I could not fit the title.
I'm going to post this here. Hopefully it will not cause a stir.
First, I want to make 100% clear that what I'm about to post.. is not about my father.
Someone in my family.
Is so full of themselves, that they are constantly shooting their mouth off about how they feel I should live my life.
I'm very, very close to telling this person to go to hell, forever.
Except for a promise to my dearly departed mother not to do so.
Forum members who have read my posts, are aware of just how sick I was during much of 2018.
My seizures, etc.
As I've also posted before, I've been told by more than one Dr, that any seizure could kill me, or do permanent damage at any time.
I think I posted how my neurologist suggested I find volunteer work ASAP. He thinks that doing so, will cause me to calm down, and feel more positive about myself, that I will then become more comfortable when I do interview for a paid job.
While I don't personally agree. (I still want to apply and interview for paid jobs) I want to follow my Dr's advice, so thus, I've been embarking on sending out replies/letters/e-malls for volunteer jobs only.
This.. genius.. member of my family.. completely brushes off my concerns about my career, and my future.
This person's RX. is.
"For me to start dating, and to find a partner"
For as.. selfish and obsessed with tickling.. women's feet, and ladders.. as people on here think I am.
I know that said person's "advice". (More so trying to dictate to me how to live my life, because this person thinks they are so "perfect". )
Is absolutely the wrong decision for myself, and any hypothetical partner I might have.
A hypothetical woman would be getting involved with.
A man who has a serious medical condition, which has recently been very active, and which could give me long term illness, disability, kill me at any time.
A man who does not have a career, position, or much financial flexibility \warewithal to date a woman.
A man who is feeling terrible, physically, and emotionally.
If I was looking for.,. a quick setup, quick sex, a quick tickle fix, or quick foot action from a woman.
I would consider such "suggestion" from this "maven".
As it is, I know that doing such, would not be right, either for myself, or for any woman, who would deserve far more from me than those things.
I don't think that my meeting a woman, when I'm not emotionally or physically capable of being in a relationship, would "help me find a job, either volunteer or paid".
All it would do.
Would be to make me concerned that I was not living up to the standard of how a boyfriend should behave.
Concern me about not being able to fulfill that person's emotional, physical or sexual needs.
Concern me about not being able to experience enjoyment, or fulfillment myself, due to my health and work situation.
This person who gave me their "opinion", as they love to call it.
When I express that I'm concerned about my physical health, and about possibly being seriously physically ill, permanently disabled, or passing away, as Dr's have told me I could.
This genius says.
"Oh you're too young, that is not going to happen".
When I express concern about my career, this person says.
"Oh, you'll find something".
(This person by the way, had the exact career of their choice for many years. So by brushing off my career concerns, they are a complete hypocrite. ).
When I say to this person.
"Due to my medical condition, I'm very concerned that something serious is going to happen to me"
This person says.
"Oh, you can't say that to me"
As long as they can "Say" anything they want to me.
As I'm writing this.
I realize that a long term, permanent estrangement is probably needed from this person.
As for my own situation.
I'm going to finish all of my current Dr appts, attempt to secure the volunteer position suggested by my neurologist, and go from there.
I completely misjudged the intent/personality of this person, and thought my situation/concerns/needs , were/are far more important to them then they actually are.
This person merely enjoys to judge me, and act holier than now, to avoid looking at their own extreme character flaws.
I'll stop here.
Writing this, has helped me.. realize what needs to be done, painful as it may be.
I'm going to post this here. Hopefully it will not cause a stir.
First, I want to make 100% clear that what I'm about to post.. is not about my father.
Someone in my family.
Is so full of themselves, that they are constantly shooting their mouth off about how they feel I should live my life.
I'm very, very close to telling this person to go to hell, forever.
Except for a promise to my dearly departed mother not to do so.
Forum members who have read my posts, are aware of just how sick I was during much of 2018.
My seizures, etc.
As I've also posted before, I've been told by more than one Dr, that any seizure could kill me, or do permanent damage at any time.
I think I posted how my neurologist suggested I find volunteer work ASAP. He thinks that doing so, will cause me to calm down, and feel more positive about myself, that I will then become more comfortable when I do interview for a paid job.
While I don't personally agree. (I still want to apply and interview for paid jobs) I want to follow my Dr's advice, so thus, I've been embarking on sending out replies/letters/e-malls for volunteer jobs only.
This.. genius.. member of my family.. completely brushes off my concerns about my career, and my future.
This person's RX. is.
"For me to start dating, and to find a partner"
For as.. selfish and obsessed with tickling.. women's feet, and ladders.. as people on here think I am.
I know that said person's "advice". (More so trying to dictate to me how to live my life, because this person thinks they are so "perfect". )
Is absolutely the wrong decision for myself, and any hypothetical partner I might have.
A hypothetical woman would be getting involved with.
A man who has a serious medical condition, which has recently been very active, and which could give me long term illness, disability, kill me at any time.
A man who does not have a career, position, or much financial flexibility \warewithal to date a woman.
A man who is feeling terrible, physically, and emotionally.
If I was looking for.,. a quick setup, quick sex, a quick tickle fix, or quick foot action from a woman.
I would consider such "suggestion" from this "maven".
As it is, I know that doing such, would not be right, either for myself, or for any woman, who would deserve far more from me than those things.
I don't think that my meeting a woman, when I'm not emotionally or physically capable of being in a relationship, would "help me find a job, either volunteer or paid".
All it would do.
Would be to make me concerned that I was not living up to the standard of how a boyfriend should behave.
Concern me about not being able to fulfill that person's emotional, physical or sexual needs.
Concern me about not being able to experience enjoyment, or fulfillment myself, due to my health and work situation.
This person who gave me their "opinion", as they love to call it.
When I express that I'm concerned about my physical health, and about possibly being seriously physically ill, permanently disabled, or passing away, as Dr's have told me I could.
This genius says.
"Oh you're too young, that is not going to happen".
When I express concern about my career, this person says.
"Oh, you'll find something".
(This person by the way, had the exact career of their choice for many years. So by brushing off my career concerns, they are a complete hypocrite. ).
When I say to this person.
"Due to my medical condition, I'm very concerned that something serious is going to happen to me"
This person says.
"Oh, you can't say that to me"
As long as they can "Say" anything they want to me.
As I'm writing this.
I realize that a long term, permanent estrangement is probably needed from this person.
As for my own situation.
I'm going to finish all of my current Dr appts, attempt to secure the volunteer position suggested by my neurologist, and go from there.
I completely misjudged the intent/personality of this person, and thought my situation/concerns/needs , were/are far more important to them then they actually are.
This person merely enjoys to judge me, and act holier than now, to avoid looking at their own extreme character flaws.
I'll stop here.
Writing this, has helped me.. realize what needs to be done, painful as it may be.
