Very generally speaking, if a core facet of your sexuality is at odds with your partner, you have to make the decision about which is more important to you. People don't change; they can't wear a mask forever, either.
My wife hates it.
She will sometimes let me indulge a little playful tickling during/after sex but never like a tie her down and tickle her just to tickle her or her do the same to me.
I mostly just live without. Satisfy it through porn and risqué conversations with like minded friends.
Is it healthy… probs not . Is the “talking about it with like minded friends” cross a moral/ethical line in terms of being married? Probs.
But it’s what I do to get by and I’ve rationalized it out in my mind. ::shrugs:: is what it is