Your First Time - Sex

[goddess_nemesis]

Another thread in the tickling discussion - How much do you like sex - got me thinking about this. It's been on my mind from reading advice columns directed towards teens. One columnist responding to a letter commented on how often he received letters from girls who had sex but later regretted it.

So I'm wondering, when was your first time having sex? How old were you? Do you regret it? Do you ever wish you had waited? Wished it had been with someone else? Or are you content with how it happened?

I know that there are some TMFers on here who haven't had sex yet. Please, if you'd like, share with us why.

As for myself, I waited. Originally for marriage, but overtime and with thought, my decision changed to when I was with someone I loved and it felt right. I'm 22 and my first time was a couple of months ago.

I look forward to reading the responses. 😀

 

[venray]

It was on my 26'th birthday during a thunderstorm and it was marvelous....

I wouldnt trade the experience for anything...

 

[Dialon]

Well i havent had sex yet. I have, however, had two opportunities. One was from a girl, who was quite good looking, but I really didn't like her and found her kind of annoying. The second time i turned it down was because it was a girl who i knew had some crazy shit going on in her life and she was emotionally bankrupt, so i turned it down for obvious reasons (it would of almost been like taking advantage of her, but then again before she offered i never thought about having sex wiht her anyways).

Over all i'm just good at ignoring my sex drive when i want, and i'd rather not have sex until i meet someone i actually like alot.

 

[TicklerChampion]

It was on my 26'th birthday during a thunderstorm and it was marvelous....

I wouldnt trade the experience for anything...

are yoiu sure the thunderstorm wasnt caused by you awesome skills? lol had to say it.

 

[venray]

are yoiu sure the thunderstorm wasnt caused by you awesome skills? lol had to say it.

My partner had the awesome skills.....not me for sure at that time...lol

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

I am still a virgin and I am so/so about it.
It's not that I am some slut looking for sex ... but sometimes it's hard to be a virgin when every single one of my friends have had sex or are about to have sex. I'm not saying my decision to have sex is going to happen just so I can get it over and done with -- that defeats my whole view of sex.
To me, sex is something I want to do when I am absolutely, head over heels, and madly in love with a guy. This could be before marriage or after. All depends, of course. There have been times, while in a drunken state, I could have had sex and I am SO SO SOOO glad I didn't. It's like there is a voice in the back of my head that reminds me that sex is off limits until I'm in love no matter how trashed I am.
I know my time will come .. I'm just hoping it's not while I am starting to have back problems!

 

[TicklerChampion]

My partner had the awesome skills.....not me for sure at that time...lol

lol hey you couldve taken the credit! who wouldve know?

I am still a virgin and I am so/so about it.
It's not that I am some slut looking for sex ... but sometimes it's hard to be a virgin when every single one of my friends have had sex or are about to have sex. I'm not saying my decision to have sex is going to happen just so I can get it over and done with -- that defeats my whole view of sex.
To me, sex is something I want to do when I am absolutely, head over heels, and madly in love with a guy. This could be before marriage or after. All depends, of course. There have been times, while in a drunken state, I could have had sex and I am SO SO SOOO glad I didn't. It's like there is a voice in the back of my head that reminds me that sex is off limits until I'm in love no matter how trashed I am.
I know my time will come .. I'm just hoping it's not while I am starting to have back problems!

I'm answer this with the best possible answer: Do it when it truely feels right. When you are with the one.

 

[chicago]

So I'm wondering, when was your first time having sex?
It was the weekend after Thanksgiving. The dorms were empty and I was drunk. My boyfriend at the time was decent enough and I thought he was cute.

How old were you?
19

Do you regret it?
The guy turned out to be a real asshole, with a giant penis that felt like it was ripping me apart. But the first time isn't going to be magical. That shit fucking hurts and I was just glad to have gotten it over with.

Do you ever wish you had waited?
No. I think I waited long enough.

Wished it had been with someone else?
Not really. I was drunk, didn't know what I was doing and why would I want to have shitty virgin sex with someone I really like? Ha.

Or are you content with how it happened?
Honestly, there's too much emphasis put on the first time. You're all nervous that you're going to end up having sex with someone that leaves you heartbroken. Then you realize the next day, when you're still sore, "that's it?"

 

[venray]

I am still a virgin and I am so/so about it.
It's not that I am some slut looking for sex ... but sometimes it's hard to be a virgin when every single one of my friends have had sex or are about to have sex. I'm not saying my decision to have sex is going to happen just so I can get it over and done with -- that defeats my whole view of sex.
To me, sex is something I want to do when I am absolutely, head over heels, and madly in love with a guy. This could be before marriage or after. All depends, of course. There have been times, while in a drunken state, I could have had sex and I am SO SO SOOO glad I didn't. It's like there is a voice in the back of my head that reminds me that sex is off limits until I'm in love no matter how trashed I am.
I know my time will come .. I'm just hoping it's not while I am starting to have back problems!

