ever thinks that to herself about me. There are at least a half dozen or more people who could reasonably say that to themselves about me; probably up to a total of 15 or more depending on how low we set the threshold for "so so so much." Does that ever cross their minds or is it a totally trivial anodyne detail about our past relationship, as easily forgotten as the fleeting private jokes we shared or the place where we used to get coffee that eventually went out of business?