your first experience - fantasy vs reality

[minerva]

Just a couple of weeks ago I enjoyed my first real tickle experience and it was amazing, all I know is I want more.
In some ways it was different from what I imagined it would be in my fantasies though, so I wondered if others experienced the same thing.

What was your ‘first time’ like?
Like in your fantasies or different? even better? or maybe not good at all?
or did it maybe make you realize something you hadn’t been aware of before?
Was it planned or did it just happen?

I’m not talking about a few random pokes here, btw, and I’m not really looking for any juicy details either – not that I would mind them though 😉 - but what I’m really interested in is how much fantasy and reality actually diverged in your first tickle experiences.

 

[Redscript]

My first time was somewhat of a shock. In my fantasies I rarely included myself, and when I did I was a ler. Then I met my girlfriend. I tried to tickle her, but she is not very ticklish. Then she did the same to me, she found out that I was a whole lot more sensitive than her. She liked the idea and continued from there.

I still havent had a fullblown experience (tied and tickled merciless and all that), but she tickles me softly and commands me to stay still and quiet.

As for your question: no it wasn't the same for me as I fantasized, because I've never fantasized about it in that way.

 

[Mistress Aura]

My first time was somewhat of a shock. In my fantasies I rarely included myself, and when I did I was a ler. Then I met my girlfriend. I tried to tickle her, but she is not very ticklish. Then she did the same to me, she found out that I was a whole lot more sensitive than her. She liked the idea and continued from there.

I still havent had a fullblown experience (tied and tickled merciless and all that), but she tickles me softly and commands me to stay still and quiet.

As for your question: no it wasn't the same for me as I fantasized, because I've never fantasized about it in that way.

Hmmm...now why would the first time have been a "shock", RS? You've got me pretty curious. What happened?

Mistress Aura

 

[badreligion]

hmm im still waiting for mine

 

[minerva]

Rescript, though you fantasized about being a 'ler yet eventually experienced being a 'lee, it seems to me that you still enjoyed what your girlfriend did with you. Was this the 'shock' you mentioned? That you never thought you would be the one getting tickled?

Badreligion, I hope for you, that you wont have to wait much longer

How about everyone else? I'd love to hear from as many of you as possible

 

[daddy]

This is a great thread for discussion! I think every ler (and some lee's) on the planet has gone through this. You have this great scenerio all worked out in your head. You have every detail down to an art from the second the meeting takes place with your fantasy person, to the small talk and right up to the point where the real fantasy begins. The problem is, when you cross it over to reality, the intended lee turns out to be hardly ticklish or not ticklish at all :-(

Very rarely does the fantasy live up to the expectations you have or hope for. If it does you are one very lucky person. I really think though after you have experienced this for a while you learn how to put things into a better perspective so that way when play does happen, and it is good, you can get a rush almost equal to the fantasies. Remember nothing really ever goes as scripted in your mind.

I myself use to fantasize about unrealistic situations...and guess what...they never happened the way I wanted. But now, I fantasize about things that really "could" happen and it makes it so much better because it is obtainable. Believe me though, I thought my past fantasies were obtainable too, but now I have learned better. In order to have fun, I had to let down my expectations and go with the flow...and it has payed off. Now I have a great partner who fullfills my desires, and together as a team we have fun with others which is just way too much fun.

peace out,
daddy

 

[Iggy pop]

My first time was when I was minor, so I can't go into details.

 

[sabaki]

My first experience as a lee was an eye-opener. It was definitely better than all fantasies up to that point. Being tickled is always so much more unbearable than I can possibly imagine at a moment when I am not being tickled. The urge to curl up and protect is so strong, and it's so maddening not to be able to.

Where it disappointed: I would have wanted it to go on longer, and the bondage... let's just say that the pictures make effective ropework seem a lot easier than it really is.

 

[isabeau]

with my first experience, i was very nervous..and we didn't have alot of time..but all in all it was a good experience..because i was so uptight, it didn't tickle at first, which really surprised me, but as i got more comfortable, it did tickle..

congrats on your first experience..

 

[kis123]

My first experience was two years ago at my first (and only) gathering. It was a complete surprise because I came to ler and completely froze up. I'm normally a very shy person so when I got with experienced players, I was like a deer in the headlights! My host was wonderful the entire time and didn't mind that I joined myself to him at the hip for three days. I finally got to ler with him on Day 2-we had a lot of fun.

