You think theirs a perfect tickle mate out there for tickler, wish it was that easy to find one it's pretty hard i think cause its a fetish that many keep to them selfs and many find it creepy I mean I'm not obsess with it but its something thats a part of my life, and I love my fetish and hope to find that perfect tickle mate if there is one.
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You think theirs a perfect tickle mate for a tickler
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YES they are out there! Unfortunately I also agree they're very hard to find.
From numerous other threads, the key recommendation from the ladies themselves is NOT to focus on tickling much at first. My own experience supports this. That's not to say you can't tickle until date N or something. Of course you can -- and should! Just don't make too big a deal about it.
For example, don't advertise for a tickle babe. No one will answer. Girls don't want to be approached for tickling, but rather because you're interested in THEM. If that starts to click, they'll consider tickling with you. Even if they like it, try not to overdo it. Just work it in among the many fun things you can do with your hottie. The point is that any successful relationship has to be about your interest in her, not one thing about or with her. That said, you get to have standards about those things too. Whatever's critical to you must be at least good enough with her.
Just keep in mind that men and women are wired differently. It's awkward, and sometimes really hard, but there are at least two advantages:
1) Some girls make WONDERFUL tickle toys and simply don't know it yet! So any emphasis on tickling up front won't help at all. But if you start dating "normally" and slowly work in some tickling, there's a chance it'll be found to be a turn on for her too. This is known as winning the lottery. 🙂
2) Sometimes even wildly different priorities, language, approaches, etc. actually lead to the experience you'll both love. Like the old "rule" about buying a lady dinner if you're hoping to sleep with her. In that oversimplified example is it worth the dinner? Hell yes! So you maybe you can't be as direct with most girls as you'd like. Well try not to think of a more indirect approach as doing what she wants instead of what you want. Instead, view it as her path to what you'll both love.
Final consideration: most of us here (though not all) really do NEED tickling to some degree. It can seem unimportant for a while, but then comes back, more and more insistent until it's critical. It has contributed to the demise of more than one marriage. So I for one think folks like us NEED a tickle mate. Don't settle for one who won't make you happy in this respect, unless you're really sure you can sustain that.
From numerous other threads, the key recommendation from the ladies themselves is NOT to focus on tickling much at first. My own experience supports this. That's not to say you can't tickle until date N or something. Of course you can -- and should! Just don't make too big a deal about it.
For example, don't advertise for a tickle babe. No one will answer. Girls don't want to be approached for tickling, but rather because you're interested in THEM. If that starts to click, they'll consider tickling with you. Even if they like it, try not to overdo it. Just work it in among the many fun things you can do with your hottie. The point is that any successful relationship has to be about your interest in her, not one thing about or with her. That said, you get to have standards about those things too. Whatever's critical to you must be at least good enough with her.
Just keep in mind that men and women are wired differently. It's awkward, and sometimes really hard, but there are at least two advantages:
1) Some girls make WONDERFUL tickle toys and simply don't know it yet! So any emphasis on tickling up front won't help at all. But if you start dating "normally" and slowly work in some tickling, there's a chance it'll be found to be a turn on for her too. This is known as winning the lottery. 🙂
2) Sometimes even wildly different priorities, language, approaches, etc. actually lead to the experience you'll both love. Like the old "rule" about buying a lady dinner if you're hoping to sleep with her. In that oversimplified example is it worth the dinner? Hell yes! So you maybe you can't be as direct with most girls as you'd like. Well try not to think of a more indirect approach as doing what she wants instead of what you want. Instead, view it as her path to what you'll both love.
Final consideration: most of us here (though not all) really do NEED tickling to some degree. It can seem unimportant for a while, but then comes back, more and more insistent until it's critical. It has contributed to the demise of more than one marriage. So I for one think folks like us NEED a tickle mate. Don't settle for one who won't make you happy in this respect, unless you're really sure you can sustain that.
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What she said. Nobody's perfect, some people just *click* better than others. Doesn't mean it won't be an uphill struggle sometimes.
