disgusting? wrong? what do i do?

[pineapple]

Hi Everybody!

I wrote here some days ago while i was still 17, but now i’ve turned 18. Just wanted to let you know so that the moderators don’t delete my thread again.

I don’t really know why I write in here. I guess I just want someone else’s view or comment. I have been into tickling for a long time, but I have never been tickled or tickled anyone for sexual reasons. I often watch videos of people being tickled on the internet and it really turns me on. When im watching them I really enjoy it, but the moment im done watching I just feel disgusted by myself and that something is wrong with me.

I would actually quite like to be tickled by someone who knew I was into it, but how can I ask? Or should I leave it?
It is not an option for me to tell people that I know that I have a tickle fetish. And i do not have a boyfriend at the moment!

I hope someone have some nice things to say to me, cause im getting a little bit frustrated about my self

pineapple

ah and by the way im a girl

 

[Myriads]

Hello Pineapple,

Welcome to the forum. And thank you for waiting until you were 18 to post again. It was appreciated.

Feelings of disgust and that one is 'wrong' for liking a specific sexual thing are not uncommon at all. People are conditioned over their lives to think that some activities are 'right' and that others are not. You are feeling the effects of such conditioning.

You enjoy a video, then are faced with the feeling that because it's a different sort of thing that turns you on, then what you were taught is 'right' that something must be wrong with you. So you feel badly.

The thing to remember is that almost everyone has some aspects of their sexuality that are unique and different then the mainstream tastes that we are all taught. It won't be tickling for everyone, but odds are your girlfriends each have their own little secret likes they are as embarrassed by as you would be in sharing your like of tickling. Some might like the idea of being tied up, others of being choked, perhaps one is turned on by being humiliated. You never know. And it doesn't matter.

What matters is that you enjoy your likes, in the ways you want comfortably. And that you can get past what you think you should be like, and can deal with who you are.

As for having an experience with tickling, my advice is to wait and have it with someone that you care about, just as you would any other from of activity that you see as sexual. When the time is right, and the right person is there, the experience will follow and be good. There is no rush.

I hope you enjoy the forum
Myriads

 

[luv2tikl]

Joining this forum or others like it is definitely a step in the right direction. You will meet like minded people who share your interest - for some it's sexual, and for others it's just fun - but we're all here because we enjoy tickling in one way or another.

There's no reason to feel disgusted by it. Like I said, there are plenty of people here (myself included) who derive sexual pleasure from tickling, whether it be watching it, doing it, receiving it, or any combination therein. While it does seem to be an unusual kink, there is nothing wrong with being a little different - that's exactly why there are communities such as this full of like minded people!

And if you're serious about finding a tickle partner, then by all means do! I say take Myriads' advice, though, and don't rush it and do it with someone you care about... But anyway, there's nothing wrong with that, either, and it's not unusual for that kind of thing to happen through this forum and others. I won't say it's extremely common in all cases, but it can and does happen! Best of luck!

 

[Mandrake]

Hey Pineapple. Glad to see you among us. I remember your post, and tried to reply to it before it got deleted. I sent you a pm of what I tried to post, but I thought I'd make it public:

Don't torture yourself. Think of it as a blessing. You found something that you enjoy that isn't self destructive that isn't hurting anyone. Find someone to share it with. There are plenty of guys out there who would love to share it with you. You don't have to feel bad about it. Just don't spend too much time indulging yourself in this new found joy that you neglect other parts of your life.


And here's something new to add:

A good way to get someone to tickle you? Tickle them. Just start it off innocently. Give them a little poke. Here and there. If they tell you to cut it out and get annoyed ... well they're not into it. But if they tickle back? Guess what, you found a tickle partner. If you tickle a guy who is attracted to you he will tickle you back. I can pretty much guarantee it. Especially if you are wearing the right outfits. For example, I'm into nylon tickling. Not everyone is though. But a good idea maybe is to wear sheer socks so that if the guy is into nylons he can tickle your feet through them, or if he's into bare tickling he can take them off to tickle your bare feet. Also, let the guy take your shoes off prior to tickling as this is also often part of the appeal ... if you can bear the anticipation .

