Your Advice/Opinion's Wanted

[Bugman]

I need some help here.After living in Texas for 18 years,i moved back to Kansas City after my mother suffered a stroke.I have been here 9 years now,and i want out.I grew up here,hated it then,hate it now.The winters are harder on me with each passing year,i just can't stand much more.So,am i a bad or selfish person for wanting to return to the place i love so?At age 51 i feel like if i don't do something soon,i will never able to.I have a younger brother here,so ma would not be left alone and he and my brother in Texas say i should make the move.Sorry this is so long,any and all feedback is welcome.

 

[isabeau]

you already know how i feel about this..you are not selfish for wanting to live your life..you need to be happy also, buggy...and do whatever is necessary to achieve that goal..you liked it in texas..i say move back there..you have been and will continue to be a good son..and don't think you are abandoning her...you are entitled to a life also.

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

I need some help here.After living in Texas for 18 years,i moved back to Kansas City after my mother suffered a stroke.I have been here 9 years now,and i want out.I grew up here,hated it then,hate it now.The winters are harder on me with each passing year,i just can't stand much more.So,am i a bad or selfish person for wanting to return to the place i love so?At age 51 i feel like if i don't do something soon,i will never able to.I have a younger brother here,so ma would not be left alone and he and my brother in Texas say i should make the move.Sorry this is so long,any and all feedback is welcome.

Hun, you should do what your heart tells you to do. You shouldn't stay there if you are miserable and hating being there. Just do whatever will make you happy. Good luck honey!



Angel

 

[Bugman]

you already know how i feel about this..you are not selfish for wanting to live your life..you need to be happy also, buggy...and do whatever is necessary to achieve that goal..you liked it in texas..i say move back there..you have been and will continue to be a good son..and don't think you are abandoning her...you are entitled to a life also.

Thank's Melanie,you have been a good friend to me since i joined the TMF and i value your opinion.

 

[Bugman]

Hun, you should do what your heart tells you to do. You shouldn't stay there if you are miserable and hating being there. Just do whatever will make you happy. Good luck honey!



Angel

Awww thanks Ticklish,i wish it was that easy.

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Awww thanks Ticklish,i wish it was that easy.

You are welcome hun.

 

[Headsnap]

I need some help here.After living in Texas for 18 years,i moved back to Kansas City after my mother suffered a stroke.I have been here 9 years now,and i want out.I grew up here,hated it then,hate it now.The winters are harder on me with each passing year,i just can't stand much more.So,am i a bad or selfish person for wanting to return to the place i love so?At age 51 i feel like if i don't do something soon,i will never able to.I have a younger brother here,so ma would not be left alone and he and my brother in Texas say i should make the move.Sorry this is so long,any and all feedback is welcome.

You've stuck it out in a place you despise for 9 years so that you could care for your mum. To me, that's dedication and you've got nothing to feel guilty or bad about in wanting out. Like Isabeau said it's hardly selfish to want to live your own life, and it's not as if you're abandoning your mum into the hands of some strangers who might not care for her as well as her family; your brother will be there for her. You want to go, your brothers reckon you should make the move, so if I were you I'd go for it.

 

[tickleshotel]

Bugman,NO your not selfish for wanting to live whereever you want to..If you really loved living in Texas and you are miserable with the weather in Kansas City ,then I say follow your heart,what it tells you..I am sure your Mom will miss you not having you around but it looks like she will be happy and I believe your Mom wants you to be happy so she may not like your decision to move to texas if that's what you want but she should understand and respect your decision..

 

[steph]

Well. Texas is close to California. So you should come. 😛

XOXO

 

[Bugman]

You've stuck it out in a place you despise for 9 years so that you could care for your mum. To me, that's dedication and you've got nothing to feel guilty or bad about in wanting out. Like Isabeau said it's hardly selfish to want to live your own life, and it's not as if you're abandoning your mum into the hands of some strangers who might not care for her as well as her family; your brother will be there for her. You want to go, your brothers reckon you should make the move, so if I were you I'd go for it.

Thanks Headsnap,and i wish you the best,you have made a gutsy decision.

