Settling One Problem.. While Confronting Another

Well, after my vent about my father two days ago, he called me tonight in a concilatory mood. The issue with the art sale seems unresolvable, but he also told me that we are going to discuss everything, and not to worry. I'm supposed to see him Friday evening, and I know I'm going to have to keep my cool.

My two aunts basically broke my heart tonight by telling me that they cant discuss my mom anymore, and that the subject of talking about her is too painful for them. While I understand and want to respect their feelings, I have a problem not discussing her, because she meant so much to me, and not talking about her, seems almost like I'm forgetting her. My mom always discussed my grandparents after my grandparents passed away. My aunts told me that they are much more upset about my mom';s death than they were about my grandparents. Although I didnt say this to them, part of me wonders if its because my mom's passing makes my aunts consider their own mortality.

While I'm hoping to be able to work through my issues with my father, I know that I cant discuss my feelings about my mom with him, because of the negative feelings he has about her. All I usually say is "I miss her" while getting weepy eyed while doing so.

I'm hopeful my visit with him on Friday will be quiet. I've had a rather rocky week.