Well said! There isn't someone out there for everyone. People will die alone. People will settle for second best. But some people create fate. Of course it's tough! But keep at it in an intelligent way....and it will work out. It's most certainly worth it to try an understand women and their point of view. Especially the point of view of the women that you like. e.x. You want a girl from the TMF. Understand what their needs and wants are and satisfy them. When you find the girl you like focus on her own specificities and cater to them too. I assure you it will pay off. But understanding the point of view of someone else is no easy feat and takes time and patience. Take the initiative and grab the reins on your fate.
Good luck
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From my time on these forums, the ratio to men and women who are outspoken about their fetish become more even by the day~ and it's my belief that it reflects in the general public about almost any fetish. I think your odds of finding someone who enjoys it is equal to your ability to be outspoken about it.
You can't sell someone on spilling their secrets if they have no reason to do so. I have likes and dislikes I've yet to tell lovers, because if I have no real knowledge that I wouldn't be scrutinized for it, I fear their reaction in knowing. Your closest friends could have the most intense tickling fetish the world has ever known... but you'll never know about it if neither of you risks a little embarrassment to talk about it.
You can't sell someone on spilling their secrets if they have no reason to do so. I have likes and dislikes I've yet to tell lovers, because if I have no real knowledge that I wouldn't be scrutinized for it, I fear their reaction in knowing. Your closest friends could have the most intense tickling fetish the world has ever known... but you'll never know about it if neither of you risks a little embarrassment to talk about it.
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Every relationship is different, so each word of advise may have worked for the person at the moment. You just never know.
My instinct is to be honest and upfront. I can't say that it always worked out. Yes every single guy who I dated and who I told I was into tickling would tickle me. But that was because they thought it would ultimately lead to having sex with me. Even my ex-fiance finally admitted that he thought the tickling thing was silly, (maybe he used the word stupid). I do think guys will accept fetishes from a girl faster than a girl will from a guy mainly because guys like to see girls get off. (I'm not complaining... grin)
So... I can tell you to be honest, and that's it. I can't tell you what to say or how honest to be and at what point in your relationship. I do know that waiting too long or hiding it may damage the relationship. I also know that you might want to mention the bondage aspect after she is comfortable with the tickling aspect. If you really want to find someone, honesty is the key.
I did find someone on TMF that I eventually married. I'll admit that this rarely happens, and it was pretty special- he's pretty special. But I will also admit that I turned him down over and over and over again for quite a long time. I'm surprised he didn't give up, because I would have. Even when I fell for him, I tried to hold out hope that I would find someone in Atlanta, and lied to him about how I felt.
Finally, we started dating, and it was so perfect, so wonderful, that I was sure it would end because I have a tendancy to screw things up. But it didn't. And we are honest about everything. I tell him everything. This isn't the Donna Reed show, so we have our ups and our downs... but finding your match, your soulmate is an unbeatable feeling. It is well worth the wait. (and well worth the lovely roller coaster ride with them for better or worse)
Sunny
My instinct is to be honest and upfront. I can't say that it always worked out. Yes every single guy who I dated and who I told I was into tickling would tickle me. But that was because they thought it would ultimately lead to having sex with me. Even my ex-fiance finally admitted that he thought the tickling thing was silly, (maybe he used the word stupid). I do think guys will accept fetishes from a girl faster than a girl will from a guy mainly because guys like to see girls get off. (I'm not complaining... grin)
So... I can tell you to be honest, and that's it. I can't tell you what to say or how honest to be and at what point in your relationship. I do know that waiting too long or hiding it may damage the relationship. I also know that you might want to mention the bondage aspect after she is comfortable with the tickling aspect. If you really want to find someone, honesty is the key.
I did find someone on TMF that I eventually married. I'll admit that this rarely happens, and it was pretty special- he's pretty special. But I will also admit that I turned him down over and over and over again for quite a long time. I'm surprised he didn't give up, because I would have. Even when I fell for him, I tried to hold out hope that I would find someone in Atlanta, and lied to him about how I felt.
Finally, we started dating, and it was so perfect, so wonderful, that I was sure it would end because I have a tendancy to screw things up. But it didn't. And we are honest about everything. I tell him everything. This isn't the Donna Reed show, so we have our ups and our downs... but finding your match, your soulmate is an unbeatable feeling. It is well worth the wait. (and well worth the lovely roller coaster ride with them for better or worse)
Sunny