QFTW!!

 

[Raystanz333]

I am in fact still a virgin. I will admit I would have preferred to have lost my virginity around the age of 18, but in my relationship at the time things weren't ready. Well "I" was ready, but she wasn't, and I wanted to make sure it was perfect for her.

Alas...well...things didn't work out. So someday I'll get around to experiencing such bliss. 😉 But I don't feel embarrassed about it. It makes me feel good to know I'm not a man overly driven by sex.

But yes...I'd totally have lost it a few years back if the opportunity arose.

*le sigh*

 

[LD_Tickler]

I had just turned 18, it was with my girlfriend of some months, in my first bachelor pad. It was awkward and lousy, but hey, you have to learn somehow, right? 😉

My only regret was that I had waited so long to give it a whirl. Sex gets better with practice; had I started earlier, I could have had more months of great sex with my girlfriend.

 

[The Fallen Angel]

I was 16 and it was with a girl i had been with since i was 12 ( kiddie relationship that actually turned into more). It was so/so but as everyone has said the first time usually isnt great, the experience was great but the sex not. I dont regret it i was with this girl close to 6 years until she died in a car accident our senior year in highschool

 

[Artoo]

I was 16 (as was she), and we were both pretty drunk at a party. I was a virgin, she was not. I was probably shit, but she talked me through what she liked, and I took it from there. It probably wasn't the worst sex I've ever had in my life, but it's somewhere in that region.

I don't regret what I did, or wish I had waited. Virginity is an interesting concept, that perhaps I don't hold as high an opinion of as some other people. To me, it's life experience, and I take it as it (or I) comes.

 

[Lord Doctor]

I've no interest in the subject (doesn't man I don't get the urge 😉 ) unless I've got very strong feelings for the woman.

Came close a few times at uni.

So I guess it was two, going three years ago.
Regret it? Hell yeah. The feelings weren't strong enough and I could see it becoming a relationship where the love was fake, based on associations with sex, rather than personality and true feeling. If that makes sense.

Don't anyone be pressured, don't let the booze talk you into it. If the feelings aren't right, it takes all the magic out of it.


I can't believe it took me a half hour to compose this reply!

 

[Ghris]

To me, it's life experience, and I take it as it (or I) comes.

This.

Still a virgin, had a few chances but they didn't happen for one reason or another.

When it happens, it happens. I don't go looking as such, but if it comes along, then I'll take it - though with sex (as opposed to other sexual acts) I want to be at the very least close to the person. Not a total stranger.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

When was your first time having sex? In the back of an '88 Ford Bronco, outside my parent's house.


How old were you? 17.


Do you regret it? No.


Do you ever wish you had waited? No. Fuck that pain.


Wished it had been with someone else? No. He was my first love.


Are you content with how it happened? Yes. It was a sweet memory.

 

[Snail Shell]

When was your first time having sex? On my bed in university. We were 22.


How old were you? 22.


Do you regret it? No.


Do you ever wish you had waited? No.


Wished it had been with someone else? No.


Are you content with how it happened? Yes.

That being said, I found the entire experience, and all like it afterwards to actually feel quite unpleasurable. Yes, she had a good time and I suppose I did as well, but the actual sensation does nothing for me. Afterwards, I described the sensation in my head as "feeling like she was rubbing my penis between two dead frogs". I've had sex with other women since and nothing's changed.

I'd much rather tickle a woman or do other BDSM activities. That's not to say I necessarily find those activities to be sexual. I just find the entire experience much more fulfilling and enjoyable.

Snail Shell

 

[BellaRisa]

When was your first time having sex?

May 19th 1992 at Yahootie Feldman's house (don't ask)

How old were you?

19 and a half

Do you regret it?

Not in the least

Do you ever wish you had waited?

Nope, it was the right time because I *did* wait 🙂

Wished it had been with someone else? Or are you content with how it happened?

Absolutely content. It was with the perfect person at the perfect time, he proposed 3 months later, and we're still very happily married 16 yrs later

 

[c7_assassin]

When was my first time having sex? Let's see, I was 20, and it was a one-night stand with someone I barely liked and wasn't attracted to at all.

Do I regret it? Nope, I was happy to get it over with.

Do I wish I had waited? Waited? I was 20 years old, that's quite enough waiting, thanks!