Things were pretty much over and we were cleaning up; there was another guest there hanging out with us. We had several meals together and my guard started dropping. We were watching videos and he got in my head; I started getting curious about being the lee. I hated being tickled as a kid and it was used negatively during my marriage so I didn't know where this was coming from. I finally told him he was in my head and I wanted to be the lee. His face lit up like Christmas in July (I can still see it as if it were yesterday). He and my host tickled me unrestsrained-I initially was scared as hell, so like Izzy, it didn't tickle at first. Then the sensations hit me like a thunderbolt and it was off to the races! I had never laughed so hard for so long in my entire life! A nasty leg cramp ended it all, but I had the tickle ride of my life-it was great!

I met my current SO a few months later. He's ticklish but not nearly as much as I am. That meant I got to explore my lee side even further. I'm still not extremely comfortable being the lee; the ler in me needs feeding these days.

I'm glad you had a great first time and wish you many more in your future.

 

[minerva]

This is a great thread for discussion! I think every ler (and some lee's) on the planet has gone through this. You have this great scenerio all worked out in your head. You have every detail down to an art from the second the meeting takes place with your fantasy person, to the small talk and right up to the point where the real fantasy begins. The problem is, when you cross it over to reality, the intended lee turns out to be hardly ticklish or not ticklish at all :-(

Very rarely does the fantasy live up to the expectations you have or hope for. If it does you are one very lucky person. I really think though after you have experienced this for a while you learn how to put things into a better perspective so that way when play does happen, and it is good, you can get a rush almost equal to the fantasies. Remember nothing really ever goes as scripted in your mind.

I myself use to fantasize about unrealistic situations...and guess what...they never happened the way I wanted. But now, I fantasize about things that really "could" happen and it makes it so much better because it is obtainable. Believe me though, I thought my past fantasies were obtainable too, but now I have learned better. In order to have fun, I had to let down my expectations and go with the flow...and it has payed off. Now I have a great partner who fullfills my desires, and together as a team we have fun with others which is just way too much fun.

peace out,
daddy

thanks a lot for this great reply and I fully agree. Unrealistic or like in my case too detailed fantasies will probably leave you a bit disappointed once you experience the real thing. Even the best partner ever will never act, talk, smile and tickle EXACTLY the way you fantasized about it (seen from a 'lee's point of view).
Then again they might do something you never even thought about and it might be better then anything you ever imagined.
I know for sure that next time I will not expect anything, but just let go and enjoy

 

[minerva]

My first experience was two years ago at my first (and only) gathering. It was a complete surprise because I came to ler and completely froze up. I'm normally a very shy person so when I got with experienced players, I was like a deer in the headlights! My host was wonderful the entire time and didn't mind that I joined myself to him at the hip for three days. I finally got to ler with him on Day 2-we had a lot of fun.

Things were pretty much over and we were cleaning up; there was another guest there hanging out with us. We had several meals together and my guard started dropping. We were watching videos and he got in my head; I started getting curious about being the lee. I hated being tickled as a kid and it was used negatively during my marriage so I didn't know where this was coming from. I finally told him he was in my head and I wanted to be the lee. His face lit up like Christmas in July (I can still see it as if it were yesterday). He and my host tickled me unrestsrained-I initially was scared as hell, so like Izzy, it didn't tickle at first. Then the sensations hit me like a thunderbolt and it was off to the races! I had never laughed so hard for so long in my entire life! A nasty leg cramp ended it all, but I had the tickle ride of my life-it was great!

I met my current SO a few months later. He's ticklish but not nearly as much as I am. That meant I got to explore my lee side even further. I'm still not extremely comfortable being the lee; the ler in me needs feeding these days.

I'm glad you had a great first time and wish you many more in your future.

thanks a lot 🙂
I'm happy for you as well, that your first time as a 'lee turned out to be so much fun, specially since you obviously had to go through some unpleasant experiences before.
Reading this makes me want to go to a gathering right away

 

[Musicroxmysox]

So...

Haven't had my first experience yet. But no rush, life is long.

 

[kis123]

thanks a lot 🙂
I'm happy for you as well, that your first time as a 'lee turned out to be so much fun, specially since you obviously had to go through some unpleasant experiences before.
Reading this makes me want to go to a gathering right away

If you're really interested in a gathering, you can check the gatherings section here to see if anything's taking place near you. If not, NEST is coming in June; it's a little large for me, but everyone who has attended has always had a great time. If you're a willing lee, I guarantee that there will be plenty of lers to accomodate your tickling appetite! 😉