My current apartment is the seventh place I've lived in my life. I was born in NY City, lived there for three years, moved to Ft Lee, NJ for another four years, back to NY for two years, to my house in CT for ten years, before moving back to Fort Lee NJ with my mom, to be near my grandmother after my parents split in 1989, and then moved here in 1999.
I feel very comfortable in my current apartment. I've lived here for eleven years, and I enjoy it. I absolutely loved my house in CT, but had to move from there when my parents split. I feel more comfortable in my current apartment, then I have in any place I've lived since my parents split
I hope my mom survives, but, if heaven forbid she passes, these are my options: I dont "Have" to move from my apartment. I can afford to live here. The problem is that I dont have many friends in Lancaster. People are unfriendly here, and, my best friend of 28 years, who lives 6 miles from me, works every night, including weekends. I would thus be spending a lot of time alone either in my apartment, or just roaming around alone at night to bars, movies, etc. If she passes, my mom feels I should return to the NY area where I lived. In the NY area, I have my father, for the limited relationship I have with him. I have my two aunts who live in NJ, and my cousin who lives in Washington Heights, plus a close friend from college who lives in Queens. I also have contacts from my father, to set me up with a business or job.
I've loved two homes in my life. My house in Connecticut, and the one I live in now. I lost one due to my parents divorce, and would be forced to move from another if heaven forbid my mom passes away. I'm not sure I'm remaining here anyway, even if mom beats it, please God, because, she wants to move back to NY, to be near our family. If God is good to her, and to us, and she beats it, I'll go anywhere she wants to, in celebration that she fought off and beat the horrible challenge facing her.
So, my question is: Is "Home" where you feel settled, and comfortable, a dwelling place, or, does "Home" not necessarially have to be a dwelling place, but is it more of an area, or surrounding of people, who are meaningful in your life? I would be interested to hear thoughts on this. Thanks.
Mitch
I feel very comfortable in my current apartment. I've lived here for eleven years, and I enjoy it. I absolutely loved my house in CT, but had to move from there when my parents split. I feel more comfortable in my current apartment, then I have in any place I've lived since my parents split
I hope my mom survives, but, if heaven forbid she passes, these are my options: I dont "Have" to move from my apartment. I can afford to live here. The problem is that I dont have many friends in Lancaster. People are unfriendly here, and, my best friend of 28 years, who lives 6 miles from me, works every night, including weekends. I would thus be spending a lot of time alone either in my apartment, or just roaming around alone at night to bars, movies, etc. If she passes, my mom feels I should return to the NY area where I lived. In the NY area, I have my father, for the limited relationship I have with him. I have my two aunts who live in NJ, and my cousin who lives in Washington Heights, plus a close friend from college who lives in Queens. I also have contacts from my father, to set me up with a business or job.
I've loved two homes in my life. My house in Connecticut, and the one I live in now. I lost one due to my parents divorce, and would be forced to move from another if heaven forbid my mom passes away. I'm not sure I'm remaining here anyway, even if mom beats it, please God, because, she wants to move back to NY, to be near our family. If God is good to her, and to us, and she beats it, I'll go anywhere she wants to, in celebration that she fought off and beat the horrible challenge facing her.
So, my question is: Is "Home" where you feel settled, and comfortable, a dwelling place, or, does "Home" not necessarially have to be a dwelling place, but is it more of an area, or surrounding of people, who are meaningful in your life? I would be interested to hear thoughts on this. Thanks.
Mitch
