You don't look like a loser man.Hell,i never hear from 99.9% of the people on my friends list.I really prefer a pm,email or phone call as a way of staying in touch.
Nah, I prefer letting everyone know who I am upfront. Don't get me wrong, because I love clever screen names. It's just not for me. That and I'd want to change it 100 times once I thought of something better. The mods would get annoyed.