This morning, my father continued to show just how completely incorrigiable, and self obsessed, he is.
A bit of background: My father has not spent my birthday with me in 22 years, since I was 18 years old. In that time, we have been estranged for many years. However, .during the years we were together, I spent four father's days, and his 60th birthday, with him, as well as celebrating his birthday with him in 2009.
This year, on my 40th, I specifically asked him to celebrate it with me in King of Prussia at the mall. Instead, he intentionally scheduled his cataract surgery, so that he would be unavailable. In the meantime, he made himself available to attend the Bar Mitzvah of a ""friend's" grandson, when the man who is his "friend" once told my mom that he doesn't give a fuck if my father and I were estranged for life, or if my father put my mom in the street.
Forum members are aware of my current situation. My mom and I have a meeting with the Dr on Monday, to find out the status and treatment of her cancer. In spite of not having spent my birthday with me in 22 years, and of knowing my situation, my father asked me on the phone this morning to spend "Father's Day" with him. Considering his treatment of me, I could have lost it with him, but instead, I decided to discuss my current situation. I said to him. "Dad, how the hell can I answer this? I'm waiting to find out how bad my mother's cancer is, and you're talking to me about "Fathers Day". I cannot, and will not, commit, until I meet with the Dr." In 2003, on Father's Day evening, I had to take my mom to the hospital in the middle of the night, and was sick with the flu myself. The next time he saw me after that, he berated me for not spending "Father's Day with him". This, even though, I had spent the three previous Father's Days with him, and had run to Atlantic City, and New York, to do so.
I'm fairly certain that if my father's precious wife was diagnosed with cancer, as my mom has been, that my father wouldn't like it if all I thought about was him spending my birthday with me, especially if I had not ever celebrated his occasions with him.
To be clear, my father expects this when he has not spent a birthday with me in twenty two years. Twenty two years! That's 60% of my life ago.
This is a man who really should never have had children. I know for a fact that he's thrilled that my mom is sick, because, although he hasn't said so, all he's thinking about is how he and his wench will be enriched, if my mom should pass away, as my mom's alimony check reverts back to him in the event of her passing.
It's unreal how much he hates my guts, and has no regard for me whatsoever.
Mitch
A bit of background: My father has not spent my birthday with me in 22 years, since I was 18 years old. In that time, we have been estranged for many years. However, .during the years we were together, I spent four father's days, and his 60th birthday, with him, as well as celebrating his birthday with him in 2009.
This year, on my 40th, I specifically asked him to celebrate it with me in King of Prussia at the mall. Instead, he intentionally scheduled his cataract surgery, so that he would be unavailable. In the meantime, he made himself available to attend the Bar Mitzvah of a ""friend's" grandson, when the man who is his "friend" once told my mom that he doesn't give a fuck if my father and I were estranged for life, or if my father put my mom in the street.
Forum members are aware of my current situation. My mom and I have a meeting with the Dr on Monday, to find out the status and treatment of her cancer. In spite of not having spent my birthday with me in 22 years, and of knowing my situation, my father asked me on the phone this morning to spend "Father's Day" with him. Considering his treatment of me, I could have lost it with him, but instead, I decided to discuss my current situation. I said to him. "Dad, how the hell can I answer this? I'm waiting to find out how bad my mother's cancer is, and you're talking to me about "Fathers Day". I cannot, and will not, commit, until I meet with the Dr." In 2003, on Father's Day evening, I had to take my mom to the hospital in the middle of the night, and was sick with the flu myself. The next time he saw me after that, he berated me for not spending "Father's Day with him". This, even though, I had spent the three previous Father's Days with him, and had run to Atlantic City, and New York, to do so.
I'm fairly certain that if my father's precious wife was diagnosed with cancer, as my mom has been, that my father wouldn't like it if all I thought about was him spending my birthday with me, especially if I had not ever celebrated his occasions with him.
To be clear, my father expects this when he has not spent a birthday with me in twenty two years. Twenty two years! That's 60% of my life ago.
This is a man who really should never have had children. I know for a fact that he's thrilled that my mom is sick, because, although he hasn't said so, all he's thinking about is how he and his wench will be enriched, if my mom should pass away, as my mom's alimony check reverts back to him in the event of her passing.
It's unreal how much he hates my guts, and has no regard for me whatsoever.
Mitch