Do I wish it had been with someone else? Nah, things happen the way they happen. If it had been someone I was attracted to I might have fallen in love, and then I would've been in real trouble...

 

[starburstz91]

I was fourteen, and it was at DisneyLand on some marching band trip. It was in a hotel room. I had a crush on a senior, "supposively" he liked me back, except he had a grilfriend. So, basically, it caused this huge mess, but I found out that he just wanted to fuck me just to fuck me. I didn't really want to have sex, but I got caught up with my emotions of affection towards him, and did anyway.

I kind of regret it because it really affected me on how I feel about sex today. I feel that if I get into a relationship, the guy doesn't really love me the way I love him back. He might just be looking to get some ass, or something. That doesn't mean I judge all of my boyfriends; That thought is just always in my mind.

I don't really regret it, however, because it's my story of how I lost my virginity, and it's something to remember. Sure, I probably would have liked something a bit better, but oh well. I'm just happy I lost it, haha.

 

[steph]

Great question. As a little girl, my grandmama called me "boy crazy". as a teenager my father's pig (OOps, I mean wife) just referred to me as a "slut". I was still a virgin. I heard her tell my pop I'd be pregnant by 17. Just for spite and to piss her off, I didn't even CONSIDER sex until college. I was 18, a second semester freshman. Charlie was 25 and lived in our luxury complex. He had his own place. He also was a manager at the store I worked for. He was obsessed with my virginity. One night, I'd had a fight with the folks and took off running into the snowy night. I showed up at Charlie's door. I didn't love him but I liked him a lot and considered him a good friend. I knew that he respected my morals and my feistiness, knew he would keep his mouth shut (he had a girlfriend, i was single) and that he'd call the next morning. All my friends' firsts were awful experiences. One lost hers in the back of her VW Bug (ow), one caught VD, one got pregnant, one never heard from the guy again. I didn't want it to be like that. It wasn't. I didn't see stars or anything but it was as nice an experience as an unexperienced girl could ask for. And it played out exactly as I thought it would. We had sex a few more times before I left to go back to Cali. Didn't keep in touch after that and never lost a minute's sleep.
XOXO

 

[Musicroxmysox]

My first time was Freshman year of college, just after winter break.

I was 18.

I regret it, because the guy was an asshole. After the first time it became an obsession with him. He would go on and on every weekend how everyone are age was having sex if they were in a relationship. I was miserable the whole time I was with him, and felt like I comprised with myself.

I wish I had waited and not given it up to the first person who I thought I was in love with. Honestly having your virginity is no big deal.

It can't be taken back though, and the actual process really is nothing to exciting. What would have been nice, would have been to share it with someone who really meant something with me.

It may sound weird, but with each person you decide to have sex with each time will be different. In a sense you have virginity with that person. While I regret how I actually lost mine, I feel that in the future there will be better experiences.

 

[Mephistopheles]

So I'm wondering, when was your first time having sex?

It was during a weekend long course I did with about 140 other youngsters aged 12 to 18 at this conference hotel. I had a single bedroom. I met this girl outside on saturday evening at the smoker's spot. We had a little chat and I said, half joking, "well, I have a single bedroom" and she said it'd be lovely to go there.

When we were done I told her it was actually my first time. Then she asked me what my name was, turned out we didn't even properly introduce ourselves.

How old were you?

16

Do you regret it?

Never.

Do you ever wish you had waited?

No, quite the contrary.

Wished it had been with someone else?

Nope, it was a blast.


Or are you content with how it happened?

Yes, I had great casual sex with a complete stranger (up unto the point where she asked me my name at least) and during the months following this we had some more of that great casual sex with no strings attached.

 

[milagros317]

So I'm wondering, when was your first time having sex?
It was at a St. Patrick's Day drinking party in the dorm where I was then living, March 17, 1969.

How old were you?
It was exactly my 19th birthday.

Do you regret it?
Yes, I regret it now. I hardly knew the woman involved. We were both drunk and she decided to give me a birthday present.

At the time, I was just overjoyed not to be a virgin any more.

Do you ever wish you had waited?
I probably should have waited for somebody that I actually cared about.

Wished it had been with someone else?
Yes, but that would be a woman I didn't meet until two years later.


Or are you content with how it happened?
It's really not such a big deal. It only took about ten minutes and did neither of us any harm. I'm content that it made me no longer obsessed with doing it for the first time.

 

[rhiannon]

I was 21, it sucked, it hurt like hell, I just did it because I wanted to get it over with, and it should have been with someone else because the guy was a total asshole, but still: I never regret anything I do, because I never do anything without a reason! 🙂