Also, I want to re-iterate Myriad's advice. Always do it with it someone you know and trust first. As innocent as tickling is, it is still very inappropriate to touch someone you don't know very well or are not on friendly terms with yet. It can break the tension on a date though sometimes, just know to stop if the person you're with is clearly not into it.

 

[Cavum]

As I saw in the international thread, your norwegian as well. If you want to talk with someone about this issue then feel free to send me a PM at the forum. It's pretty commun to feel like there is something wrong with you when you like stuff thats not "typical". And at your age as well some friends can have a problem accepting the fact that you like "weird" things. But don't be afraid. Having a fetish and liking a not commun thing is normal. In pretty involved in the BDSM/fetish scene in Norway and you have no idea how many we are hehe! No matter where I am, I meet people who are into that stuff. Bump into them everywhere. One time me and my girlfriend was at IKEA, we bumped into 3 BDSM couples we knew, so yeah...we are friggin everywhere. haha. I don't know where in Norway your from, but if your interested feel free to contact. There are many parties and such where you can meet, talk and get to know people who accept you 100%.


Det er ikke noe å være frustrert over
Det er ikke noe galt med deg.

 

[RUNOFFSTAGE]

Det er ikke noe å være frustrert over
Det er ikke noe galt med deg.

Word.

I know exactly what you're talking about though. Having a place where you can discuss it and discover more about your fetish an yourself helps so much, the people here don't judge you for anything like that
I hope you'll discover the magic of this place too!

As far as the tickling videos go, it's no weirder than getting turned on by watching "vanilla" porn. We all have certain things that turn us on and frankly, most guys think it's cute anyway

 

[pineapple]

Hi guys. thank you for answering. it's actually really nice to see that someone think it's ok and not weird. hehe

 

[Mandrake]

Hi guys. thank you for answering. it's actually really nice to see that someone think it's ok and not weird. hehe

Well, what do you expect from a tickling forum LOL .

Just curious what are some of your favorite videos?

 

[SilverHealer84]

Oh hell no, girl! Don't feel that way! I too used to feel disgusting when I'd get really turned on by fantasizing about tickling, but when I found this forum, I learned that it's normal and that there's nothing bad about being turned on by it at all This forum is simply awesome, and really quite helpful

I hope you find a tickling partner soon!

 

[milagros317]

Tickling is fun and harmless. It's not disgusting to be turned on by it. It's far more common that you think. Go ahead and be yourself.

 

[Musicroxmysox]

Give yourself time to get comfortable. Your young, your new to this, of course it feels weird at first.

Make some friends, chat some, you'll feel better about it soon enough.

 

[taz_tickler]

Hi pineapple..I can't say anymore than what has already been said but its all good advice. Welcome to the forum - you're in good company here.

 

[LD_Tickler]

It's a little weird, but yeah, nearly everyone I know has some little kink or another. It's definitely not disgusting, and you definitely have nothing to worry about. No need to go off telling all your friends, but if you find yourself getting pretty involved sexually with a guy, I know he won't have a problem tickling you. Think about it. Guys are often pretty desperate to make sure the lady types are satisfied.

Hell, I'm a guy who wants to inflict the tickle torture and I've got nothing but positive reactions whenever I told girls what I wanted to do to them.

 

[Evil Dave]

I don't have a huge amount to add since a whole bunch of other people got here first but I agree that everyone feels a bit weird about it at first, I certainly did. The thing is, there are thousands of members on this site who feel the same as you about tickling (whether giving, receiving or both) so you're far from alone.

Welcome on-board.

 

[c7_assassin]

Welcome! Have fun here!

No need to feel guilty about what you like.

