Why is a person averse to speaking via voice across the internet (not your telephone) but willing to make a personal appearance in a meeting with a group ?
I'm talking about a group meeting in the real physical world; in this case, the famous "gatherings" of sorts.
The person is willing to do that, but is *NOT* willing to speak with anyone using a microphone and headset across the internet.
Obviously, something doesn't add up.
My suspicion is that they are banking on a group's willingness to extend a courtesy to them; a courtesy which they are certain would never exist in direct personal communication with the typical individual in our society.
e.g., they are convinced that their physical appearance is so unattractive that they would be rejected in an environment like internet communication; where the other party can just "need to go now" and disconnect the conversation. Not only would they *JUST* be rejected, but rejected rapidly, which would even further increase their pain of rejection.
By witholding their physical appearance and speaking voice from others, they are hoping that the group will extend to them the courtesy of allowing their presence for social interaction (the one thing in their life they crave; most probably due to a severe lack).
If they can get into a "gathering", they believe that they can sit in the same room with others and listen to them talk, with the (statistically impossible) hope that perhaps someone might be attracted to them; but this could only happen if, and only if, the other person had never seen them before AND never heard them speak. They have this idea in their head (quite possibly from movies and TV) that there will be some sort of inexplicable "magic in the air" which will allow them to be attractive to someone else, for just one evening. You can read about it in the story of Cinderella or Snow White or The Frog Prince, or whatever.
Of course, nothing will ever happen that way in real life, and really, everybody already knows it. So, why are they spending their time in this way ? Again, that will be left for the reader to ponder.
Anyway, what I've observed is that the willingness to even admit that one has a microphone on their computer is something that really focuses a lot of questions in my mind. My personal observation has been that these questions have frequently garnered some intense responses from those who attempt to defend them, but no realistic explanation that has ever satisfied me as to sensibility or logic. The most common response is obfuscation; i.e., endless babbling about the advantages of gatherings (which I do not refute in the least) while totally ignoring any attempt to provide any sort of sensible clear answer to this question...
Why are you unwilling to speak with someone before meeting with them in person ?
I'm talking about a group meeting in the real physical world; in this case, the famous "gatherings" of sorts.
The person is willing to do that, but is *NOT* willing to speak with anyone using a microphone and headset across the internet.
Obviously, something doesn't add up.
My suspicion is that they are banking on a group's willingness to extend a courtesy to them; a courtesy which they are certain would never exist in direct personal communication with the typical individual in our society.
e.g., they are convinced that their physical appearance is so unattractive that they would be rejected in an environment like internet communication; where the other party can just "need to go now" and disconnect the conversation. Not only would they *JUST* be rejected, but rejected rapidly, which would even further increase their pain of rejection.
By witholding their physical appearance and speaking voice from others, they are hoping that the group will extend to them the courtesy of allowing their presence for social interaction (the one thing in their life they crave; most probably due to a severe lack).
If they can get into a "gathering", they believe that they can sit in the same room with others and listen to them talk, with the (statistically impossible) hope that perhaps someone might be attracted to them; but this could only happen if, and only if, the other person had never seen them before AND never heard them speak. They have this idea in their head (quite possibly from movies and TV) that there will be some sort of inexplicable "magic in the air" which will allow them to be attractive to someone else, for just one evening. You can read about it in the story of Cinderella or Snow White or The Frog Prince, or whatever.
Of course, nothing will ever happen that way in real life, and really, everybody already knows it. So, why are they spending their time in this way ? Again, that will be left for the reader to ponder.
Anyway, what I've observed is that the willingness to even admit that one has a microphone on their computer is something that really focuses a lot of questions in my mind. My personal observation has been that these questions have frequently garnered some intense responses from those who attempt to defend them, but no realistic explanation that has ever satisfied me as to sensibility or logic. The most common response is obfuscation; i.e., endless babbling about the advantages of gatherings (which I do not refute in the least) while totally ignoring any attempt to provide any sort of sensible clear answer to this question...
Why are you unwilling to speak with someone before meeting with them in person ?
