For the past few days, as I've been cleaning my mom's room, my dad, and my mom's two sisters, keep ripping her.
Earlier today, during seperate phone calls, they all ripped her. My mom's youngest sister told me of a time I didnt know of in the 60s, where my mom charged up thousands of dollars, putting my grandfather's ass in a noose. He paid it, but was ready to toss her out of the house.
My other aunt keeps ripping my mom for being a sick shopaholic.
Then, there's my dad. Yes, he paid her bills for 20 plus years, and I know there were times that she spent too much, but as I posted previously, it pailed in comparison to what he did.
He tried to pit me against her, saying things like "You're such a good person, you were too good to her, you went over and above".
All I know is.. she kept food on my table, and a roof over my head, gave me money when I needed it, and had my friends here when she had cancer.
My problem is.. except for my occasional foray to the casino or track, I'm a man of moderation. I dont drink, smoke, take any drugs, I buy books, occasionally. My clothes wardrobe consists of a lot of shirts and a few pairs of pants.
I know what my mom was.. I dont paint her as a saint. I also know that she loved me more than life itself, and except for one time, her spending never put me in a noose, or kept me from having food, or anything else.
I also wish they would all stop ripping my mom. She's dead. Mothers Day is coming up in five plus days, and shes not here for me to spend it with her.
I dont deny that cleaning my mom's room is tedious. I've been doing it for days, and I'm not done. That being said, I think of all the times she drove me to school, stayed up with me when I was sick, gave or loaned me money, defended me when my dad was abusing me, had my friends in her home, treated me to dinners, treated my friends nicely.
She was human, and had her hangups, but so do I. I feel its time to let her rest in peace, and not to keep ripping her. She cant hurt anyone with her spending anymore, unless there are money and stores in Heaven, and she met someone else up there whose money she is spending. Doubtful.
Mitch
Earlier today, during seperate phone calls, they all ripped her. My mom's youngest sister told me of a time I didnt know of in the 60s, where my mom charged up thousands of dollars, putting my grandfather's ass in a noose. He paid it, but was ready to toss her out of the house.
My other aunt keeps ripping my mom for being a sick shopaholic.
Then, there's my dad. Yes, he paid her bills for 20 plus years, and I know there were times that she spent too much, but as I posted previously, it pailed in comparison to what he did.
He tried to pit me against her, saying things like "You're such a good person, you were too good to her, you went over and above".
All I know is.. she kept food on my table, and a roof over my head, gave me money when I needed it, and had my friends here when she had cancer.
My problem is.. except for my occasional foray to the casino or track, I'm a man of moderation. I dont drink, smoke, take any drugs, I buy books, occasionally. My clothes wardrobe consists of a lot of shirts and a few pairs of pants.
I know what my mom was.. I dont paint her as a saint. I also know that she loved me more than life itself, and except for one time, her spending never put me in a noose, or kept me from having food, or anything else.
I also wish they would all stop ripping my mom. She's dead. Mothers Day is coming up in five plus days, and shes not here for me to spend it with her.
I dont deny that cleaning my mom's room is tedious. I've been doing it for days, and I'm not done. That being said, I think of all the times she drove me to school, stayed up with me when I was sick, gave or loaned me money, defended me when my dad was abusing me, had my friends in her home, treated me to dinners, treated my friends nicely.
She was human, and had her hangups, but so do I. I feel its time to let her rest in peace, and not to keep ripping her. She cant hurt anyone with her spending anymore, unless there are money and stores in Heaven, and she met someone else up there whose money she is spending. Doubtful.
Mitch