 

[Angel77]

Not much to add either because everyone has pretty much said it all but welcome! You'll find a lot of really great people here who happen to love tickling just like you

 

[pineapple]

thank you so much all of you. It really helps to read all of this

 

[marmite]

Oh hell no, girl! Don't feel that way! I too used to feel disgusting when I'd get really turned on by fantasizing about tickling, but when I found this forum, I learned that it's normal and that there's nothing bad about being turned on by it at all This forum is simply awesome, and really quite helpful

I hope you find a tickling partner soon!

Nice one, I love what you have said, tickling is cool and not wierd or discusting in any way! This forum is a great place to be!!!!!

 

[jamie jugs]

To heck with folks that make you feel bad about your fetish, pineapple...there is nothing weird about getting turned on by tickling. Heck, if there were then all several thousand members of this site would be weirdos right along with ya', lol!! If you don't mind my asking, what specifically about tickling is it that turns you on? For me, it started with a raging foot fetish (since as long back as i can remember, actually) and kind of grew from there. Guess i'm weird too, LOL!!

Anyway, great to have ya... jugs

 

[Radiohead 7140]

i still feel a bit weird after i uh, finish, watching a clip. but i really don't care anymore, this forum has made me feel so normal about it i tend to leave the site up even when people are over. i don't even remember anymore that its something i'm supposed to be "ashamed of" and keep secret.

by the way, assassin whats with your sig chance.....really *sketchy* pic dude

 

[texastickler]

I came here a year and a half ago but only started posting a little over a week ago. I have had a tickling fetish all of my life. I always thought I was abnormal and strange. It took me a long time to post here but I will tell you I am glad I did. This is a great place with great people. We all have something in common and can enjoy conversation together. We are very glad you are here. Welcome and enjoy yourself.

 

[Artoo]

In terms of feeling guilty about the fetish aspect of it, the knowledge that you're not alone in getting off on this stuff can be quite comforting (though I don't know that I want to be thinking about hordes of tickle-fetishists during my happy-time, lol)

Some people feel guilty post orgasm anyway, regardless of what it is that gets them off. It stems from hormone depletion and the fact that society brings us up with a negative attitude towards sex/masturbation.

 

[MeleeDuck_9]

I was 14 when I found and (joined) . Back then I was dumbfounded there were other people like me. I thought I had some sort of mental defect up until then. I'm 19 now though and still incredibly secretive about my fetish. Haven't tickled or been tickled, but I'm a a pretty introverted person. I'm sure you'll have an easier time,especially since your a girl.

Speaking of which, did I mention I was 19

seriously though, welcome here.

 

[steve_uk]

but the moment im done watching I just feel disgusted by myself and that something is wrong with me.

There is nothing discusting and wrong with it, expecially not on here its one thing we all got in common on here.

The thing with tickling is as a fetish not a lot of people are aware it exists as a fetish and there are not many people into it. Watching people being tickled is a turn on for me too along with being part of it, but dont ever think your wrong for liking this.

Plus id love to tickle you or let you tickle me lol

 

[TickleSwitch24]

When im watching them I really enjoy it, but the moment im done watching I just feel disgusted by myself and that something is wrong with me.

I know how you feel on that one. My gf knows about it, but isn't necessarily interested. I keep it to myself, and she gives me my privacy (she knows I use the TMF). It works out fine, and sometimes she even gives me an unexpected treat!

What you should do about it depends on your level of discomfort. If it interfers with your overall quality of life, it wouldn't be a bad idea to try a couple sessions with a counselor. (I go to a psychologist, not for that, but for other reasons that are not related to major psychotherapy) If it doesn't, than just try to remind yourself of two things. 1) I assume you're not into anything that is seen as morally upsetting, like peeing on people or eating crap. Celebrate that. Tickling is pretty normal, and most people find it cute, and many consider it to be flirting anyway. You may like it more than most people, but you could like something a LOT worse than tickling. 2) Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you can have, because it's the one all other relationships are based off from. If you are comfortable with tickling in your own mind, chances are your partner will be fine with it too. I have had only one that was really weirded out by it, and as it turns out, she was a salty bitch anyway.