 

[Bugman]

Bugman,NO your not selfish for wanting to live whereever you want to..If you really loved living in Texas and you are miserable with the weather in Kansas City ,then I say follow your heart,what it tells you..I am sure your Mom will miss you not having you around but it looks like she will be happy and I believe your Mom wants you to be happy so she may not like your decision to move to texas if that's what you want but she should understand and respect your decision..

Thank you Laurie,i know you are right.

 

[isabeau]

Thank's Melanie,you have been a good friend to me since i joined the TMF and i value your opinion.

wow what a compliment..thank you buggy also..and good luck with whatever you decide...hmm maybe you need a distraction to help clear your mind.. hehe..

 

[Bugman]

Well. Texas is close to California. So you should come. 😛

XOXO

Ok,mind made up,packing bags and loading car hehe.Thanks Steph.

 

[Bugman]

wow what a compliment..thank you buggy also..and good luck with whatever you decide...hmm maybe you need a distraction to help clear your mind.. hehe..

As i said Melanie,any suggestion's welcome hehe.

 

[Helena]

Buggy,
Buzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!
You have been talking about making a change.........I mean that you have been entertaining the thought of moving to Texas........for quite a while.
Taking care of your mom for the last nine years was what you felt needed to be done.
Now that she is in a nursing home, do you feel that you can make a change now?
Ultimately, buggy, only you can decide what you would like to do.
I want you to be happy.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

You do what you have to do.

 

[Bugman]

Buggy,
Buzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!
You have been talking about making a change.........I mean that you have been entertaining the thought of moving to Texas........for quite a while.
Taking care of your mom for the last nine years was what you felt needed to be done.
Now that she is in a nursing home, do you feel that you can make a change now?
Ultimately, buggy, only you can decide what you would like to do.
I want you to be happy.

Thanks Helena,another one of my first friends here.Ma has always been in a nursing home since her stroke.And i have thought about returning to Texas since the day i moved back here,i guess that's why i feel bad or selfish for wanting to go back,sigh.

 

[Ticklee1973]

Bug, from someone who has just done this in the past few months, I'd say definitely go ahead and go back to where you are very happy. Life is too short, regardless how old you are. There's nothing selfish about it and you said yourself your mom would be fine with others around. I'd say go for it, although I was called selfish myself for doing what I did. Eh, you have to do what makes you happy, not others.

Sandee

 

[Bugman]

You do what you have to do.

Thanks Knox,i consider you a good friend although we have never met and i appreciate your input.

 

[Bugman]

Bug, from someone who has just done this in the past few months, I'd say definitely go ahead and go back to where you are very happy. Life is too short, regardless how old you are. There's nothing selfish about it and you said yourself your mom would be fine with others around. I'd say go for it, although I was called selfish myself for doing what I did. Eh, you have to do what makes you happy, not others.

Sandee

Thanks Sandee,i know your move was not easy.I'm glad your move has worked out so well for you,and i know i must do something soon.

 

[steph]

You are welcome. As Goddess likes to tell me "all problems are solveable." 😛 As an added extra bonus, we have some AWESOME friends in Texas sir--prepare to PAR-TAY! (Some of them we expect to see out here next summer--maybe you can hitch a ride!) 😉

Seriously, you did right by your mom, and now, your job is done. It's time to do right by yourself!
XOXO

Ok,mind made up,packing bags and loading car hehe.Thanks Steph.

 

[Bugman]

You are welcome. As Goddess likes to tell me "all problems are solveable." 😛 As an added extra bonus, we have some AWESOME friends in Texas sir--prepare to PAR-TAY! (Some of them we expect to see out here next summer--maybe you can hitch a ride!) 😉

Seriously, you did right by your mom, and now, your job is done. It's time to do right by yourself!
XOXO

Steph you are tempting me beyond what any mortal could be expected to withstand hehe.

 

[steph]

Now, that's something I NEVER hear from a man honey! 😉

XOXO

Steph you are tempting me beyond what any mortal could be expected to withstand hehe.

 

[Bugman]

Now, that's something I NEVER hear from a man honey! 😉

XOXO

What mere mortal could withstand the call of our Goddess of The West?

 

[steph]

Well, I'm really just Goddess in training, the real Goddess is down south hon... But I'm learning!
XOXO

What mere mortal could withstand the call of our Goddess of The West?